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I'm 34 and i feel like I've lived a lifetime of a 70 year old already (in a good way) that I've done all the cool and crazy things i ever wanted except having a family.I find it comes down to life experience, things you've seen and done rather than years itself that give you a perspective on fast vs slow lifespan So if you feel like life is ruining quickly it could be a sign that months and days blend in because they are too similar? Travelling and living in a foreign country might give you that perspective you feel like you're missing.

It is important to consider what your intuition is telling you but in a major decision such as choosing the school it also pays to be strategic and consider real life factors. You can also think backwards about, where you would like to be by the time you graduate and which college is most likely to get you there. A simple SWAT analysis could also help you to compare at a glance. And finally, channel your intuition into a practical information. Why do you feel that one particular school is ideal, what is is about it, could you verbalise it? Do no other schools have it or have you not looked well enough?

@Elton without assuming anything, do you know what they tested for? The tests aren't usually to help with conception but more to check if things are okay (thyroid hormones, sex hormones, iron levels, vit D etc) do you know if everything came back as normal for both of you guys? Also, absolutely agree with @Yimpa and it seems that with the pressure from family you guys are facing, that's not too helpful. Perhaps you could have a honest conversation with your family and gently nudge them to back off. I had friends who had trouble conceiving and then went for a 2 week holidays to a warmer country and it happened. Could something like that be an option? EDIT: i just read your post about not getting that sales promotion and being really upset about it. Would you say that your current job is a major source of daily stress?

Looks like a pretty solid list covering most of the areas someone looking to be healthy would/should pay attention to Might be tricky to do both at the same time. Restricting wholefood veganism with 6 hour fast might make it harder to get in enough macro and micronutrients. Still doable but needs a bit of additional planning. Other than that: some deliberate down time which isn't used to be more productive can be helpful. some outdoor activities to connect with nature - mountain biking, hike etc Overall great list.

oh and yeah, 100% ! Think about it this way, you could be the best in what you do but if people don't know who you are, what you do and how to connect with you, the business won't pick up. Again, this is my greatest struggle so I definitely haven't mastered the art of cooking the perfect marketing recipe

@shree appreciate you taking time to answer and unravel it all a bit further. I think you're on the right path and it is clear that you know what you can offer to people and what they can expect from you. Would this go on your website or is this purely for your own framing? You would need to cushion this a little bit for a website copy. People don't need to be reminded of things they know aren't going well for them. Maybe you could practice wrapping this up nicely for your home page to help the visitor identify with the message through encouragement and comforting rather than restating the negatives. But I am not expert on copy writing and it is one of my greatest struggles when it comes to content cration. I found having a personal mentor to be invaluable. This is a start but needs to go deeper. Work with AI to help you create ideal client avatar. Love this! Good material for blogs perhaps to start ranking yourself on SEO (easier said than done) Anyways, this is all best discussed with someone who knows their way around content design, online marketing, brand strategy etc. See if you could find someone to mentor you if you have some extra budget. Perhaps even within the industry you work on. All the best with it, I love what you're doing and kuddos to doing it while taking care of kids, jobs, mortgage and being a husband!

@shree was just reading this when I saw notification that you tagged me. The purpose of diploma isn't just to showcase your credentials but it is to create a level of professionalism and a structure and to help you practice safely a responsibly. It ofcourse depends on the type of client you work with. Some people don't care and some will want to see some level of formality before they sign up for your thing. If you are going to be running a business, then you want to make sure you do that as a professional, not just someone who looks like he is dabbling. In general the purpose of accreditation is: to help you frame your scope of practice to protect you from liability if a client case goes wrong (e.g. suicide or self harm) to help you get over red tape (accounting, taxes, permissions to practice, governing bodies you need to register with) to teach you about who you can and can't work with to help you structure your assessment forms to be able to identify red flags that demand immediate referral or place the client entirely outside of your scope to help you stay up to day with the evidence in the field But moving away from that, the first question to answer is, "who is your client". And I know you stated that it is an "adult child from dysfunctional family" (btw please don't use this wording on your website ) but I feel like you have to be a bit more specific. what do they do? where are they found? what are they looking for? what are they googling? how will they find you? Once you know that, you can make the decision whether to go for diploma or not. If your clients are mostly stage blue people, you will need credential and high level of formality. If your clients are mostly green, you need to pay more attention to the vibe that your messaging is giving. Yellow will want to see a mix of all. I know I am not answering your question, I'm trying to prompt you to think deeper because there are many ways to answer the question. Personally, I have almost never been asked about my credentials in the line of work I do but it is writen on my website and I have entire section about professional accreditation so that people can have this question answered.

Hey Elton, sorry you guys have been going through this, that sort of pressure can put a lot of burden on you. I assume you guys have consulted medical professionals and have both undergone proper testing & screening? If not, please start there before embarking on some complex alternative protocols. There is a lot of tests that doctors can run including physical examination as well as hormonal & other blood work.

I think you already kinda hinted at what the next step should be. ^ Moving away from your parents house is essential for your dating life and relationships. Your girlfriend will want to see that you are sorting your life and have moved on. She'll want to see that you are taking ownership, paying your rent, your bills, working on a career, managing finances well, taking care of your body. But I think it starts by separating yourself from your home nest which it sounds like you're already prepared to do

Really good summary by @PsychedelicEagle above. When it comes to salt, there is little evidence that anything other than standard sea salt is really adding benefit and as you said, .... ...it might even be harmful. Tho I'm not familiar with the toxicology research on HPS Iodised salt has some usage in areas with chronically low iodine in diet but overuse can lead to some issues with thyroid gland especially in people prone to thyroiditis or with an ongoing thyroid condition that is not caused by low iodine. Regular non-iodised sea salt from supermarkets is probably the safest and cheapest option. When we say "safe" we have to clarify what safety means. Overuse of salt is linked to hypertension (and hypertension related problems like stroke) and stomach cancer. Many countries notoriously overuse salt and salt rich products like Japanese, Chinese, Koreans but also many western countries which is not good. Salt is also often hidden in products labelled as "healthy" like different budha bowls, sandwiches and even salads. Have a look at processed food you buy and make a habit out of checking their salt content, don't forget to adjust for total weight. So for example if you are eating a sandwich that has 1.2g but the total weight is 250g make sure to multiply 1.2 * 2.5. NHS recommends capping salt intake to 6 grams however some research indicates that this number may still be too high so more like 3-4 would be ideal especially where there is family history of cardiovascular disease, cerebrovascular disease and hypertension. Salt | CVD TLDNR There is no need to invest in expensive salt unless it makes you feel better or gives you a sense of control. Caution with iodised salt. Consider getting into the habit of searching for lowest salt alternatives when buying processed food Try to limit your intake to 4-6 g per day. If unsure, check variations in your blood pressure regularly. Hope that helps

Try sublingual vit D drops. It bypasses gut absorption & portal circulation making it easier to absorb. Just make sure to buy a product that is designed for sublingual absorption

Lately (last 3-4 years) I've been particularly attracted to history books, anything from 5000 BC up to first part of 20th century. I find it really stimulates my imagination and it gives me great perspective on my own life as short as it is in the grand scheme of things. I creates a certain sense of finiteness and makes every day a bit more purposeful. It also helps me appreciate how fortunate I've been throughout my whole life despite all the issue we all continue focusing on. I also love, where I can, visiting sites I read about with a completely transformed story in my head. Couple years ago I took a backpack and a tent and hiked an ancient road built by Romans in Wales for 3 days , crossing a few sites of former Roman forts and cities on the way, spending 2 nights in the middle of Brecon Beacon national park. Was one of the most memorable experiences of my life and it was a particular history book that prompted me to do that. I no longer read books about health because it seems most of them are either biased, filled with delusional quackery or written for a quick profit, hijacking an ongoing fad trend. Similar problem with most new books written on self help, personal finance and mindfulness.

It sounds like you're trying to build your business with integrity rather than just "sell stuff" the way 90% businesses work. So for you many of the original models won't work. Sending out more spam emails in order to attract 1 in 1000 customers is likely to burn you out. Where you should start is trying to understand your customer and your USP. Not just on a surface level but actually build an ideal client avatar and understand them to a depth. Not so much that it gets singled out to one particular person but not so broad that you will try to talk to everyone. AI can help guide you through it. The physical side of business (website, accounting, legal bits) is actually the easier part, the hard part is copy writing, profiling your client, creating your own brand manual etc. There is value in mentoring if you can afford it and there is lots of good content on getting started but it has to start with being able to answer these questions who are you? what do you do? who do you work with? how does it work? why should people care? When you are scoping these things, be specific. No fluffy sentences, no fillers and no place holders. Every sentence on your website needs to hold a value or communicate something.

Yeah, that's a very common side effect of withdrawal. It is going to get better after a while, but a few things you could consider to help you Rather than cold turkey you could go for gradual reduction. Say if your starter was 5 cups a day, you could aim to reduce it by 1 each week and replace that cup with green tea for example. It will take longer but might be more doable. Eventually you may either end up at a very low intake, such as 1 cup per day or completely switch to green tea and then get off that as well. Depends how far you wanna take it. Mix your caf coffee with decaf in about 8/2 ratio and gradually aim to minimise caf while increasing decaf. At some point, you won't even notice that you are drinking decaf.

After years of experiments, my wife and I have niched it all down to morning green afternoon fruit mix evening chamomile I don't even know if any of them works but definitely helps keep us hydrated and gives a sense of routine too.

Good tip. I recall it always took me a few hours to go through each video because i was taking so many notes. One additional tip is, make notes to something to which you'll be able to return later. There is something to writing manually that I don't get from typing so written notes for this particular scenario might work better for that deep cortical retention I've found revisiting my notes even after 7 years helps me refocus and see where I've gone astray.

Sounds like you're at a stage where putting your time into something that transcends the usual 9-5 job would give you the motivation. With your age, financial background and skills you might be uniquely positioned to start working on your life purpose before having kids. Do you feel a deeper sense of passion or calling towards any direction? We all do, given recent events just important not to let it slide you too deep emotionally. I've noticed my day to day mood kinda worsening lately and I've correlated it to exposing myself more to media and news so I'm actively cutting myself away from all of it.

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I'm not an expert but maybe you could take this outside of just therapeutic setting. Conflict resolution requires a lot of soft and hard skills like listening, empathy, negotiation, being able to find win win scenarios. I cna imagine stuff like this being important in larger international organisations. Is that something that would be of an interest? Legal firms, procurement organisations, international peacekeeping organisations, government bodies, international relations etc

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It's unlikely that their price: earnings ratio will be what it was anytime soon. The investors clearly saw how overrated their stock was and the bubble burst. If you got some leftover cash lying around and want to go for it for the thrill of it, sure why not? But there is always risk in investing in a single company that you don't have when you invest in a fund where individual performance tends to balance out among the index corporations. Otherwise if you wanna play slow and strategic game, nothing beats standard index fund investing with regular monthly contributions. The Tesla case has been repeated over and over across years by many other companies, tech giants and industrial Corps going back to 60s but if one thing is clear is that the index funds have always shaken off radical drops where many companies haven't.

I think what you're describing is sort of a curse of being competent enough that you can organise your life so effectively that working on your life purpose every day is no longer a luxury or a possibility but it becomes a reality. So the rules of usual 9-5 work/life don't apply to you anymore because you have to master your own time and at the end of a day there is nobody there to give you a pat on the back and say "good job today". No boss to celebrate success with and no promotion to be secured. Its just you against you and every day feels like a drag even you are probably achieving more than 80% of your peers clocking at 9-5 job. Tho it may feel like the opposite. What the LP course doesn't fully tell you, I feel, is how miserable working on your LP often is The results are amazing and those moments when you feel like its working and you are on a path towards something greater than yourself is the best feeling ever but the hours and hours and hours of manual grudging work that nobody praises or rewards you for is frustrating and disheartening. I've experienced that more than enough time where I should feel achievement at the end of the day but all there is , is a feeling of incomplete void. Somebody raised a thread about the misery of pursuing the path of self help optimiser and this is basically it. You become so competent that it takes a lot of imagination for someone to actually appreciate what you've achieved. (often including yourself). Not to mention you yourself have to create a system of tracking achievements and milestones otherwise you'll go crazy with feeling of inefficiency. But the opposite is a mid life crisis so savage that some people actually ponder taking their own life. Fathers who have an epiphany in the midst of their 50s realising they have pissed away their most productive years in some corporate job, had kids too early, pushed their dreams aside and no longer have time or energy or mental vigor to go back to school and get re-educated. That sort of misery will outweight any grudging work you put into your LP today by a magnitude of ten thousand. So its suffer now or suffer later but if you are conscientious enough that time will come ad that is as guaranteed as the next day's sun coming on the horizons. So you are on the right path, just need to fine-tune day to day operations. On a practical note, it also sounds like you're simply not giving yourself break and instead are whipping to achieve performance. Could you share a little bit more detail on how your day to day routine looks like from morning to evening? How do you measure progress in your work? How often do you take time to reflect on past period? Do you have a mentor or someone to help you create a structure or navigate path forward? When was the last time you've taken a holiday? How do you celebrate success albeit a small one?

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This is hard to generalise as different people may have different requirement. Compare a 17-year old teenager who is growing at a rate of 6 centimetres a year who also attends a basketball practice 10 times a week plus leads an active social life with a 52 year old dad who spends 9 hours a day sitting in the office does not exercise and drives car to work. You're looking at a difference of up to 1500 calories of energy requirements easily. But averaging it out using something like a gaussian curve of normal distribution, 80% of people will be somewhere along the average. Meaning average activty, average lifestyle, average amount of deviations (e.g. sunday hike, or saturday bike trip with kids). And so for those, using something like recommended caloric values are actually pretty darn useful and accurate. The remaining 20% may need to do some additional adjustments. But if we were to move away from this completely because it feels hyperrational and needing too much micromanagement, the other option is to use your intuition and observe your body signals losing hair prematurely or graying hair - might need to eat more (but also could be unrelated to diet) losing weight unintentionally - might need to eat more (or an ongoing complication) gaining weight unintentionally - might need to eat less or ongoing health complication like hypothyroidism often constipated - need more fibre, eating too much processed food and processed meat bad skin, too flaky, dry, eczemas - might need to eat more wholefoods and more protein, more healthy fats, less crap low energy - might need to eat more unprocessed food overall or might need to eat more food overall need to sleep after lunch - need to eat more wholefoods and less processed stuff to balance postprandial insulin spikes poor exercise recovery - low protein / low calories not gaining muscle despite training - more protein or more calories total problematic teeth - more wholefoods, less sugar (or poor dental hygiene) Also, all of the above could be completely unrelated to food in some cases or could be completely related to food as well so important to step away from observing just one symptoms and look at the full picture. Not sure if that helps

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