UnbornTao

@ThePoint Intending is actually doing it. Period. So go do it, or don't. Either way it's fine. Establishing a negative relationship towards a natural impulse is not the wisest thing to do. You also seem to enjoy wallowing in your emotional struggle. It's OK, everyone does to some extent. Just remember to eventually move on to more empowering dispositions if you like. In any case, you'll do what you want regardless of what others tell you. So enjoy it. Several nofap enthusiasts are probably waiting for December 1st to arrive to congratulate themselves for a successful challenge.

@Felinez OK, then. Remember that posting while high isn't allowed either.

Keep it up.

What is this journal about?

@ThePoint I might want to raise my arm without doing so. If I raise it, though, that actually shows intent. Action and intent seem to be inseparable. Focus on intent. When it comes to action, that's the only requisite, not desire. As the saying goes, "If wishes were horses, the homeless would ride." Just make sure to start small, something you'd be ashamed not to do. Commit to one day without X, for example. Or meditate 10 seconds everyday for a week. Next week, 30 seconds or so. You set the bar. Well, okay. Do it nevertheless.

@ThePoint No need to say it out loud. More importantly, it's what you "say" to yourself in other ways, like through your internal dialogue. The point of that example was to distinguish between intent and desire, not to determine which option is the healthiest or best for me. Be straight with yourself. Maybe you just want to masturbate, and that's okay, but if you do, don't lie to yourself by saying that you didn't want to. Also, drop guilt, it's ineffective and unnecessary. Simply create the intent to do something small everyday, and gradually build upon that. Cheer up!

Natural: breathing, sleeping, eating, defecating, having sex.

You might be stuck in a victim mindset and have created a story for yourself about being this "hopeless" guy, and ended up believing it. I suggest you stop over-intellectualizing and start working on your integrity. For that, get clear on your intentions. You may not have had the intention to stop this habit and just fooled yourself from the beginning. Make a distinction between wishing and intent. For example, yesterday I wanted to have a smoothie for breakfast but drank coffee instead. Even before it was made explicit through action, my intention to drink coffee was already clear to me regardless of me wanting a smoothie. Start by doing whatever you say you're gonna do. If not, don't say it, even to yourself. Start small: "I'm going to meditate for 10 seconds." Eventually, your word will start to have power, your self -esteem and -trust will increase, etc. Good luck.

Picture a recoiling flower. While experiencing pain, the tendency is to self-contract: to hide, be the victim of, and blame the pain. Rather, I suggest you shift your state to one of self-expansion, in which you welcome and accept the pain instead of trying to avoid or suppress it. This allows for cognizing and understanding what it is, thus opening up the possibility of transcending it. Open up to the experience (turn into it), becoming bigger, not smaller than, the pain. Try this in your experience.

@Tyler Robinson it's a challenge, just like quitting coffee or your smartphone for 30 days. Don't read too much into it.

I used mushroom chocolate a few times; useful for having a playful mood, perhaps for some creativity tasks. Also helped immensely my concentration ability. But it isn't ideal. LSD was good. Helped me relax, increase intuition (like an implicit intelligence/creativity), and be more in my body.

Finally got a computer! All it took was my soul and two kidneys. Was it worth it?

We crushed Costa Rica: 7-0. Next up, Germany. Argentina lost to Saudi Arabia, Germany lost to Japan.

1. When you're committed, yes. 2. Don't know. But it's a more empowering approach than being a slave to circumstances.

@Matt23 NoFap for Restaurants™

What is respect? As of late I've been noticing that it isn't like the way I hold it. In our culture, it seems to be held as a necessary formality. However... Consider subtle forms of disrespect, like not arriving on time. By doing so, what you're telling to another is basically: fuck you, my time is more valuable than yours.

@Ulax

Still going strong

@AndylizedAAY then I don't know of any other solutions -- apart from buying an older version on eBay as Leo suggested above. Having a good-quality keyboard for me is a must. Basically it's the most efficient way to manipulate and organize a lot of text and content. You could also learn to use Obsidian, another modern app. Test things out to see what works best for you.

May be wishful thinking because I'm biased but I'm gonna say Spain

I want to brag about not having used any phone for two years, approximately between 2015-2018. Good times. Addiction, mostly. We've made our jobs to be entertained and distracted at all times.

Confronting communication challenges I wasn't able to communicate to another what I was going through in that situation. I became reactive and resentful and acted out my anger with the intent to hurt the other person involved. When it comes to this activity, a challenge that frequently comes up for me is feeling stuck in familiar (--interpersonal dynamics, behavior patters--) patterns of relating, no matter how ineffective and unnecessary they are. --- Contrast how much of your interactions are based on reactivity rather than on actual communication. Also, the difficulty of communication is not that it's particularly hard or complex, but rather its simplicity. Its essence is expressing your experience as it is, without filter. Contrary to conventional thought, whether your experienced is liked, judged, etc. is irrelevant when it comes to the sharing of it. Authentic communication is hard to come by. Most of what you listen to is manipulation, even if you like what's being said, aligns with your beliefs and preferences, etc. --- Learning to let pain come up as you interact seems to be essential. Since communication demands opening up and being vulnerable about what you're currently experiencing, expecting pain can make it more difficult. Anticipating another's reaction may make you avoid any kind of confrontation in order to not to get hurt. Preference, judgment, reaction, etc., are irrelevant in this regard. That said, caution is advised. Depending on context and the person you're interacting with, your experience might not be worth sharing at a given time or situation.

Go have sex and get enlightened. Two different matters.