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This scene is from Genious, the real interesting part starts at 2:30. The teacher and the students are all blue, except for Albert Einstein

I never tried painting and never thought about this. However, I find your idea original. Thanks for your help

Hello, I am currently confronted with a problem. I have an intuition that I need to do something without a really clear vision, and there's also some logical explanation coming with this intuition. I am currently seeing that following this intuition will correlate with my vision for the next few years, however this vision is not crystal clear and need to be sharpened. I know that they are things I want in life, but I have no really clear vision. I am not able to visualize more than 5 years in the future, but if seems I have some short terms intuitions. Last time that I deny such an intuition I had some of the worst consequences that I ever got in life. What do you think of this?

"Loneliness is what gives you the vision of a genius" - Leo Gura "If you cannot be alone and be ok it's that your not in good company" - Sadhguru

To f****** self-actualize!

Hello, I start seeing a new psychologist for several months. I want to mention that it's not the first time I try, but the third. I also created a subject on actualized.org because I was unhappy with my previous experience However, I am disappointed again with my experience. So here are some questions I want to ask you: Do you think that it's normal to be frequently late (like 30 minutes to 1 hour)? Do you think it's normal that in every session a psychologist asks the same questions asked in the previous one? Do you think normal saying she doesn't like the manner of a patient? Do think normal that when I tell her I don't like my job she says that I need to get more experience to get another one where I told her that I am working on my own personal business? Do you think normal that a psychologist doesn't give any exercise to a patient? From my perspective, she is negligent and doesn't seem to believe in my ability to make things happen nor consider my values, but rather want me to live like she considers to be "normal" and "healthy". So, are most psychologist incompetent? For me, having a degree doesn't matter so much but being open-minded, comprehensive, compassionate, with the aim to help someone to achieve its goals and helping to understand and correct mistakes (real ones, not ones based on cultural or any kind of conditioning) should be part of the core values of a psychologist. Generally speaking on which aspects a psychologist could really help? This is obvious to me that speaking of enlightenment and the nature of reality is useless with most of them. However, things like relationships should be ok.

@Etagnwo This is very relevant, thank you. I also thought about that, and this seems for me to be the reason why a lot of them are inadequate to help on the path of self-actualization and don't understand common issues on this journey. @Charlotte I saw in some of your posts that you are interested in psychology, what do you think about this?

I hope he will be completly dead from the inside

@Moreira @Quanty Could you please elaborate?

@Moreira This is relative, sometimes doing this is needed

@Erlend K Some of your answers are pretty enlightening, thank you A lot of these question where facts on my life like "Do you do sport? What sport?". She asked questions like that several times, took note, and then took note again. Or questions like "You never go out? Go to cinemas? To parties?" in multiple consecutive sessions It was not about me, but about another person. A web application. I am currently working as a programmer, I started programming on my own at the age of 15. So, I am pretty confident that I can build something. However, I still lack of experience in the marketing fields ------------------------------------- She also sometimes contradict herself.

Maybe he got a huge ego backslash and he couldn't resist his addictions

@Dan Arnautu I recently got a new job, I'm in a testing phase. Another employer told me that I have to bring chocolate before being confirmed in the company and that all others have done that. How should I react to this? For the moment, I think I will bring the chocolate. Is this going to make me a victim? Or should I say an assertive "No"?

Hey, after watching Leo's last video on social systems and reflecting a little on my life, I started thinking about homeostasis and its importance in everyday life. As I am getting older (I'm still young) like you, I am becoming more aware of its functioning. I am seeing the impact of this process in some specific areas of my life and in particular for my last three years were many things changed for me. However, I often had big backslashes after big progress in some areas. I am particularly thinking of my results when I was in school, where I struggled to maintain good results. I was very unbalanced and had some moments where I quickly shifted from being one of the best in the class to one of the worst. The same thing happened recently for my relationships. Currently, the only solution that I am seeing to prevent homeostasis is to make little changes and not try to brute force the system. Like this, it will be able to handle changes, and controlling the backslashes would be easier as they will be smaller. What do you think about this? What have been your experiences with homeostasis? How do you handle it?

This is exactly what I did many times in the past! I don't really understand. I understand that I should accept them, but becoming grateful for them seems more difficult. Good advice, thank you.

Thank all of you for your awesome answers! What if I experience an existential crisis and have a violent shift in my vision of life? When I was 18, I was sure of what I wanted to become in life and was working hard for it. I was also knowing my values and fighting for them until everything collapses the next year. Hopefully, I am currently regaining motivation, vision, and working hard again for my life. What's also really freaky is that it can act after month and years of progress without we notice it. I didn't think of that, this is very valuable, thank you.

Hello, I am currently experiencing this problem for several days or maybe or week or week. I actually take too much time to fall as sleep because my mind is bombarded with thoughts. Here's what I do before going to bed: Reading for 1 hour Meditation I don't use screens at night because of the blue light effect. Do some of you have the same problem? How did you overcome it? Thanks

It was ok last night, however I had this problem when waking up this morning. Maybe I should work on some specifics issues in my life to stop thinking so much about them

@Salvijus I go to the gym 5 times per week in the morning. Today I was there at 6 AM, and now I'm planning to start my workouts at 5:30 AM

@TruthSeeker47 As I said, I don't use any screen at night. I'm reading using physical books for the moment. So, when I go to sleep I already stop using any screen for at least 1h20 before. By the way, I am already using app to diminish to blue light effect.

Hey @Dan Arnautu, I have a question about The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem's sentence completions exercises. Would you recommend finishing reading the book first, then doing Nathaniel Branden's program at the end of the book? Doing it while I am still reading the book? Or doing sentence completion exercises given for each pillars while reading the book or after finishing it?

Be also carefull with things like Quora or Medium. They are very similar to this forum and have even more addictive potential

Having a hard time to conciliate that life is completely useless and no matter what I'm doing I will die with the fact that as Nathaniel Branden said "Your life is important. Honor it. Fight for your highest possibilities" and that I should take actions to make myself feel better, have a life purpose, create and contribute to making awesome things happen in the worl I know that starting any new kind of business is challenging, I'm not expecting that to be easy at all. Why will it take twice the amount of time that I think it will take? Where should I look elsewhere? I have heard several times that one of the fastest ways to become financially independent is to create a blog and/or youtube channel; deliver free content regularly, and sell quality affiliates information products and/or my own information products at an expensive price, but still affordable. Concerning the money itself, I live in a country where $ 700 - 800 is enough to live financially independent. After having stable revenues in this range, the next goal would be to increase them. I find this kind of conversations more interesting, I usually get bored when people spend most of their time speaking about nonsignificant things. I hate small talk. I didn't think of that this way, but most of the time it was more like they didn't appreciate me because I was different. However, it's quite interesting, thanks, for the insight. Same as before, and I also remember a pretty powerful experience where I had a deep talk with a homeless man in the street. After that, we became friends and he even invites me to a restaurant and pays for me. I don't get it. It's like the most counter-intuitive thing ever for me right now. I don't understand why they need to test if I'm weak or strong. It seems to have something to do with the need of power. Are they even conscious that they are doing this to "test me"? What if I stand for myself in this kind of situations and say no? Why is this not strong? Should I then accept everything like washing their dishes? I this is the solution, how do I do that? I have already experience that several times. It's like I am very calm and say nothing for a long period of time, then they push my buttons too far, and then I explode in rage and furiousness. But I also had an experience where I did nothing, stay calm, and control myself no matter what. I found out that they will slowly stop because they got bored of not seeing me reacting. I will try this one if I get in a dislikable situation. Thank you.