UnbornTao

At the beginning of a relationship, a show might be put on by both parties in order to feel mutually liked. In any case, be honest primarily with yourself and deal with others intelligently. Question what that would look like for you. What if you give up the need to please others? What's behind that drive? Why is it there? Recognize it as founded on certain self-assumptions in order to get free from them. Experientially grasp why this behavior is neither necessary nor useful. I know that this doesn't say much but maybe take a look into it.

Geez, stop overselling water already.

Didn't he basically put an end to philosophy? He stated that perception can't be a direct knowledge of reality, and that perception and the mind can't be trusted as the ultimate "proof" for claims of existential truth.

What cosmology are you holding that makes you think in such a way? The absolute is not grandiose, huge, inaccessible or any other distinctions because they are relative. It's impossible for the mind to grasp, and its nature isn't separate from you. Whatever you're aiming for is an image, idea or conception that you have of it.

What's sentience?

Becoming directly conscious of the absolute truth of you. Nothing more, nothing less.

Through this forum. Someone mentioned him on some thread I was visiting.

Dan Koe. His work is inspiring. He talks about solopreneurship and seems to be pretty passionate about this field. Worth a read.

A fact often overlooked is that taking a decision is a creative act. You make a decision. You don't somehow stumble upon it -- "here, I found a decision on the road" or some such. Besides, the process of making a choice isn't what we hold it to be, which is picking or choosing between a set of predetermined options. This way of thinking leaves the creative component out of the question. When taking action, making decisions is essential. You have no choice in the matter. Choosing not to decide is something you can do. Look at ways in which you've unconsciously made a decision in your life. Now, notice you can change it according to what you want. Make the process explicit, clear, conscious, especially when it comes to important decisions.

@zurew @Carl-Richard thanks. Ultimately, it seems to me like wisdom is an abstract, wide notion that depends on how it's held by each individual.

Is absolute truth a state, then? When using the distinction "state", we might as well be talking about different things. State sounds like relative stuff. Is it possible that Truth is independent from state?

Don't idealize enlightened people. What can be done before enlightenment can be done after it.

True happiness might be inherent in your nature, and it doesn't depend on circumstances. Meaning is created, adopted and applied. Like I said above, happiness may be independent of meaning. What you call happiness is self-survival, like when a monkey gets a banana, he's happy, without the banana, he isn't. Rarely considered is the possibility of being happy even when you don't get what you want! Try to look into it and practice it.

So what is wisdom? Wisdom isn't conventional knowledge, smartness, intelligence, opinion or information. Could be held as an unusually deep and unconventional intuitive understanding and feeling-sense. It could also basically refer to consciousness, being profoundly aware of the truth of something. Consider examples such as Gandalf, Chuang Tzu and Plato. What makes these characters wise as opposed to the average person? Food for thought.

Better not to make up simplistic formulas to fit our preconceptions. What is happiness? It may be a synonym for being! Happiness is independent of meaning.

@Yimpa nice, keep up the good work. Two hours is an impressive feat even for moderately experienced meditators.

I'm also between avoidant and secure and just bought the secure workbook at the attachment project. Have yet to read it but looks like a useful tool for some of your concerns. Check out its table of contents.

That's a good practice, happy for you. In my case, meditating for at least 20min daily is what I do. I've noticed that meditation requires confronting yourself, your emotions and your state in a very positive, straightforward way. Your mind learns to embrace your experience, to let go and to focus. I recommend it.

Avoid procrastinating. Whatever can be done now, do it rather than putting it off. That way it won't linger on your subconscious, causing unnecessary strain and anxiety, and you'll get more done.

Wanting something you don't have means you don't have it and are separate from it. Ta da! It's counter-intuitive - pursuing happiness is based on suffering because it's an assessment of lack. Avoiding suffering also adds to the suffering, it seems to me. Better to confront it in order to grasp what it is and why it is there, which facilitates freedom from much of it.

Suck my nirvana!

I don't know what wisdom is.

Use the kindle app. Apparently it's available here at Barnes & Noble.

What!? I'm out of here.

My wallet is suffering! Buy the book!