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You should mostly ignore them in polite conversation including dating, work, socialising etc The only times when you can touch them is either when she is your girlfriend/wife/fling, when you are a medical professional examining the tissue or when specifically given permission (usually drunk scenario) In all other scenarios assume that boobs are neither to be talked about nor touched nor looked at (when she is looking at you) or it will make you look like a pervert. Sure, you can take quick glances and everybody does just try not to get caught The fact that a lot of girls like to flash them around does not authorise you to touch or really pay them an excessive amount of attention, that usually turns into an awkward scenario pretty quickly. When complimenting (in a non-formal setting), at least in the West, you can compliment things like evident weight loss, dressing style or a particular piece of clothing, new hair, makeup etc. You should not compliment individual body parts unless you are very familiar with that girl and you know she appreciates it. As a guy that is - girls can generally compliment each other's body parts in a conversational scenario - this is also very country dependant and would probably be more likely in the Mediterranean region and less likely in the Northern and Western Europe where relationships tend to be a bit more professional. In a professional setting, you generally don;t compliment people on physical appearance, you compliment on professional achievement or personal achievements (family stuff, achieved education etc). Rarely you can compliment on stuff that is obvious and begs to be complimented on (e.g. long-hair girl comes into the office with short hair) - that should be acknowledged. But if you noticed she got a boob job, unless she opens that topic, you do not talk about it. When you are in a professional setting - work, corporate etc - you do not acknowledge any differences between gender and completely forget about people's bodies and looks. Forgetting this unwritten rule not only gets you fired but will get you labelled as a sexual harasser and can get you into a criminal register. The professional setting is dry, direct and formal communication only , with the exception of a colleague or a person with whom you're extremely familiar and comfortable.

Both, but the thing that bugs me on phones is the inability to remove tags (has someone figured this out?) Otherwise the forum is well optimized for phone.

Games can be more cognitively stimulating, often requiring a much higher level of deeper concentration, and can lead reduced rate of blinking and that intensity might, in some people lead to headaches. You might be unconciously tensing your jaw , neck, traps and upper back muscles while focusing - pay attention to that, all of these things can lead to headaches potentially. Some games also require endless micro-ing and task switching, that could also be it. Movies usually don't require that. Do you watch movies on the same monitor?

@Kksd74628 that's fair feedback; you're right, I was being insensitive. Thanks, I'll pay more attention to it !

If you guys are still together 12-months from now and you'll report that the relationship chemistry, communication and synchrony is great, we can say that it worked.

This might be pushing it a bit too far. I'd try to cut it down by 20-30% and see if that works better. I think high-carb breakfast work really well for most people, but there is a threshold, which once crossed can lead to a bit of a brain fog. Alternatively, try cooking the oats rather than eating the dry and replace the yoghurt with some raspberries or strawberries - it might help balance it all out a bit better. If your current weight is < 70 kilos, you can probably make do with fewer calories. I weight 86 kilos and would not be able to stomach that quantity of food either, pretty sure. If your stomach is full to burst it defeats the purpose of energising meal. Another tip that I've been doing lately is to make a smoothie bowl from 2 bananas, cup of berries and some greens and flax and then I grind about 80 grams of oats into that with some prot.powder I find if I exercise within 90 minutes of this type of meal, I can lift more, I'm more explosive and I can extend the reps-till -fatigue- by up to 3. Its an anecdotal report so take it as such. I don't get the same boost from oatmeal tho. Only works in summer, I hate cold breakfast in winter

@001 I still do while at the same time trying to dig myself out of that- it's a sort of a "going forward" goal

Couple of years ago I was journaling exactly on this topic, and I concluded the article with this picture. Even now, years later just looking at me fills me with dread and an incredible sense of sadness. If I was to summarise it with a single sentence, it would be: "The realisation that I've wasted my entire potential and spent my life serving someone else " I think that particular day I promised myself that I'd never give up on myself even if it took me 20 years to dig out from wage slavery

Are we talking about existential fears (e.g. child, or partner dying tragically) or more like weird unusual types of fear?

@at_anchor do you have an exercise habit?

on a daily basis for months and years? yes it turns you into a food slave But to do this as a one-off experience, especially for someone trying to sort out a bunch of health problems or oprimise for energy and mental performance it may (or may not) give some hints. For a person confused about nutrition and trying to make sense of it all, tracking is an incredible tool shedding a lot of light and clarity. Also if you're interested in long-term health preservation, things like Cronometer can help you calibrate things - such as doing ad hoc tracking, say once every 3 or 6 months. But yes, it shouldn't become toxic and cause anxiety about micro deficiencies etc. I think any tool you use can become both useful and toxic - its all about balance isn't it

I'm so done arguing over nutrition with you

@LSD-Rumi just curious have you ever experimented with things like large doses of St John's Wort or Saffron? Some of those experimental trials show comparable effects to even Prozac or Mirtazapine but I've never had an opportunity to try them with anyone because they can't be mixed with any meds.

@MarkKol yeah , chia's safe to eat daily. Make sure to adjust your profile based on your age, weight, height and goals + those numbers will adjust accordingly The only ones I'd be worried about in excess the most is sodium, saturated fats and maybe vitamin D & A (if you supplement) everything else is fine

The second day is not bad. Don't worry about Vit D just supplement that. The rest can be pimped with some modifications and addition of new foods -for that calcium either throw in some dairy or tofu and sesame seeds. For vit E a couple of almonds should cover that. Vit B12 either animal products or supplement The first one needs more carbs and more protein - this will also bulk up the calories and probably cover the micros as well I love playing around with Cronometer, everytime i do i discover some new micronutrients superfoods i didn't know about. It's a good way to build a functional diet and cover micro deficiencies although not ideal if you're a foodie who's all about pleasure.

can you describe your meals? Or even better, can you take a pic of your breakfast, lunch and dinner and post it here? constipation is one of the side effects of Biperiden Hydrochloride (Mendilex) so maybe changing that med for an alternative would also help

it is an extreme protocol to a condition that (in my opinion) requires an extreme approach - almost like a reset. Alongside everything else I described, it may work (but results not guaranteed, the LC can be a bitch to treat)

Do you have a LinkedIn profile? Do you have a CV? ↑ start there if you even want to be invited for an interview. If the problem is that "I have nothing to put on my CV" - well, that can be fixed as well but you may need to start with an internship or a lower paid position to gain exp

@undeather fabulous response ↑ - few probing questions for you are you talking about salt (NaCl) or Sodium? Would the above be realistic for salt only? What's the gold standard for CVD risk mitigation at the moment in terms of optimal sodium intake per day - this is one I'm still not clear on. Also, when assessing the evidence, do you solely look for lab studies with 24-hour urine collection? What do you think about some of the evidence pointing to safflower and rapeseed potentially scoring even better than olive oil where LDL reduction is concerned? I am less and less convinced that veg & seed oils (with the exception of coconut & palm) are that different from each other when it comes to human outcome data.

i'll spare you the complex explanation - you can probably get that from chat GPT. In a summary? You are probably stressed as f**k and need to figure out how to relax (basically what this entire forum is about) So do whatever it takes to calm yourself down - meditation, hot baths & showers, cuddling with a pet, watching some silly movies. But I think, ultimately, you need to process whatever the hell happened to you. Maybe you should work with a good therapist to guide you through that process. I don't know if @Emerald comes around often but you could reach out to her via https://www.thediamondnet.org/ Here are some DONT's for you if you struggle with panic attacks caffeine stimulants of any kind more trips cold showers fasting and meal skipping loud music, scary movies and noisy environment arguments with people (even online) If it is very bad, some meds for a short term can help too

nice one Ok, couple questions then Do you consider ethics and sustainability in your approach, or are you solely looking to maximise health potential? What are your goals? - Are they more short-term? (muscle hypertrophy, strength) or more long-term (longevity, chronic disease avoidance) Any eliminations? Any existing health comorbidities? Do you have a food budget? A lot of what would commonly be considered "junk food" actually has an exceptional nutritional value which is why they would sometimes be used alongside chemotherapy, for example, because they delay chemo-induced cachexia. And considering a lot of it is getting enriched with vitamins through fortification, by that definition some of these products would match the definition of a superfood You could say that leafy greens given the price per calorie are (by your definition) junk food. Rice probably too. Maybe even lean meats like chicken or turkey which besides protein have a poor nutritional content and exceptionally high ethical tax. My definition of junk food would probably be something along the lines of: "a food or a food component that has been linked to unfavourable outcomes in human health independent of energy excess and independent of existing health comorbidities if consumed on a regular basis ("regular basis" is a poor definition of duration, I know). And I would also add - or where a minimal harmful dose has already been established with relatively strong accuracy and where zero consumption would offer the highest risk mitigation - by that definition, I would go with processed meat, butter and probably even red meat because those harmful doses have clearly been established with relatively decent accuracy and the less of those you consume, the better - all things being equal. Everything else is dose dependant or context dependant So here is a complicated answer to a simple question . . . . Btw I'm just teasing ya because I don't love to answer these sorts of questions without having a rigorous assessment of someone's diet and understanding their goals which is why I usually spend up to 4 hrs talking to folks before giving any advice. Sounds to me like you're on the right track and the closer you can get to a somewhat personalised variation of a Mediterranean diet the better. You are likely going to benefit from addition of healthy processed food like tofu, dark chocolate, cocoa - you know the good stuff. While limiting the above. Everything else comes down to personal ethics and ecological preferences as well as budget and local grocery availability Hope that helps!

@Migue Lonas hey , thanks for the tag. "clean eating" is a pretty barbed wire term. What does it even mean. Ella Woodrow in UK got a pretty big backlash for advertising this couple years ago. I'm sure if you asked 10 folks on this forum what the term means you'd get 10 different diets. So let's start there - what does "clean" mean to you? And what do you consider junk food?

Practical steps. Think macro right now. What do you need to be putting your energy in. I see you indicated Life Purpose above - probably the way to go. Is you career / finances / living situation stable? Could holes in there start interfering with the LP work at some point? (e.g. running out of money, getting too much sas from parents etc)

Sounds like you lost the footing with the LSD trip and now need to reground yourself. Probably going easy on spirituality for some time and practicing more "down to earth" activities and habits would help. Eating - Intermittent fasting can be stressful for the body - you are already tense so it might be better idea to eat more often, more cooked foods even. There is some evidence that skipping meals increases circulating levels of cortisol in the morning. Might be good to experiment with more balanced approach. I'd go back to regular meals. I'd even reconsider keto for something like a nice balanced mid carb mid fat mid protein approach combined with lots of fruits, veggies, cooked aromatic dishes. Think curries, stews, soups, Mexican and Indian dishes. Panic attacks are a Yin condition and you need to counter with a Yang diet. Weight lifting - If standing under a heavy barbell is not a grunding activity then I don't know what is Not the most spiritual but what you need is to put some weights on to figuratively" hold you down" - weights are an awesome way to do that, no to mention extremely beneficial for mental health through neuroplastic adaptations. Those cold showers I'd reconsider too - you might actually benefit from taking hot showers. COld exposure is stressful , again turn the tap on activivities that put your adrenals on hyperdrive. Cold exposure is for people who are burned out, you are too hyped up and need to calm down Church and prayer - yeah this is good. those seem all like a decent chocie for your condition. Are you on any meds? With that ketamine - it is important to find an experienced practitioner to guide you and who will supply you with clean product. I would say focus on lifestyle and diet before going into this thing. Couple more things you can try. I found headstands oddly calming or just hanging your head off the sofa for 2 minutes seems to activate parasympathetic dominance (maybe that's not how it works). Or just some light yoga practice - bridges, downward facing dog etc. Remain in a single position for longer and focus on calming down your breath. journalling - on everything that happened to help yourself process IFS - someone already mentioned this. Not a bad idea. Do you camp? Do you have any outdoor experience? Spending more time outdoor on your own could help (when you feel better). Like camping solo for a day or two twice a month could work extremely well. Solo hiking has helped me put my mind in order a lot of times before. Ideally choose a location that is not too busy as human interactions take you outside of reflection. And finally - when you are in limbo like this what you need is to reconsider your purpose in life and open yourself up to new calling and ane journey. Maybe everything seems meaningless exactly because you realised your life was missing a deeper spark. But maybe you're not ready to fly away into enightenment yet and what you need is to take a stage Yellow approach and put some energy into life purpose work. That outdoor time can help you.

Family can be tough. On one side you feel obligated to love them (even tho deep down you may not feel it) and you feel obligated to be there for them even if you don't want to. On the other hand, many families pressure their kids by guilting them with stories about personal sacrifice during and kind parenting during upbringing. "after all we've done for you"...this type of toxicity. But remember, you did not sign up t be brought up - they chose to have a baby and if they now use it to put an expectation on your shoulder, that's a sign of bad parenting and a MAJOR sign of immaturity. Can you move out? Could you afford a rent of as low-cost flat (maybe even shared accomodation with another person)