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I am going to give this a shot for a while. Not from a moral standpoint. But I feel like I need to make some health changes.

For the single parents on this forum. How does being a single parent effect your dating life? How do you deal with the cons and pros if any?

@Aquarius I think reading should be good. A book I am reading right now is "A Brief History Of Everything" by Ken Wilber. He is a Stage Yellow character. You can find videos of his on YoutTube. The read is great. It's very nuanced. And he writes very beautiful. He is also very funny if you get is sense of humor. The book being Stage Yellow should not matter I think. The middle between Stage Blue and Stage Yellow is Orange-Green. If you go to church maybe stop going to church (not all change is easy) If you are interested in other religions study their books. Koran etc. Also humans are social creatures. So your development is highly influenced by your social interactions. I don't know what your romantic relationship life is like. If you are in a good relationship I advice not to torpedo it. But if you are not try dating. Use Tinder. That is a very Orange tool. If you are up for it date foreigners and people from other races do that. Only if you actually do have a natural attraction to them. But you can learn a lot from those interactions. It will develop a less ethnocentric and more globalist mindset for you. How do you start being rebellious? Well the above does take care of that to a degree. Watch the documentary 13TH it's on Netflix. Personal freedom is a shift from Blue to Orange. The abolishment of Slavery was an Orange act in a heavily stage Blue era. I know a great book about Hermann Goring pretty much the second Nazi in power after Hitler. But I got to find out the exact writer. Which languages you read? Watch the movie American History X. Django Unchained is a good one as well. One sidenote is that moving from one stage to another is not nesesairly pretty all the time. Some good things from the prior Stage get lost. With Orange for all it's good things, you got to be carefully because it can be very destructive to your personal relationships, your health, and the environment.

Another thing is Democrats winning is literally half of the problem. Democrats and Republicans both have their merits and weaknesses. There will need to be more higher consious Republicans as well. At the very least Democrats and Republicans will need to work together. Instead of further dividing the country. I think the two (or three) party system is outdated anyways. There should be more party's to better represent all the diverse groups within the US. Maybe not as extreme as the multiparty system in The Netherlands, Europe. It has it's own problems as well. But something in that direction could be an example for the USA.

From my observation Democrats win the presidential election if they put up very good candidates. They can't just be ok or good. They got to be very good. Like Bill Clinton and Obama. The Democrats have a far more diverse group that votes for them. Those people are not so much loyal to the Democratic party. They vote for strong leaders. The Republicans on the other hand can get away with average presidential candidates. Arguably bad ones. Because most of the people that vote Republican are deeply loyal to the Republican party. A lot of the people living in the coastal states live in their liberal bubble. They have no idea about the people that live in the middle states and what life is like in the middle states. These midterm elections usually tend to swing towards the party that lost the election as a form of revenge. So nothing unusual there. The Democrats will win the presidential election IF they put up a strong presidential candidate.

@beatlemantis You are being too hard on yourself. I don't think that you have done anything that crosses the point of no return. Definetly not something to have suicidal thoughts about. I am not saying what you did was right. If this is the guy you want to get married to don't do it again. But again, it could be considered cheating, but there are levels to cheating. You sound quite naive. I can tell you in the world out there, there is much more fucked up shit going on in relations on a very regular basis. I personally have done things much worse in my relationships. And girls have done things worse to me then what you did. The fact that you take it so hard shows that you got some morals. If you want to continue that relationship don't bring it up, and just don't do it again. On the other hand I agree that there seem to be some general signs of dysfunctionality in your relationship. Like you being a social outcast. That's more of a personal problem but you take that with you in a relationship. And the fact that he threatens to ruin you. Now again I don't know the context in which he said that. How serious he is about that. And how much of that is a neurotic action of his, or just plain manipulation. I can't can't tell from a written line in a forum post. But it is not the nicest thing to say. So what you want to with the relationship is up to you. But what I want to say is don't beat yourself up too much over it.

@Leo Gura looking at the planning I think it's very ambitious to start at 6-7 PM and cram in both a 3 hour presentation/workshop and a dinner at a restaurant in the same evening. That's going to run well after midnight. (People need to relocate to the restaurant. Service at the restaurant could be slow etc.) I think it's more realistic to do the presentation on Friday then start the workshop on Saturday earlier around 3.00 PM and do the dinner afterwards.

If I know in advance I can request the days off.

Maybe NY but need to know the date first. Might have to decide on short notice. Because of work.

I think it starts with do you offer yourself to the other person. Are you giving value or are you taking value. You can't tell much from a Tinder profile anyways other then how the person looks. Maybe they are high consious maybe not. I think it's shalow to assume on the front end they are not. It's a great way to meet people either way.

Indeed You can start an online dating profile on Match.com and me / we / the forum can help you build it. We need pictures, your hobby’s, your job etc. and I / the forum can tweak it for you. We can even help you wath to say and which girls to talk to. Or stop whining.

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@Peace and Love I have talked online to Poly women, BDSM women, Swinger women, but never actually met up with them. From my limited experience talking to those people it seems like they are often oversensitive to certain things. There seem to be a lot of 'unwritten rules' to navigate. Sometimes even written rules in the form of contracts. I am just not interested in that. Plus I am not interested in anyone banging my chicks. Not saying people should not do it. It's just not for me. I think you are a sexual person. I am a sexual person. Just saying from one sexual person to another, you don't need to do that if it's not you.

I have nothing against Poly people per se. But he is bullshitting you. Bottom line is he wants to bang other women besides you. You are either onboard with that Poly lifestyle or you are not. I don't think it would be for me.

An online dating profile without pictures usually isn't going very far.

When you are in bed close your eyes. Not stiff just like normal. And absolutely do not open your eyes under any circumstances. Not when you roll over to re-organize the pillow or whatever. Under no circumstance. No matter how long it feels like it takes. Eventually your brain will get the message that it's lights out and you will fall asleep. I did this in highschool. It also helps when you think about something really happy like a vacation you took when you were 10 years old for example.

@Pilgrim a lot of women act way too masculine these days. So I would not change a thing. If you want read: "A Brief History Of Everything" by Ken Wilber. I just started, I am on chapter 2 now. Male vs Female and the Masculine- Feminine spectrum are main themes in the book.

@billiesimon you want to attract a woman who fucks, cooks, cleans, right.

Because girls are assholes themselves. Like attracts like