Concioushairqueen

I left my husband last year and some time after I hit "enlightenment" and now he wants to work it out but we are so clearly different now. In the past I would have come running back and although it may work out at some point I am not drawn to him and no longer have a need for him.. I am self sufficient and confident without him.. I believe if we got back together now it would be detrimental to my growth, I can only hope that we at some point will grow back together, in the mean time I am whole and happy.. someone once told me you will never truly love me til your need for me goes away..

I just grasp this last year myself, I always check my moral radar and ask myself "am I doing this to feel good or am I doing this for the good of everyone" good deeds don't need recognition it's something you do simply because it the right thing to do but that right thing can't over-ride a core belief or the well being you! Other people feed off of good people if allowed thats where your good judgement comes in, Good luck, it seems you are grasping it and admitting the issue means it's a work in progress!

If u are helping others selflessly it's a good thing but helping them and getting run over isnt, or doin it to feel good isnt, u can be helping someone and being selfish at the same time.. I've recently cut everyone including my family off so that I can grow and live like happily, not everyone family or not wants best for you, only u know what's best for u. Set a foundation and no matter what don't over step it! And don't get taken advantage of! You could be using ur energies for greater things that aren't draining you!

White lies are still lies and the anwser is no... one lie leads to another and another becoming a cycle of lies no matter how small it starts to be... my opinion is to stick to your core beliefs at all times so respect and trust isnt lost