Zane

I would say that I'm in stage Orange but there are elements of stage Orange that I strongly agree with and that I disagree with. I strongly agree with the values of creativity, freedom, individualism, and living life on your own terms but I strongly disagree with abusing power to gain a much better advantage and screwing people over to win or having a black and white "winner and losers" mindset deeply grounded in dog eat dog capitalism mindset. I'm fascinated by stage Yellow and looking at government and society and humanity more holistically. Right now, I'm focusing at stage Green and I have a fascination with alternative ideologies outside the mainstream political paradigm like democratic socialism, socialism, Libertarianism, and Anarchism but I feel like any ideology or cause can become corrupted by extremism. Some elements of Stage Yellow I have is asking questions like "how do societies collapse?" "which historical events and historical figures that Donald Trump's rise strongly parallels?" "Is America deeply contradictory to it's own values?" "which toxic mindsets are deeply rooted in humanity that has greatly limited humanity's potential?" "is modern humanity achieving it's potential or wasting it's potential?" "Does society, politics, and humanity need a new paradigm shift? If yes, what is the next leap forwards for humanity?" "is history an internal monster that keeps returning to haunt us?"

Epiphany, I would love to get to know you better because you love storytelling as much as I do!! I would love to talk to you about storyteling and your right that storytelling can be amazingly meaningful. I love meeting people like you!

This post is advice to socially awkward guys or socially inexperienced people to give you a success story on how you can succeed socially and how I started from nothing. Some people envy me and think it comes easily for me but that's not the case. I worked a lot on inner game, field work and counseling and social groups to master socializing and i discovered what works or what doesn't work. I know how limiting awkwardness can be and how I used to psyche myself out. I started from a socially awkward weirdo on the Autism Spectrum to an intuitive socializer who focuses on discovering best friends with my niche passions and who is highly selective of who I socialize with. By being highly selective and niche-oriented, you become much more aware of who your best friends are. I focus on seeking out eccentric girls particularly artists, storytellers, and actresses and I open myself up through my curiosity and my passion and being authentic in my socializing but not being desperate or pursuing casual hookups or sex. The highly imaginative and dreamy introvert or the energetic free spirited woman with masculine qualities are who I aim for! My main strategy is being a regular at my college Writing Club and a regular at a Poetry open mic in downtown DC or at a theater in Arlington VA and I act like a VIP regular.

I'm glad you're feeling this initial uncertainty! When you start out on self-actualization, there will be a lot of uncertainty where you will feel lost in life and unsure of what to do. What I highly recommend is to apply an experimental and open-minded approach where you tinker with decisions and give them each a test drive and discovering what truly resonates with you. Maybe science is a deep passion for you or maybe the hard sciences overwhelm you! Maybe there's a path to Enlightenment that fascinates you but another possible path might be too hardcore for you! It requires being open minded and experimental and flexible to a variety of opportunities or you can create your own approach or innovate on a tried and tested approach by doing your own variation. The great thing about self-actualization is that all the tools and resources are available and it's you who uses the tools to your advantage or creates your own life! Right now you're in your late teens and that's great because you have plenty of time left to decide what to do with your life.

I haven't bought the Life Purpose Course yet but i would love to join your Mastermind Group.

My personal development is seeing great progress this year and in the past couple years. What I've been focusing on is personal happiness by slowing down to enjoy the moment and to appreciate happiness in it's simplicity and pursuing new experiences that align with my passion. I'm also working on my inner game regarding socializing. For happiness, I've been focusing on finding happiness in simple moments like the simple act of playing with a cat and the simple pleasure of drinking a hot cup of tea and drinking it mindfully. Areas I highly prioritize are my self-actualization involving creativity and my inner muse, and discovering my life purpose. I'm creating a personal development approach that seeks a wide variety of avenues but it's an authentic approach that is non-dogmatic and entirely focused on one area of personal development or entirely focused on the advice of one guru. How can I create a flexible and non-dogmatic approach to personal development and piece together the puzzle of self-actualization and self-actualization on my own terms? Recently, I've been deliberately socializing with creative people and free spirits who are caught in a quarter life crisis or have escaped from a quarter life crisis as a means to master socializing and to discover people who share my deepest passions and to let them know they're not alone.

I love Celestial Seasonings Vanilla Spice and Lemon tea and Yogi Tea Bedtime. I'm drinking tea and taking melatonin every night before bedtime to focus on deeply relaxing myself by being fully present in the moment. I drink tea as a means for self-relaxation rather than relying on drugs or energy drinks as a crutch to "energize" myself but paradoxically making myself more tired. My tea ritual involves waiting for the tea pot to boil, making the tea, nosing the tea to truly savor the aroma and sipping the tea slowly to enjoy how amazing the heat of the tea feels and how amazing it tastes. It's been hugely beneficial for self-soothing and for getting consistently good sleep.

I have a great video topic idea! The video can focus on mastering your inner brain waves and distinguishing between alpha, beta, theta, and delta waves and how to achieve an alpha wave state and creating the brain waves you want to feel in your life for your self-actualization. One of my big visions is to live my life with alpha waves being my dominant brain wave where everything is lucid, time flows by effortlessly, ideas flow from my mind spontaneously and unfiltered and I feel both relaxed and I feel this deep rapture and enthusiasm for life.

@DimmedBulb I'm also on the Autism Spectrum and i would love to give you guidance in life. In my second semester of my freshman year and my first semester of my sophomore year, I went through academic slumps, I was on the verge of failure and I felt extremely anxious and felt like everything was spiraling out of control. I'm 22 years old and my twenties had just started and I feel like I'm in a burgeoning Golden Age. You can break out of this slump because it doesn't last forever! You have the key to freedom and you might sense there's a path but you could be uncertain which path is for you or where the key fits. Perhaps I can give you some guidance and advice but not do your self-actualization for you. Welcome to Actualized.org and welcome to the Forum!!!

Huz, I know that fear well! I find alternatives to calling people on the phone and whenever I request phone numbers, I always ask "please text me and don't call me!" and I usually request contacting me through email or through Skype. Texting and email eliminates the awkwardness from the phone call while Skype makes the conversation flow much more naturally because you can see the person and it feels way less awkward.

Hedonism and libertarian philosophies and happiness philosophy especially Epicurean philosophy fascinates me. To maximize happiness in my life, I make it a priority to pursue my passions, to discover more passions, and to truly immerse myself in the world's beauty and to stop and smell the roses and appreciate the sunshine and it's warmth and to appreciate nature's beauty. I see nothing wrong with parties, drinking, and clubs IN MODERATION but it's not sustainable for long-term happiness. Sometimes a night of pleasure can be great but it's like a great dessert that is much tastier in moderation. In the past few years and this years, I'm much happier and I've been deepening awareness on my happiness and discovering what happiness is. I'm seeking out purpose-driven hedonism where I pursue hedonism to feed my creative muse and to maximize my muse rather than pursue hedonism for a quick hit of stimulation. I'm not pursuing a quick hit of stimulation! I'm aligning my hedonism with my passions, purpose, and my values and grounding my hedonism into something concrete.

To be an asshole, i recommend observing assholes and study them and their personalities. To discover authenticity, i owe a bit to assholes but instead of cruelty and being cold and aloof, I focus on projecting genuine joy which looks like madness and insanity to an outsider but really, it represents my joy and being completely invested in the otherworldliness of art and that madness and joy gets attention from the actors and they love and feed off the energy. Like an asshole, i'm working on never apologizing my eccentricity and not entertaining criticism and hate and being completely detached from it and valuing authenticity, uniqueness, creativity, and freedom. Paradoxically, an asshole attracts and repels by masking themselves with charm or being funny but they reveal their true nature or assholes fascinate people. Donald Trump is the embodiment of the paradox because he functions like an Internet troll where he's completely motivated by attention and strongly believes that any attention benefits him and he clearly is unapologetic about his insanity and he easily manipulates millions of people because they misinterpret his crudeness and insanity as "charm."

MY ALL TIME FAVORITE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'd love to see Leo vs Tony Robbins!!!!!!

@Jelly_Shades This pyramid gave me a realization! I realized that I had a life purpose over the course of my life from childhood to where I am now. My life purpose is that I want to master the art of storytelling and to tell my own stories and to learn from the master storytellers and how to create my own unique and authentic voice as a storyteller. It's great to have this realization and that I'm in my early 20s. I feel like I want to expand my life purpose and broaden it by focusing on mastering comedy and the art of comedy and how to truly discover my authenticity through comedy. Before I die, I want to contribute something to comedy or to storytelling! I have a life purpose but i feel like i need to go deeper and discover new amazing insights. This realization excites me!

I'm a creative writer and I tell stories because i genuinely love storytelling. I watch TV shows and movies and theater to feed my muse!

I realized that in my late teens around 18 and 19 years old, I had a quarter life crisis where I lost my exuberance, my sense of humor, my happiness and my creativity and I realized that happiness and fulfillment can be self-created. I'm not trying to be deep or piggybacking off philosophers, I'm just giving my own experience. I created a Happiness List to remind me of how happiness can be found and how happiness is so broad and yet so simple. I started the list in late 2014 and I've focused on it from late 2014 to 2016 and it's amazing how many great things have been happening in my own life. I feel like I've re-captured the missing feelings of being highly creativity, a deep sense of childlike joy, re-capturing nostalgia, and being fully immersed in a flow state or being completely in the moment. For Summer 2016, I have 45 happy moments on my Happiness List. I highly recommend creating a Happiness List because it's purpose is to keep your life in perspective, to deepen your gratitude, to live in the moment, to fondly remember the past, and to be excited about the future. 2015 and 2016 are the best years of my life and I'm ecstatic about what the future brings and for adulthood and for my graduation. I bought self help books to fill the void and I would also struggle with sleep that I would spend my days feeling like a zombie. I realized that this crisis was within me and I needed to discover the cure in myself and I discovered that happiness and fulfillment are self-created. I needed to rediscover my inner artist and the inner storyteller who would gush about movies, theater, cartoons and stories with such passion that I drew people towards me or got weird looks. I also wanted to recapture the child who would get so playful and passionate that he made stories come to life and would be so ecstatic that he connected with adults but turned off some of his peers. My Twenties Journal and Happiness List have helped me recapture all those moments of happiness that I longed for like the desire to explore and create, the desire for novelty, the desire for new experiences, and the desire for happiness and the desire to play.

Money Master The Game by Tony Robbins is an excellent book for you! Also listen to the audiobook of Money Master the Game

Honestly, I would write a novel focused on the themes of self-actualization and authenticity and the quarter life crisis and overcoming the crisis. There are infinite possibilities in fiction and fiction is how we discover ourselves! Without storytelling and stories, than we don't have outlets to cope with life. We abandon our childhood imagination as teens and our imagination and creativity rots away until there's nothing left! I want to create a life purpose focused on how storytelling, creativity, and imagination are a path to freedom! I'm working on a writing portfolio for fiction but I want to focus on experimenting with storytelling and discovering the essence of storytelling. Why do stories last? What are the qualities of the best stories? What is the purpose of stories? Why does our inherent imagination and creativity die?

The Happiness List is extremely simple!! Write down any recent moments of happiness you had and list them out. You can type it out and write it by hand!

Nostalgia is one of the greatest highs ever that we are seeking! We fondly remember our childhoods and we see our childhoods as a Golden Age that was a time of innocence and a time of confidence. I will write the best days and moments in my life that left a profound impact on me! I am deeply grateful for these moments and how they inspired my life. 1. The greatest moment in my life was on Christmas Day 2014 in San Francisco. I was sitting on the dock of the bay and it was a beautiful sunny day and I feel completely blissful and deeply relaxed. I was immersed in the beauty of the moment and it re-captured the feeling of being by the ocean and feeling completely relaxed about life. It re-captured the moment I longed for during my bad semesters. It was an inspiring moment that set the stage for my golden years of 2015 and 2016. The end of 2014 was the best possible end to the year because of visiting San Francisco and San Diego. 2. Discovering Synetic Theater, in all honesty, was a magical experience that I will never regret!! I first discovered Synetic on October 2015 when I first saw it’s production of “Alice in Wonderland” and it blew my mind and left me absolutely speechless. The reason why I resonated with the play so deeply was because it was my internal passion calling me. After seeing the show I realized that this was what I wanted Tim Burton’s movie to be. A surreal, whimsical, and horrifying play about Wonderland being dangerous and also a coming of age story!! I saw Synetic’s whole 2015-2016 season and it was one of my the greatest experiences in my life that I will never regret. Synetic is the deepest embodiment of my passion and it is truly my soul mate. 3. I fondly remember my Golden Years of 2015 and 2016, which in all honesty, were the best years of my life. 2013 was undeniably one of the worst years of my life with a constant string of failures! After the year ended, I felt emotionally numb to cope with how overwhelming the year was and I forgot what it felt to be happy. I felt like I was living a quarter life crisis and my twenties hadn’t started yet! 2015 and 2016 were Golden Years because I didn’t just accomplish many goals. I re-connected with the emotions of deep bliss, childlike enthusiasm, curiosity and the higher emotions of being completely invested in a story and becoming one with the story and having a deeper sensitivity to the beauty of the moment. I spent 2013 being an exhausted and worried procrastinator who felt like everything was spiraling out of control. 2015 and 2016 helped me get closer to self-actualization but I want to achieve the highest levels of self-actualization. 4. I never regret going to California all my life and having great and memorable times in San Diego with my extended family. I remember going to the beach every other day, the beautiful sunshine, celebrating Christmas in 2015, and getting to explore Ocean Beach, Del Mar, and Laguna and going to Balboa Park. I feel instantly in love with SF because of the city’s quirkiness and the beautiful nature, the great food, and the great parks. 5. I am deeply grateful to live in a neighborhood like Bethesda where I live near a library and a bookstore and restaurants right in walking distance. I love how I can a bus or the Metro to anywhere in Washington DC. I’m most grateful to live near an amazing city like DC and in close proximity to other US cities and states. I’m grateful to be able to transform any day into adventure! 6. I never regret going to the Caribbean, to Mexico and to the Virgin Islands. I long for these experiences of being by the beach every morning and smelling the ocean and having great days at the beach and being by the ocean. I vow to return to the Caribbean and I promise that I will visit the Caribbean, the Virgin Islands, the Bahamas, Central America and South America. 7. I never regret being a storyteller, a voracious reader, a cinephile, an audiophile, a theater lover, and a history lover and being passionate for so many subjects whether it be music or movies or stories. I realize that the arts has deeply resonated with my life and his inspired me deeply. I never regret telling so many stories and writing many poems. I will commit my whole life to mastering storytelling and to become effortlessly creative. 8. I don’t regret learning about topics that fascinate me. I love learning about stories, self-actualization, creativity and so many topics. I’m so glad that I’m in college taking classes that I love. I’m grateful I go to a college where I don’t have to worry about bullies or social awkwardness. I love getting to opportunity to learn about so much and I will focus on learning more. 9. I never regret deepening my friendships with Laura and Katie and overcoming my social awkwardness and being much more authentic with my socializing. I’m glad that I discovered that there are authentic friends out there for me. I can create a new network of friends and I can keep on mastering social skills. I don’t have to get along with everyone or even have many friends! I want a small social circle of best friends! I’m realizing that there is a whole world out there for me! 10. I never regret seizing abundant theater and social opportunities in DC like going to Synetic Theater and the Kennedy Center and to Wolf Trap. I’ve seen some of the greatest shows ever in my life! I’ve been to so many plays and shows in my day 11. I’m deeply grateful for all the times I spent with my grammy and how we went on so many trips and adventures for her. I’m grateful to have her as a role model.

The purpose of the list is to look at the rest of my life in perspective to realize how grateful I am for everything in life especially those golden memories. These memories make me feel excited about what life brings. We have those powerful moments of inspiration or powerful memories! I tend to focus on both the past, present, and future rather than be entirely lost in the past or too lost in the future. The purpose of the list is to look at my own potential and how I create a great life.

Introducing him to personal development at 13 is an excellent idea because it will give him a huge head start!! I think you should gradually expose him to foundational material rather than the intermediate or advanced material. It would probably be best if he started at the newbie level and gradually advanced his way up. It would be overwhelming him if you introduced him to advanced topics like life purpose!

During my quarter life crisis, I realized that I was having a string of failures, low energy, virtually no creative passion or even inspiration, restlessness and sleeplessness and I lost touch with my passions and my love for life and my freedom and happiness. My Happiness List is a major step in the right direction because it re-aligned me with my own happiness, it grounded me in the moment more and taught me to savor happiness like a great cup of coffee or a cup of tea, and I had moments of deep bliss. Through the List, I re-captured the emotions of bliss, being captivated and seduced by fiction, and feeling in love and relaxed in the moment. I'm sleeping much better, I'm much healthier, and I'm much happier but I feel like there are greater self-actualization opportunities on the horizon. Actualized.org helped me realize so much and I'm so grateful I discovered it earlier! My Happiness List was heavily inspired and based on Leo's Gratitude List and I gave myself a daily commitment to the list. I re-created my life and I'm truly starting to taste and savor how rich and delicious freedom and happiness can be. This List is a huge step towards self-actualization but I feel like I can go even farther.

EXACTLY!!!!! I had my first quarter life crisis earlier which gives me a greater opportunity to live my life amazingly. Tell me about your own list because I'm curious about how you discovered happiness. What inspired the list? How did it benefit your life?