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Think about this for a moment: How much time and energy does it take to chase a new girl everytime? Do you have other things in your life that you want to pursue? How much time and energy over the years would you save up if you just stuck it out with one girl? Then all that time and energy you can put into other projects.

Stop approaching girls right now all together. For now. What does the rest of your life look like?

I already gave you an alternative. So you can take up on that or you don't. But you keep asking if you should use 'blow out game' that no one has ever heard of. Don't go ask women if you can touch their boobs it will only get you in more trouble.

After all that you really need to ask if it would be a good idea for you to ask random women if you can touch their boobs? Like really dude....like really....take an educated guess.

Close your eyes when you are awake. Not like stiff but just relax. But absolutely don't open them! Not for one second. Not even when you roll over. Never. No matter how bad you want to. No matter how long it takes. Do not open. Your eyes. And then purposefully think about something happy. Like that vacation that you were on as a little kid. Then you have no negative thoughts in the moment. And your eyes are closed so eventually your body will make the connection that it's lights out. Also I read that if you feel itching don't scratch it. Because that's your body checking if you are still awake. Because I you were awake you would scratch. But if you don't scratch it thinks you are asleep it will put you to sleep. (Yeah sounds kind of weird.)

I am not playing some character. I am just me. I do advocate to do whatever gets results though. That's very important. So if it gets him results then that's what he should do. I just know that I would get better results doing other things.

@Hardkill I developed my own method that has worked for me. It consists of 3 phases: Phase 1: Online dating This is where you make contact with the girl and get her phone number. Phase 2: Texting/Sexting This is where you start texting with the girl which leads to sexting. Which may or may not also lead to conversations on the phone and phone sex. Phase 3: Actual date This is where you go on an actual date. By that time there is already been so much sexual build up that it's very easy to escalate. The large majority of the times it leads to sex on the first date. If not then the second, third max. I think this will work a lot better for you because it's more one-on-one game. Where you get to be alone with her in an intimate setting.

@Hardkill from your prior posts I don't think your problem is not being able to approach women. But you don't isolate them. (You are never alone with them.)

My game has always been very direct, physical, and I escalate very quick. But what they are saying about coming up with the most retarded line possible....that I don't agree with. A guy should have some pride.

@Hardkill regardless? Yeah. In a nightclub maybe not so much. But why would you want your game to be based on making an idiot out of yourself? There are better ways.

The best piece of advice that I ever read somewhere on the internet when I started to game: "Make your intentions known"

Sounds like a bad idea. Of course when you are going to be approving as many people as you can on a night, even with the worst line, then you just run the numbers game an eventually one is going to say yes. Maybe also because later in the night people get more desperate and drunk. But I think there is much better game to be used.

You are probably right. Making a big change in her appearance like that will probably cause a small revolution/crisis within her which is not necesairly a bad thing, and may lead to significant growth. The problem could be more complicated then that though, like the kind of men she is attracted to. But you got to start somewhere.

Haha this reminds me, as a kid in the town where a lived it was in the newspaper once. There was this homeless person who had died. But altough he lived on the street he actually rented an apartment. And he would go around asking for money and finding it on the ground. And then he would take the coins and staple them to the ceiling in his apartment. Then when he died they went into that apartment and they found over 100K in coins build up in towers to the ceiling in that apartment.

Just because a person makes a lot of money it doesn't mean they need to get the expensive car/3 cars, the big house with 3 bathrooms and a heated pool, and the boat. You can spend that money other ways, rather then copy paste other people's lifestyle. But most people they try to keep up with the the Joneses. Rich people they typically go live in a neighborhood with other rich people. And then they compare their life only with that of other rich people. So they got the Range River and the BMW and the boat, and a house with a pool. But the neighbours have a Range Rover, a Mercedes, and a Porsche, a house with a whirlpool, and their boat is 6 feet longer. So in comparison they still feel bad about their life. And then it just becomes a rat race to aquire more.

@Lorcan I didn't read trough that whole essay you wrote, but from the gist if it, you are definitely having a mid-life crisis right now!! Congratulations!!! You did it!!! I think you are doing good dude. You are 16 years old. Keep trucking.

@Michael569 the same is true for the USA. Then again the question is why is that? I am against racism. It is about the most basic territorial monkey behaviour there is. Then again I understand the reflex, and I think it's actually an interesting point to look into and discuss. To unravel the nuanced points. Too me it's just surprising that from time to time I come across these racist comments on this forum, and usually they are against Blacks or Arabs. And I am thinking by myself really? You are talking about all these things like enlightment, higher consiousness, and sustainable living, etc, then those people still hold on to those racist believes? That's just strange in my eyes.

@Ross online dating sounds right for you. Think about it: You are on your smart phone, probably on social media, FB etc, you are online on Actualized.org on a forum to ask for advice and better your life. So why would you not use the internet to connect with girls. You connect with people online all the time already anyways.

Black guy dude? Really?......lol. How did that add to the comment?

@eskwire criminally inclined people often tend to be more stimulus seeking and edgy so that is why they are more fun yes. I think that's not only true in men. Often the type of women, 'Bad Bitches', as they call them in rap music who are more bitchy and morally not as sound tend to be more freaky in the bed. Not always, but more often then not. I actually wanted to make a thread about it sometime but I never did, but it seems like every possible character trait has another side to the same coin. So you always have to take the good with the bad. That also means that you can't have it all. So you will have to be willing to drop certain criteria like 'edgy', and 'confident' or find a happy medium. Of course 5%+25% =30% but that still makes a person like that 70% of the time a nice person. But that is exactly where I am going with that. You can't let that fool you. Of course there is a level of bad behaviour that is unacceptable. I like this scene from the movie "Natural Born Killers" tapping into innocence.

@eskwire yeah well of course the video directly addresses a dating topic. But I think those same asshole charactetistics that make men attractive to women is also what makes them often successful at work or in sports or in other areas in life. And you experience these character traits in dating with men, because you date men. But in other areas of your life you also notice them in women. I think those people have a pull on you (us, people react to that stuff). Another thing is even sociopaths, and criminal people they are not bad 100% of the time. Most of the time they can be really nice, and they are not even faking it. Some of the nicest behaviour in people I have noticed come from crimanally inclined people. Let's say they are 5% of the time bad/criminal behaviour, 25% of the time manipulating people, 70% of the time sincerairly nice. That still makes them the majority of the time nice people. It's just that during that 5% of the time that they are bad they do a lot of damage. On the flip side: Who is innocent, are you innocent? Am I innocent? Who is innocent?

Should a guy pay for the first date? Or should he and the girl split the check? Or should the girl pay for the first date?