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This is how I found out about Actualized.org I was dating women and I got fascinated by this concept: "Why do women fall for assholes/Bad boys". Because from my experience it's very true. You get a lot better results when you are a little bit of a dick sometimes. So I already understood this concept. But just because I find the concept fascinating I googled: "Why do women love Bad Boys". Just to find more information on it. And then I did come across this video: And and that was the first of Leo's videos I did watch. And I was like: "This totally matches everything I know about it and have experienced, and this guy does an amazing job job summarizing and explaining all if it." So you may want to watch this, or watch it again with a renewed interest.

@eskwire yeah authentic relating.... The way I see it is like this: What is more authentic then admitting to yourself that as a human being you are just a baboon. Really we are just monkeys. So what we like, our motives, we are just like a monkey. Thats our true nature. So you realize that and act in line with your monkey drives then you are being authentic. Instead of sugar coating it with all sorts of our highly developed human frontal cortex brain. Deep down we are just a monkey. Once you accept that, then maybe you can begin to transcend that, is my suspicion. For what I believe: I don't believe: "Early dates should lead to sex for that test drive" I believe: "The first date does mean sex ?" I just started this thread because the dating section seemed dead. And too many whiny threads wallowing in self-pity. Also some sketchy threads started to pop up promoting mail order brides. So I was like, it's about time we start to have some talk about dating and how to get girls again.

@eskwire don't read too much into the first dates. There is no relationship until there has been sex. I have heard women say: "I am am not going to have sex with him unless he is my boyfriend". A guy will think: " She is not my girlfriend unless I have had sex with her". I sure do. What happens before that is just a mating ritual. It doesn't necesairly reflect the potential relationship. The other thing is a relationship is not a static environment. You can't assume because this is how things are, that is how they will be in the future. Relationships develop and change their shape. Just because a person has been paying doesn't mean they will or should in the future or vice versa.

@eskwire yeah well women always love to say they got 'tricked' by a guy. But you got to see it from the guys perspective as well: "You got to test drive it before you buy it". When you test drive it and you don't like it, you are not going to get it. Thing is you can't know that upfront. You got to make that test drive.

Find another girl this one is no good. She is bullshitting you as much as she is bullshitting her boyfriend, and not just over the texts, you got to realize that.

I think it differs a lot from person to person. A lot of people are lactose intolerant. Those people obviously shouldn't consume dairy. I can drink a gallon of milk a day and I don't break out or feel bad at all. The ratio of people who are lactose intolerant also differs a lot from one ethnicity to another. Caucasians seem to be a lot less likely to be lactose intolerant then other ethnicities.

Good luck. I studied to be a teacher myself, and although I learned a lot of useful stuff I am happy I went down another route.

Because right now you are/were on your path to become a Math Teacher, which is like a sure shot into the middle class. But nothing spectacular is going to happen from that. When you were going for that high end corporate job, at least there was the prospect of getting very financially successful. Being a Math Teacher that's not going to happen. Now if you are going to teach meditation and you end up making 40K a year does it really matter you are not making the 50K a teacher makes? (made up numbers). It's all in the mediocre ballpark. But with teaching meditation you free up a lot more opportunities, which also means more financial opportunities. It's not unreasonable to think you end up only making 25K but also that you will make 100K or whatever. Another thing is you are 22. If you end up failing or not liking teaching meditation you can always knock out that teaching degree later in your twenties even thirties and still be a Math Teacher or whatever. Then at least you tried.

Bye

I don't understand what you are trying to say.

Yet you struggle with the same problem.

Yes go do it.

@emind bang some other girls and make sure she knows about it. Then make some moves on her. If you still want her by that time. You are going to think this isn't going to work, but trust me it will.

@Elephant whatever happened to the notion that you can reach Enlightment without psychedelics? Too me taking psychedelics to reach Enlightment sounds much like taking anabolic steroids to build muscle. You can build muscle without anabolic steroids but it will be faster when you use them. Apparently you can get Enlightened without using psychedelics as well. I am not necesairly against people using either to reach their goals if that is what they want to do. But me for myself I will just do the work without those substances. Too each their own, or in other words, do whatever the fuck you want to do.

Do you sleep all the way trough the night? Or do you wake up a lot? I had this problem that I would wake up a lot at night. And lay awake at night. Now I got that fixed. I fixed it doing two things. Going to the gym often. And walking into nature for about a hour. Preferably both in the same day and everyday, or otherwise as often as possible. It tires my body out. And then I sleep really well. Sleep is very important. It's the cornerstone for everything else. Your energy levels, managing your moods, processing your thoughts, your mental health. For an example: studies have shown that when people in relationships sleep well they fight less in their relationship. Also ADHD is linked to sleep disorders. Start going to the gym, and do those walks. It will sort out the lot of issues in your head like snow disappearing in the sun.

As you get older you will not loose those qualities but they will become more flexible depending on the context. Like I will be loyal, but under these circumstances. I will never cheat, but if this and that then.... Everyone is beautiful but... It really comes with life experience to judge context and also your cognitive abilities become more complex as you age. Keep in mind that your brain actually isn't fully grown/developed until your mid twenties. When you look at a little kid, like a four year old, they can't differentiate between 'stupid' and 'nice'. They don't think along the lines like this annoys me about the person but they got their good sides as well. It's black or white at that age. As a person gets older they develop the ability to judge more critical and complex. From my experience that will continue well into your twenties and even thirties.

@Laputan Machine set up an online dating profile. And start up conversations with many girls on there that you like. Then set up a date with a girl that you like and see how it goes. Don't lie about anything on your profile, like your height, that will sure backfire. It's all about exposure and building reference experiences when you want to get better. (Real life experience) And that real life experience you can cross check against the theory online, like RSD etc. I met my girlfriend online. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

@Hardkill PM me if you like.

I really like the idea, I really like the presentation. Just one thing, I think you should during your intro mention which type(s) of mental issues are getting covered in that particular episode. And make sure it is also in the title of the podcast. Like: Tim Smith on OCD. And then say Hello this is Tim Smith he is this, he has done this, etc etc, and we talked about his OCD. I am sure you will do a better job then me but you get the point. Because the reason is when the podcast starts you start talking with these people easing them into it. Which I understand it's the polite way to do and all. But let's say if someone has borderline personality disorder then they may be very interested in a interview with someone who has borderline personality disorder. Because that's what they can relate to. But if it's not clear from the intro and the title they never know what they are going to get and it will be hard to keep their attention span. And even if they listen for 10 minutes and then they guy you interview starts talking about OCD for example, the person listening with borderline personality disorder will lose interest. I like it a lot. I just gave you this long example because I think it's an easy fix.

In the end everything is just a hallucination your brain fabricates. Like a virtual reality. So for some people ghosts may actually may do exist, and for others they don't. Just like on Nintendo Mario exists and on Sega Sonic The Hedgehog. It's different wiring and programming.

@Spiral I would just give it some more time. That's what I do in a situation like that. A lot of times the first time with a girl isn't the best, and it gets better over time. Might be worth it if she is hot, and otherwise has a good character. You already shot the deer, you might just as well eat it. It depends you are in that position. If I pick up on little bad behavior cues then it's done pretty fast though.

@Spiral her body wants your baby. It's a crime if you don't.

@Spiral its your hormones. You are smelling those pheromones. You are horny.

Very interesting

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