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Try this: Anytime you feel the desire to smoke put on you shoes and go run around the block. It doesn't even have to be far, just run around the block, some short distance. Do it as many times a day as you need. Once your heart rate goes up and you break a sweat you really don't want to smoke. Since it's so contradicting to workout and smoke. The void is a great thing, because it seems like you got all that extra time, well great right? Imagine how you can use all that time for more productive things.

INFP-T I got INFP on both tests.

An good alternative to doing cold approaches is online dating. Tinder, POF, Match, etc. The thing is you get to approach many many women. Some may reject you, or never get back to you when you message them. But there will be women that do come back to you, and you can practice lines, jokes, and other conversation techniques and topics with women in a setting where rejection won't be as unnerving. And when everything goes well you can land some dates of course. And that will get you a lot of good experience with women. The more experience you have the more relaxed you will become about it all.

When I read this I think you losing weight trough exercise and diet is not fake growth, but it's just not the growth you wanted. The weight loss is good for your health. Also people treat good looking people better (unfairly or not) in social situations (dating), at work (money). And you should have more energy. Just to name a few. What you apparently didn't get was a better relationship with food and resolve emotional issues. But I think you should try different avenues to fix those problems. But not drop the progress you have made using diet and exercise. The way I experience self improvement is that an improvement in only one area is not having a dramatic effect on the quality of my life. But rather there need to be many improvements, and then together they form noticeable a better quality of life. Examples for me are exercise, diet, cooking, reading, no more social media. And I am looking to further develop those and add more new ones.

I deleted my FB account. Got sucked back into it. Then deleted it again. You will be amazed how many times a day you go on FB without thinking. When I just deleted my account I found my self going to the FB page many times a day on auto-pilot and get the screen my account had been deleted, lol. I agree there is a lot of negativity on FB. But even when I read something positive or somewhat neutral information, it's still an external source of information that I can do without. It's a lot of external impulses that consequently will steer your mind in a certain direction, now you have to think about that information, process it, and those thought patterns lead to other spin-off thought patterns. All triggered by an external source that you got exposed to but didn't really volunteer for. When I am not on FB I think my mind is more at peace, focused, and there is more room for thoughts and ideas that come up internally, that are my own.

Exercise will give you better circulation. Stick with it for a few months to see the results. Also pair it with a nutritious diet.