Raphael

I didn't watched this episode, but it maybe contains valuable insights about sleep.

I know how it feels. You are frustrated. You are angry. You are tired as fuck. You look like a zombie, but still cannot sleep. However, sleep is the total opposite of that. This is in these moments that you need to relax & let go. Just exhale again and again, it will maybe not make you sleep immediately, but it will progressively calm you. Being calm feels better than being angry, and being calm is the prerequisite to fall as sleep. Let go of the need to sleep well, just calm down.

@Striving for more I had sleep issues since I was a kid (maybe 5 or 6) and this is still an issue for me. This month have been pretty rough in terms of sleep quality, I'm trying to do some changes here. From my perspective, all the basic tips (going to bed at regular hours, avoiding screens before sleep, eating healthy, exercising regularly, etc.) works to some extent. If you don't have these basics implemented, you should try to do it. I personally fucked up everything for at least the last 1-2 months which I think has a negative effect on my sleep quality. However, sometimes even when I do that it doesn't work, my mind it just super agitated and doesn't want to shut down. I also recently noticed that how I spend my days have an influence on sleep: how much I spend time on social media, how much I multitask, what kind of information I consume, how fast I go through my days, how I handle stress, etc. In the moments where you cannot sleep, it's important to slow down.

Don't Use the Internet to Entertain Yourself (from Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World - Cal Newport) When it comes to relaxation, don't default whatever catches your attention at the moment, but instead dedicate some advance thinking to the question of how you want to spend your "day within a day" Figure out in advance what you're going to do with your evenings and weekends before they begin Addictive websites & activities thrive in a vacuum If you haven't given yourself something to do in a given moment, they'll always beckon as an appealing option If you instead fill this free time with something of more quality, their grip on your attention will loosen If you give your mind something meaningful to do throughout all your waking hours, you'll end the day more fulfilled, and begin the next one more relaxed, than if you instead allow your mind to bathe for hours in semi-conscious and unstructured web surfing If you want to eliminate additives entertainment sites, give your brain a quality alternative

Can you share the link?

Drain the Shallows (from Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World - Cal Newport) Identify the shallowness in your schedule and cut it down to the minimum, leaving more time for the deep efforts that ultimately matter most Once you've hit your deep work limit in a given day, you'll experience diminishing rewards if you try to cram in more Shallow work doesn't become dangerous until after you add enough to begin to crowd out your bounded deep efforts for the day Treat shallow work with suspicious because its damage is often vastly underestimated and its importance vastly overestimated Shallow work is inevitable, but you must keep it confined to a point where it doesn't impede your ability to take full advantage of the deeper efforts that ultimately determine your impact

Apply the Law of the Vital Few to Your Internet Habits (from Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World - Cal Newport) The Law of the Vital Few: 80% of a given effect is due to just 20% of the causes Decide what tools really matter: Identify main high-level goals in your professional and personal life. Keep the list limited to what's most important and keep the descriptions suitably high-level. For each goal, list the two or three most important activities that help satisfy it. The activities should be general enough to allow you to clearly picture doing them and should be general enough that they're not tied to a one-time outcome. Consider the network tools you use. For each tool, go through the key activities you identified and ask whether the use of the tool has a substantially positive impact, a substantially negative impact, or little impact on your regular and successful participation in the activity. Keep only using the tools that have substantial positive impacts and that outweigh the negative impacts.

Quit Social-Media (from Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World - Cal Newport) Social medias fragments time and reduce the ability to focus To master the art of deep work, we must take back control of our time and attention from the diversions that attempt to steal them Have a strict limit for a site to regularly access your time and attention Use only the necessary tools: identify the factors that determine success and happiness in your professional and personal life. Adopt a tool only if its positive impacts on these factors substantially outweigh its negative impacts Reject the state of distracted hyper-connectedness

Healthy police officer. She's maybe even green, not sure.

True. But, I'm specifically talking about the highly dogmatic ones, the more low-conscious, the ones that are not possible to change and integrate not matter what we do. A highly developed nation need to be careful to not accidentally overblown itself with such people while helping others who can evolve. I don't think so. That's the same reason why some people are banned from this forum, if we allow too much low conscious people here this place would become a mess and die. It's a little similar with a country.

I agree with that. I personally think that immigration will happen (and is happening) naturally and that societies will become much more multicultural no matter what, but at the same time developed countries need to be able to handle challenges caused by immigration. Many people that move out of their country because of difficult living conditions are mostly at stage blue which causes a clash with orange and green values. And some of them are also too low conscious for an highly developed country, and cannot be trusted. The ideal would be to have a psychological and consciousness test before immigration to see if they are conscious enough to live, evolve, and integrate in an advanced society. But almost nobody knows about spiral dynamics there's no such technology. I think that mass immigration need to be regulated with proper systems and that countries need to limit the number of new people each year because otherwise it will overblow them.

Sleep The quality of my entire life is dependant on the quality of my sleep. I need to find a solution for my sleep problems.

30 November 2020 Wake Up Time: 07:38 AM (objective 5:30 AM - 6:00 AM) In Bed Time: 10:40 PM (objective 9:00 PM - 9:30 PM) ❌ 45 minutes of Doing Nothing Before Going To Sleep Work Sessions: 10:00 AM - 10:45 AM I responded to a client and did some video editing Focus: 3.75/5 Duration: 45 minutes Deep Work Sessions: 11:00 AM - 11:30 AM I wanted to work on some video editing, but was too restrained by my lack of sleep Focus: 3/5 Duration: 30 minutes 07:32 PM - 08:52 PM I did some video editing Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 20 minutes 09:36 PM - 10:27 PM I continued doing some video editing Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 51 minutes Almost didn't sleep of the entire night, almost couldn't work of the entire day. I took a nap after 6 PM, I was able to work better after that. I need to take naps during the day when I have a sleepless night. Average Focus: 3.43 / 5 (objective at least 4 / 5) Total Work Duration: 2 hours 26 minutes, including 2 hours 11 minutes of Deep Work (objective at least 6 hours) Total Reading Time: 0 minutes (objective 0 minutes, I'm not reading anything currently)

Weekly Statistics (23 November 2020 - 29 November 2020) Total Working Hours 27 hours 23 minutes Average Focus 3.4 / 5

29 November 2020 Wake Up Time: 07:18 AM (objective 5:30 AM - 6:00 AM) In Bed Time: 10:30 (objective 9:00 PM - 9:30 PM) ✅ 45 minutes of Doing Nothing Before Going To Sleep Work Sessions: 11:10 AM - 12:45 AM: I did some website updates, and some video editing and uploaded it to Youtube. Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 35 minutes Deep Work Sessions: 02:15 PM - 03:13 PM I did some video editing. Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 58 minutes Average Focus: 3.5 / 5 (objective at least 4 / 5) Total Work Duration: 2 hours 33 minutes, including 58 minutes of Deep Work (objective 0 minutes) Total Reading Time: 0 minutes (objective 0 minutes, I'm not reading anything currently)

Why? And also, let's be honest, it feels way better to accept them, show compassion and empathy than being arrogant and condescending.

Disgusts of Lower Stages I noticed that I have a disgusts for people who are at lower stages of development. By lower stages I mean everyone below high orange/green, but sometimes I'm also annoyed by high orange/green. Many times I find these people dumb as fuck (which they are in some sense), and I'm also arrogant and condescending towards them.

Unleashing Dirtiness This journal is going to get more dirty. One thing that I noticed is that I'm trying to present myself as a "good" person on this forum to please my ego. To really grow I need to break my ego defences and boundaries, and therefore share more about my vulnerabilities, things that I'm not proud of, aka deep dirty aspects about myself.

28 November 2020 Wake Up Time: 06:26 AM (objective 5:30 AM - 6:00 AM) In Bed Time: 10:50 (objective 9:00 PM - 9:30 PM) ❌ 45 minutes of Doing Nothing Before Going To Sleep Work Sessions: 08:35 AM - 10:30 AM I did various optimizations. I'm having an issue with cumulative layout shit, maybe using a CDN could solve it Focus: 3.75/5 Duration: 1 hour 55 minutes 10:47 AM - 10:35 AM I installed a new image compression plugin. I also distracted myself a bit Focus: 3/5 Duration: 48 minutes 11:44 AM - 12:42 AM I created a list of websites that can contain broken back links. I also searched for a video editing software Duration: 58 minutes Focus: 3.5/5 01:55 PM - 03:35 PM I searched for some websites and did some researchs on backlinks Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 35 minutes 03:45 PM - 4:48 PM I created two backlinks and responded to a client Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 3 minutes Average Focus: 3.45 / 5 (objective at least 4 / 5) Total Work Duration: 6 hours 19 minutes, including 0 minutes of Deep Work (objective at least 6 hours) Total Reading Time: 0 minutes (objective 0 minutes, I'm not reading anything currently)

So... If I try to understand: From a materialistic perspective, I can say that there is an objective common reality From a (I don't know how to call this) post-modernism perspective (maybe?), reality is different for all individuals even if they can have common behaviours From the perspective of a mature mind, reality is always relative And the above points make sense, but only from a certain perspective. However, beyond the mind, reality stop to be relative and become whole again because only the mind see relativity. And, as the mind is an illusion, it can only see itself from itself (and refer to itself by using a pointing word like "mind") and create perspectives which are illusions because the base is groundless. I feel like I'm messing things up Like if I have two paint buckets? For example: a blue one and a green one. If they are separated, we can clearly see the blue and the green, but if I mix them together they become one. The new texture is the only thing, but at the same time, this thing is blue and green.

27 November 2020 Wake Up Time: 06:20 AM (objective 5:30 AM - 6:00 AM) In Bed Time: 09:30 (objective 9:00 PM - 9:30 PM) ✅ 45 minutes of Doing Nothing Before Going To Sleep Work Sessions: 09:15 AM - 10:58 AM I did some research for an optimization. Something is blocking me Focus: 3/5 Duration: 1 hour 43 minutes 11:42 AM - 01:13 AM Not even sure what I did because I was so unfocused. Focus: 2/5 Duration: 1 hour 18 minutes 02:45 PM - 04:46 PM I resolved the error that I was having, then I noticed another issue and started to fix that one Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 2 hour 1 minutes Average Focus: 2.83 / 5 (objective at least 4 / 5) Total Work Duration: 5 hours 2 minutes, including 0 minutes of Deep Work (objective at least 6 hours) Total Reading Time: 0 minutes (objective 0 minutes, I'm not reading anything currently)

26 November 2020 Wake Up Time: 07:08 AM (objective 5:30 AM - 6:00 AM) In Bed Time: 09:25 (objective 9:00 PM - 9:30 PM) ✅ 45 minutes of Doing Nothing Before Going To Sleep Work Sessions: 11:50 AM - 01:01 PM I responded to a client, did some SEO optimization, and some research. I also distracted myself by doing some research on insomnia Focus: 3.5/5 Duration: 1 hour 11 minutes 02:11 PM - 02:57 PM I cannot work properly. I'm too exhausted, too tired of all these sleepless nights Focus: 3/5 Duration: 46 minutes 04:42 PM - 6:14 PM I did a little more of SEO optimization. I also did some research on link building and distracted myself a bit Focus: 3/5 Duration: 1 hour 32 minutes I went to bed too late yesterday and still almost didn't sleep. Average Focus: 3.5 / 5 (objective at least 4 / 5) Total Work Duration: 3 hours 29 minutes, including 0 minutes of Deep Work (objective at least 6 hours) Total Reading Time: 0 minutes (objective 0 minutes, I'm not reading anything currently)

Ok. I see, I'm making an assumption here. But some patterns are repeating, no? Can't we categorize the pattern to create an imaginary common reality? I have some difficulties to grasps what you are saying, it's seems like my mind can't compute. Do I need to go beyond the mind to understand what you mean?