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@Scarecrow You can play with the idea that you can be perfectly happy and fulfilled in life without having any friends at all. It is no rule having friends is good or bad, right or wrong. This insight can be a relieve for some people. Spending time alone is often a good thing. Study the subject of friendship. Ask yourself questions like: What is a good friend? Do I need friends? How many friends do I want? What is a friend? What kind of friends do I want in my life? Am I a good friend? When do I need to spend time alone? This makes you more confident in who you are and what you want in your friendships. Meditation will help you too.

Your body is a biological machine and all the actions taken by this machine can be explained by the laws of physics. You experience you are the one taking these decisions and actions, but in reality you are not. Your body has already taken the decision for an action before you yourself experience the feeling of taking decision and action. I read this in a science magazine many years ago. So I think your body has its own destiny, and you can enjoy the ride of life and see where it takes you.

I think the reson why you can't take action is because you don't believe in what you are doing. You have to be deeply sure that your actions are the right thing to do. To be authentically sure about what you want in life, do inner work. As someone mentioned before, Leo's Life Purpose Course has content about finding your true values. That's a start. Whatever you are doing in life, make sure it serves humanity and the world. I think serving humanity and the world is a core value in all humans. Align your actions in life with this value. Maybe you also need to detach yourself from the need of taking action. I get a feeling of desperation in your writing. Play with this idea: You can spend the rest of your life doing nothing -- just sleeping, eating and pooping -- and still be happy and fulfilled. Try during your meditation to let go of your needs. Let yourself just be. About visualization: I think you are pushing it too hard. Try to let the visualization come more naturally. Daydream instead. Let your unconscious mind lead you to new interesting visions by daydreaming. You have to deeply believe your vision is the right path in life for you. Feel free to let your future vision morph and change by time. Ask yourself: What do I want in life? And give yourself a deep answer to this question. And don't think too much. Use your intuition.

100% better results. The few digital books I have bought are unread and forgotten. I avoid staring into screens if I can. It is tiring for my eyes. I love paper books, especially with hard covers. They don't get deformed after usage. I have a silly habit every time I buy a paper book; I smell the book and then I fantasize how the book will impact my life and future.

I can feel your pain. It sounds like you are having a mild depression. But there are ways out of anxiousness and stress. You can get back on track in life, and feel the flow and joy again, that life has to offer. There’s a video called “Why am I depressed?” It is one of my favorites. Have you seen it? After about 11 minutes into the video Leo describes a mindset or meditation technique. See if it can help you. You can study the content in this video, try the technique, and also discuss the video content in this forum.

Hi, spicy_pickles, What exactly is it you want to be? You seem to be very unhappy now. What do you think about the self help content at Actualized.org? Do you like watching the videos?

I tried to read Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations. I think it is a sleeping pill. I cannot read these kind of books. The text is too boring. But about what you could be doing more in your everyday life: Maybe reconsider if the time you spend playing video games and watching youtube is well invested. Ask yourself: What goals do I have in life, what is the most meaningful for me in life, what are my dreams in life, what am I good at in life and how can I develop my strenghts, how can I make the world a better place to live in, and is playing videogames and watching youtube helping me somehow in life or leading me somewhere in life? Reading personal development books and meditating is very great, but just don’t forget that you also have to live life and do things in practice. Like, after reading a book about dating and love, it’s time to go out there picking up a nice girl, or boy – whatever you prefer – and then you will see what life has to offer. You are asking why you feel unfulfilled. Just spend time doing things you feel is important and meaningful. And keep meditating. I tend to get deep answers to my questions while meditating.

I think you are doing the right thing staying away from them. But if you think you can help them, helping them could be great. If you think ignoring them is better for yourself, then ignoring them could be better. I don’t see doing self-actualization work as something selfish. Value it to develop yourself, so you in the future will be able to help more people than just your family members. I think it is just natural for young men to be “selfish” and do their own thing. I think it is supposed to be like that. I think it’s common with cultural pressure that ignoring your family is wrong. I myself am from Sweden, where we don’t value the family as high as in many other cultures.

There's something Leo calls for “a monkey mind”. Your thoughts are a bit everywhere and you cannot focus, and you are just doing stimulating things that tickles your mind. Look if there’s a video about addictive behavior. Study the video. I hope it will help you. And start meditating. Meditation is supposed to be the best habit you can have, someone said. Study videos about meditation; there are many of them. Meditation will help you focus. It will also give your mind the rest you need for your tasks. You can also ask yourself why these things really are important for you. Go deep with this. Because if you truly find them so important, and you are aware about the importance, then you won’t have any problem getting them done. Good luck!

I hope in the close future, when you see people making careers, you will feel happiness instead. You will think for yourself: “So wonderful to see people living life well! Life can be hard, but these people managed to find their careers and passions!” What makes you feel sad and not happy seeing these people succeed? What change do you have to make to feel happiness in these situations? There’s an interesting mindset Leo talks about in the video Why Am I Depressed. I recommend you to watch and study the content in this video. Maybe you need to work on finding your life purpose? There’s a lot of material on this website about finding your life purpose. Good luck!