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@Mikael89 time to travel. Like seriously dude I would not look down on you at all if you would do a boot camp. I would be very interested to hear how it would go for you. I would do one my self just for shits and giggles.

What's wrong with it is that the guy duck is completely quilifying and supplicating to the female duck. Also the whole vibe of that picture is extremely Beta. It's a Dutch cartoon. Watch the 20 minute episode below. You know why its a 20 minute episode? Because it's a children's cartoon! Every boy older then 10 in Holland would be embaresed to admit he watches that! The episode is in Dutch. But again it's a children's cartoon it's not that hard to see what's going on. Basically right in the beginning the guy duck gets friendzoned, then he is sharing his feelings with his big bird female friend. Then he goes home from vacation because he misses his family, like a little bitch. Then on the train home he meets these brown ducks from a war torn country. And he decides to help them. And then because he helped them the girl brown duck falls in love with him because he is her and her family's saviour.... It's the ultimate Beta-male fantasy. It's a cute cartoon for a 3 year old girl like my daughter. If you are a guy pushing 30 and that is your model for how dating and relationships should work....I mean shit man....makes me cringe. Now also man you are not a duck, or a bird, or a bison, or a lion. You are human. Look around you. Most guys are not hard-cases or natural players. They are just dudes who clumsy stumble around in the dark and find the lightswitch. And then they got a girlfriend. There is a shit load of information out there on how to atract women. For most guys that's enough. For @Mikael89 and @MM1988 I really think you guys should just sign up for a RSD boot camp or something. Because you have been participating on the forum for long enough and nothing has changed. So apparently you need to take more serious measures.

@MM1988 What's wrong with this picture?

For the best results you have to combine game, looks, and money. Money is great for attraction. (The potential for her to have a good life.) Money is also great for running logistics. (Getting an Uber and hotel room to fuck the shit out her). Money creates attraction. But it does not create arousel, game and looks do. Women are Hypergamous. They always want to date and fuck at their own level and preferably up. Hypergamy has two sides. The provisioning side and the "let's have fun and fuck" side. Or Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Now preferably you should be the fun guy and the provider. Most guys will be some combination of the two of course. It is definitely possible to attract women with money. It can become a trap though if that is all you can offer the girl. Because if she felt very little arousel for you to begin with, well over time that arousel is going to get less. So then there is nothing left but her attraction for you as a provider. Not as a sexual being though. So for your own sake you do want to have game as well. And improve and keep up your looks.

@josue never again ask a girl on the second date to be your girlfriend.

@Ampresus what hobbies do you have? Any activities, or sports you do? What music do you listen to?

Of course everything differs from person to person. That being said I am getting more and more convinced that it by large has to do with how men and women get conditioned. The vast majority of the women has a "I am the price" mentality. Only a small percentage of the guys have that same "I am the price" mentality. If you really deep down believe that you are the price, and it's their loss, it's easier to move on.

Yeah well just saying. I don't care either way if it stays or not. I would not even blink if the PM function disappeared though.

@Leo Gura well just shut down the PM function then except directly to Mods, and keep all the discussions out in the open. That should be an easy fix. I don't see why anyone should have a problem with the PM funtion disappearing.

I think there is a fine line between a poster actually trying to help a person, or that a poster is trying to create stage for him/herself. Or in other words is the post about the message/information, or about putting the spotlight on the posters own persona.

Actually teaching people is one of the best ways to learn yourself. When you are trying to teach a subject it forces the person that is teaching to deeply understand the subject. When teaching highschool students for instance, one of the best ways to have them learn is to assign them topics to teach to other students. Now if the kid teaching in that example fully grasps the topic is another mather. But it's a process of learning. I think most people 'teaching' on here are more reflecting, organizing their thoughts, and holding up a mirror for themselves.

@Serotoninluv @Emerald Those stories of yours brother and friend John are examples of how the Family Law court is canted against men in their own right. But those are examples where the mother is an edge case, SO it's better for the father to have full custody. BUT the majority of the cases both parents are just normal people, both perfectly suitable to raise kids. And if the father does not fight the case (spends a shit load of money on lawyers) he does get stiffed with having his children every other weekend, and dinner on on Wednesday evening. Having his children every other weekend, and Wednesday evening dinner. That's the standard court verdict. So the dad becomes a glorified babysitter. Now again we are not talking about edge cases here. Just normal regular people. Why should the standard ruling not be to assume both parents having custody of the kids? And an equal amount of time shared with the kids? It's flashy to discuss the edge cases. But although I am sure not intentional, it does injustice to the normal regular dad dealing with a normal regular mom. Now on top of that let me explain how childsupport works, because most people don't know this. To determine how much childsupport a parent needs to pay there are really TWO BIG factors. 1. The parent that earns more money is the one paying child support to the other parent. The bigger the gap in income the more the higher earner needs to pay. I am sure everyone is familiar with this. 2. This is the interesting one. Because most people don't know about this one. The more you see your children the less child support you have to pay. The less you see your children the more you have to pay. Now the guy who only gets to see his children every other weekend and on Wednesday evening he effectively realy sees his children 3 out of every 14 days. Much less then the mom. So the guy ends up paying a lot more, because the court ruled he can only see his children that little. So he gets screwed twice. 1. He is not allowed to see his children much at all. 2. He ends up paying a lot more because he is not allowed to see his children a lot. Now ofcourse a father needs to provide for his children. But it's not a good feeling to be handing over money to the mother and then she decides what's gets done with it. If the dad is a capable parent he should be able to spend the money directly on his children in my opinion. On top of that a lot of times fathers end up paying more then what the mother spends on the children. Effectively sponsoring the mothers lifestyle and not the needs of the kids.

@Emerald what @TomDashingPornstar was aiming at is men very often losing access to their children after divorce. And having to pay alimony many many years after a divorce. Even if let's say for example she was not loyal to him, and it was her idea to get a divorce.

That's right. You can study the History books. But if you you have never soaked up the atmosphere of a Family Law courtroom in a liberal state like CA you are really missing the direct experience that we are talking about.

Well shit I studied to be a History teacher and I fully agree with @TomDashingPornstar.

So if parents divorce their should be assumed 50/50 custody right? That's equal. But that's not the case.

I think it should be possible for people within Green to have different opinions, perspectives, and agendas. But if women standing up for their rights is Green, then men standing up for their rights should be considered Green as well.

"Me too" and divorce rape, as the mob mentality and guillotine.

That seems unreasonable to me. If he is not a creative person to begin with. Then you should have found yourself a creative boyfriend, if it is that important to you. Instead of molding this one into something he is not. That would be like me wanting to have a slender girlfriend who is into fitness and healthy eating. And then I get myself a fat girl. And then I start to force her to loose weight and go to the gym by making all sorts of shitty comments about her figure. It would have made more sense for me to find a girlfriend who is fit to begin with then right? I think it's your own responsibility to motivate yourself. As it is his own responsibility to motivate himself. That really should not be your job. Now him being a rudderless guy without any ambition that is a problem. If anything I think he supplicates and 'supports' you too much actually. Rather then setting his own course. Women want a guy they can look up to it's just female nature. But to me that does not mean he should try to be more creative if that is not him. He needs to stop supplicating to you. A good book to read for him, and maybe you as well is: The Rational Male. By Rollo Tomassi. He also has two more books after that. If you watch the video below you will get the gist of it. Although the book goes much deeper and into more nuance. Really the guy you are with sounds too pussy-whipped. Too much trying to be in touch with his 'feminine side'. And obviously he is not on his purpose at all.

So how do you want him to be exactly? Creative? Why does he need to be creative? I was going to react on your first post, but now after reading this, it seems to be getting more unreasonable to me.

My take on it is that a lot of focus within self-help is on 'healing'. Well shit we all got hurt at some point. Just get on with it. It's like that American football saying: "Are you hurt, or are you injured?!!". If you are not injured then just suck it up and get on with it. Too much 'healing' leads to paralysis by analysis. I want to get shit done.

I agree

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@bejapuskas thats cool you are 15. Keep working on yourself. Pick-up a sport or something.