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@Issa Campusano quit multi-media (Facebook). You will be surprised how much you are logging in Facebook everyday without even thinking about that action. The quality of my thoughts has really improved since I have done that. And my sleep as well. Your Facebook feed is a constant stream of external impulses that activate your mind to process them. You cant help it, once you see it or read it you got to process it. If you tend to day dream a lot that can trigger day dreaming. The impulses from reading multi-media are external so they enter your thoughts from the outside. If you read on Facebook that someone had pasta for dinner, like what use has that information for you really? And that is not even a negative example. Thats very neutral and insignificant example. But you read it so now you got to process it. That thought might trigger a spin-off thought like people eat pasta in Italy. So now you need to process that as well. Taking up more room in your head. Another spin-off and now you start thinking about maybe you want to go on vacation to Italy. That sounds very nice.....and there you go daydreaming about a vacation in Italy. And these examples are not necessarily that bad, but if it wasnt for a comment of someone else on Facebook you would never have thought about pasta probably, or that vacation in Italy. Maybe nice thoughts but completely useless to you 9 out of 10 times. Of course you can easily come up with more negative examples, the process works the same, the difference is that its even more harmful. So when you delete FB and whatever other multi-media then you are left with much more room for thoughts that internally come up in you. I call it your own thoughts. And this also taps into motivation because it is known that intrinsic motivation is much stronger then external motivation.

@Peace and Love sure PM me.

What can prevent daydreaming is double timing your chores like folding laundry, cleaning, dishes etc. Those are not really the most stimulating activities and it's easy to let your mind drift off. When you try to get them done more rapidly then you have to put some focus in it. And after you can move on to activities that inherently take more focus/are more stimulating to the mind.

@philosogi I like games. I like videogames, I like board games, I like sports that's a game, I liked chasing women too. It's a fun game at the early stages.

You may find this model to calculate your Sexual Market Value useful as well. http://revolutionarylifestyledesign.com/calculate-maximize-sexual-market-value/ It's food for thought.

Lol!! Yeah that's just wrong in several ways.

Yeah I would never meet a woman halfway driving distance on the first date. That still makes the guy half a woman. The first date the guy should drive the full length. But I dont mind driving. In a relationship it would be different sometimes if it is necessary for logistics. To me if no serious action takes place within the first 3 dates then that is really not something I would pursue further I think. Not at least a kiss on the first date that would be a letdown as well. Then maybe if she is nice there can be a second date, but if after that second date there still is no action going on then thats not something I would pursue further either. As far as the Red Flags go. That can be tricky because if you long and hard enough you can find fault in anyone. I think especially later in life if people had a few bad experiences then they get so paranoid they are constantly on the look out for these Red Flags that they cant just let things unfold.

@Peace and Love yeah women do approach men as well online. I have had women approach me. But fact is far more man approach women online then women approaching men. So I cant tell @Scarecrow that he should sit back and wait for a woman to approach him. Plus its more manly to be in the drivers seat. Me personally I like to pick the girls that I talk to. Like you said yourself, pursuing is part of what makes a man. And yeah I agree, I have sworn off the TV a long time ago as well.

@Scarecrow she @Peace and Love did you a favor by giving a woman's perspective. And she did you give you a lot of other good advice. You are not going to get 50 e-mails in a week's time and "weed out" 3 people you like, as she put it, out of those 50 e-mails and go on dates to see which one you like the best. That's a females perspective and a fundamental difference when it comes to men and women when it comes to dating. Women are the ones that get approached and that is very true for online dating as well. As a man you will have to make your presence known to several women and then you can do your "weeding out" from there so to speak. How are those profiles coming along?

@MHarris If I have to pick a number I would say around 30. But you don't always get to call the shots on that. What if you don't have a successful relationship until later in your life? What are you supposed to do then settle for less? Or what if you find someone early in your life that you would want to marry? What are you going to do then? Ruin an otherwise very good relationship? It's not only your feelings about the matter but the other person as well.

You are trying to go the intellectual route but he is trying to be this hard guy so that's not going to resonate with him. Far right is anti-intellectual anyway. Hitler was anti-intellectuals. Take him to a boxing/kick-boxing/MMA gym. It's a very mixed group there. He can't preach his believes there. And after mixing it up with the other guys there he won't be able to hold on to those believes anymore. "Awarenesses alone is curative". *I see now that you are from Macedonia. I don't know what the (gym) culture is really like over there. But you can give it a try. If anything it may give him something else to focus on. *My advice is not for him to get beat up, but he will grow respect when going trough training with people from other ethnicities.

That's how I see it as well. The tool analogy is spot on.

@Scarecrow you can use Tinder and Match.com. Tinder is free and Match.com you got to pay for. Also their application is somewhat different. There are other sites as well. But if you get those two then you got pretty much the whole spectrum covered. Get both is my advice. Next thing is you need to have some good pictures that represent what you currently look like. Get at least three pictures of which at least two only have you in it. The other ones can have your friends or relatives in it but I don't even go that route. The pictures are very important when it comes to online dating. Superficial yes. But building a deep connection takes time. To think that you can build that bond after a few weeks time by getting to know the person would be equally superficial. Then you need to write a profile. The number one rule is don't lie. Not about your height, your body composure, your income, etc. No lies period. That will always come back to you. Don't start summing up your life story either, or all your negative traits and thoughts. So no mentioning: "I am shy". That just doesn't work. Or: "I have never tried this before, and I don't expect much of it, but we will see" kind of message. That won't work either. What you should do is mention your ambitions, any interesting hobby's (not your ant farm), and what you are looking for: Dating and possibly more. Don't come up with a whole list of likes and dislikes about a girl. When you get those two profiles done I will be happy to share more technique with you.

@Epiphany_Inspired in short you are saying it's nice to cuddle and get touched? I agree.

@Epiphany_Inspired sounds like a lack of boundaries to me. It's not normal behaviour to kiss and cuddle people that you don't have a close or official bond with. That sort of cheapens the deal and may be illegal. Unless you are trying to date or something but that's a whole other thing all together. It's not normal or acceptable in other cultures either. Definitely not in European cultures. I am European myself I don't know what they have been telling you. If straight guys are cuddling you...come on now you are old enough that you should know what's going on.

@Tibor thats truth but at least that Mammoth won't turn around and kill you.

Oh yeah I don't doubt that. I don't drink the tap water. Depending on where you live it may be poluted by fuel as well.

Yeah I did my research on water. The obvious are fluoride and BPA but there are lot if other bad things like women's birth control that doesn't dispose in it. Thanks for the info where to get that filter.

@Epiphany_Inspired so are you saying that you want to cuddle with your male friends for cuddles-sake and then you expect that to somehow end well?

So you say you are using a coconut shell water filter? Where did you buy yours? I was definitely considering the fruit juicing thing. The extra vitamins are always a good thing.

@ClearThought everything you make your goals is part of typical stage orange thinking and behaviour as per the Graves model. Including women. What served you in the past to get further in life doesn't serve you now anymore. Maybe it's time to evolve.

@electroBeam did you find a girl or girls to go out on a date with now? Now should you pay for dates? The first date I say absolutely. Plan to spend 50 - 100 dollars as well. You are coming at it from the completely wrong angle man. You should not be making your money your first priority when you go dating. Your primary concern should be how to get her panties off. How are you getting her panties off? By being a fun guy and sexual escalation. When you are coming at her with this attitude that she should pay half, how much fun is that going to be for her? You are already creating problems/obstacles before the dating/relationship started. (And before her panties came off). Actually if she offers to pay on the first date, that's not necesairly a good sign. That may very well mean you are not getting a second date and she won't feel guilty by paying half. Or all of it for that matter. Or she is buying off any obligations to you. Because she thinks if you pay you may want sex in return. Either way she is holding out on sex. Now of course you should not always be paying for everything in the relationship. But the first three dates. Expect to pay. After that she should start paying for some things as well. Now on a side note if sex has not happened after three dates you may be having other issues. After three dates and no sex the chances of you ever getting any are dramatically dropping. By date four and she has not paid anything imagine this. If she says "let's get ice cream" after you took her to the movies you can say: "OK, are you paying?" In a nonchalant way and that's all there is to it. You can see her reaction then. Now also something to consider is her spending habits. For example if you date a girl who always pays half. But everytime the two of you hangout she racks up the bill to 150 dollars. Now everytime you hang out with her you are 75 dollars lighter. That way you are better off with a girl who is happy if you pay for both you and her ice-cream and you take her for a walk in the park.

Attracting women and forming deep intimate relationships are two different things. But to form a deep intimate relationship you first need to attract a woman. I have no RSD experience but I am sure you can learn a lot there. There is also a lot of technique that you can find on the internet to read up on. Also very effective is online dating. (Finding girls on dating sites in your area and then taking them out on real world dates.) The great thing is that you will get to be with the girl one on one. That's half the battle won. In clubs, at parties, etc it's going to be more difficult to single her out. Between her friends, your friends, and strangers there will often be someone trying to cockblock you. You don't have that issue with online dating. The combination of online research for dating techniques and online dating sites to meet women is very effective. Once you know what you are doing its ridiculously easy. It will feel like you are cheating the system really, it's that easy. But you have to understand the psychology of dating, pick-up, and women. So that's where the research comes in. The truth is the more exposure you have to dating women the easier it's going to get. Then you start getting more confident and then you start to radiate that confidence. Making things even easier. * If you go learn pick-up within a group, I am sure you will have some succes. But it is not the groups objective is to get you a girlfriend. Because then you leave the group and that is a threat to the excitance of the group. So if it's me I rather operate alone. All I want is to have sex with the girl, and if the sex is good and she is nice then I want to make her my girlfriend. I don't care for the whole sideshow with some dudes.

So what do you like to do besides chasing women? Stop chasing women for a while and try out a wide range of different activities that you think would be cool. Get your kicks out of life outside of chasing girls. This sounds like an addiction.

@Shin posted this video as a comment to me like yesterday. Intuitively you will probably already know this. But it is still good to have it ordered by Leo in a video. It can help you to take some focussed action.