UnbornTao

Gorgeous landscape.

It may well already be the case - happiness being independent of all that. We simply tend to attribute our happiness to the circumstances that seem to elicit it. But again: are agreeable feelings that arise the same as happiness? And if not, what exactly are we talking about? Most likely anything consistent with one's self-agenda. Perhaps happiness is even independent of the self, in a strange way. Fantasy is overrated; changing one's mindset and disposition is underrated.

Where did that come from?

Isn't that the whole point - that happiness is independent of circumstances?

I know, I just made a distinction. Improving the way one breathes can be done regardless of diet. I simply suggested focusing on the former in this context, since breath plays a central role in breath-arianism. But isn't eating the antithesis of the practice? What do you mean by being more spiritual? Anyhow, I find the feasibility of such a lifestyle highly dubious. To me, it is nonsensical and fantasy-based. Occasional and controlled water fasting seems like a better option, in my view. Still, thanks for sharing it.

She totally went Ramana on you! --- Sorry, lame joke. Is that even how the expression is used?

You are, so attempt to apprehend the very one that you are now. This is, fundamentally, the only instruction - in this context. Other than that, we really don't know - and can't know - as any attempt by the mind to comprehend this matter will inevitably lead to misunderstanding. But, perhaps paradoxically, we can grasp the truth. In your example, it would be an encounter with what is there for itself that's being perceived or distinguished as the distinction of wall. Perhaps there is no wall at all… We say that something is there, though - or so it seems. At this point, you'd begin dwelling on what an object is. We like to "wait around," thinking it requires a long time but it doesn't have to. Being open and genuinely wanting to know are the main ingredients. Intend to get it now, and intend again, until you do. In any case, being happy is accesible now, even if our true nature is unknown.

Shave your head? I don't know. Ohh that's awesome. That's more than a little change, though

Happy with our work, not if we work. It wasn't a conditional statement. As for making a dent in happiness, we'd really have to understand what it is. It might not be what we think. It seems that when you stop doing dysfunctional things with your mind, happiness comes more easily as a natural result or condition. I think that's the point being made in the video. Then again, happiness isn't our goal and never was; the promotion and survival of our selves is. We often unconsciously resist certain aspects of our experience. Embracing one's current experience, whatever it is, goes a long way toward being happy in life. It changes our relationship to it. Even when it is painful and unwanted, it is allowed to be what it is, which facilitates understanding. This can dissipate much of our resistance and suffering.

Love it.

Fasting is a good one, as is breaking an addiction - even if only for a short time. Use your phone less. Cut down on sugar. Meditate longer than you'd like or are used to. Cook a dish you've never tried. Any small step we take to stop running from pain or fear can serve as good practice.

@MellowEd When you get rigorous with yourself, what exactly did you go through? It sounds to me like you're more confused than usual. Did you take any substances? The mind has a powerful ability to interpret events and circumstances in ways that generate entirely fabricated worlds, that we then proceed to live in. You need to be a bit more grounded and less airy-fairy. Make a clear distinction between a fabricated, subjective state and what we might call a factual or objective experience - an actual sensory encounter, like seeing an apple, not an "encounter" with extraterrestrial beings or the like. If you don't mind answering, what are you actually up to? What do you hope to gain or accomplish with these practices? And what do they have to do with what's true? You might want to start by dissecting what it is you mean by you and yourself - what is that experience about? Who are you for real, not according to hearsay, preference, belief, or BS?

Sounds like wishful thinking and fantasy-based. What's its purpose? And why do the followers take it up? Learning to breathe properly is invigorating, and it doesn't require any extreme lifestyle changes. I bet all of us can improve the way we breathe. Usually, we resist it, even if only subtly, or we do it too quickly and superficially. It would be better to contemplate, maintain a healthy diet, and drink plenty of water. So, I'm making a distinction between lifestyle and the truth.

You can also just go for an experience of real being now. Why wait until one's self has been stripped? I suspect in practice those aren't mutually exclusive: to perceive Being, the self must be seen for what it is. Bless them. Sure. We can pursue it, and at the same time, direct consciousness is always sudden. There really isn't a path, but often, prior to this kind of realization, there's a process of dwelling on a question, investigating, discussing, and perhaps studying pertinent material - which might help put you in a good state, even though awakening isn't a result or effect. Like waking up from a dream.

That is a sloppy statement.

Perhaps. But consider that the now is an absolute and might even be the source of time, prior to "before and next", or the context for them. That is, we have yet to become conscious of the Now - it's likely being heard as the way we experience "the present moment", which is fine. At the same time, they aren't quite the same thing. I can't really tell because I'm not conscious of that now.

Do we actually grasp the significance of that, though? That's the key question. Intellectually, we can understand it. It's relatively straightforward if one understands English. But what does our experience say in the matter? It's a fascinating contemplation. For example, we likely keep holding the present as a moment in time, and don't quite perceive the Now. Anything we point to - whether it happened years ago or a millisecond ago - seems to be process-based, which isn't the same as an experience of now. Now it's an absolute, and naming things is one of the functions of language, so things can be named; another thing is whether that is an accurate representation of what's so. It's still a representation and not the thing itself. Some food for thought, sorry if I sidetracked the thread.

Thoughts are a form of concept, after all. But what if "my" and "hand" were also conceptual, in some strange way? Never mind. The claim is that it is challenging to locate a raw experience of reality once concept is set aside. What remains is an unfamiliar, open presence - a bare-bones sense of awareness. We tend to assume that "thinking" is just a fringe activity, like commentary tacked onto the "real reality." Maybe this distinction isn't so clearly delineated as we like to believe. You mentioned this above. On a different note: how do stress and related states contribute to effectiveness? It's a different matter believing that they are useful in that sense. And if this so-called "enlightenment" is direct, then it is neither a path nor an endpoint to reach. It's a sudden realization available to us right now.

We're all selfish. Embrace it. It's not a negative thing. Investigate the depths of your own selfishness. Since you seemed to react defensively to the suggestion, what was threatened? In essence, you: some aspect of experience you identify as yourself, or as part of you.

I'm saying struggle is a deeper dynamic, not limited to spirituality, and of course, I'm not exempt from that. But yeah, I do like to show off every now and then - not just shitpost.

Struggle, loneliness, and feeling stuck - in one form or another - are part of the human condition, or at least constitute a virtually universal background experience for us humans. Notice that no one truly "has it easy" in life. Why is that? Even though it may seem that some people act in a more graceful or "effortless" manner, take a closer look at their underlying experience of life. Even when someone is effortless at a particular field or activity, this is often accompanied by tons of effort and correction. Most importantly, as a particular self-character, this form will inevitably confront events and circumstances that are inconsistent with its self-agenda. At the risk of oversimplifying, this is essentially what struggle is. Being and having a self is what creates struggle in the first place. And interestingly, we can observe how much we actually want it! In many ways, we are both driven toward and attracted by this dynamic. It is not a random occurrence. Add to that the fact that this kind of spiritual work forces us to notice this dynamic, instead of resist it or ignore it. We could create an axiom now: to the extent that one lets go of the self (or a particular aspect of the self), struggle will subside. By not identifying with or latching onto something extraneous, this contraction naturally subsides in that particular area. Hope that helps in some way.

Don't take it too personally - even though it is hard not to! Also, it's useful for us to hear it as a fact or neutral observation, rather than as a form of condemnation or blame. It's deeper than the common use of the term - it points to the self as our operating system in life. We may feel tempted to hear that as a negative, but it's just what's already so. Nothing necessarily wrong with that.

Figured it could be looked at even more deeply. How can it exist without the memory of a past? This takes us into the nature of time and the Now. Anyway, branching off from your main assertion…

Right. We could ask: What is Now?

You're essentially asking what time is.