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Determinism is when you choose something in order to avoid something else. The desire to avoid is because you have not integrated that aspect, therefore wanting to get away from it. To choose in order to get away is not free, because you HAVE TO get away from something else. Free will is when you choose something because you like it or want it. In FREE will, there is no aversion to other things. Think of it like an ice cream buffet. I choose watermelon not because I HAVE TO get away from chocolate, which I hate. No, I choose watermelon simply because I prefer it in that moment. Choosing something to get away from something else, and choosing something because of preference are two very different things. Think about it: choosing a well-paying job, because you HAVE TO get away from poverty, because poverty is awful. Vs. Choosing a well-paying job not because it's well-paying but because you prefer the activity of doing the job to other activities. This video will also explain the path of choice:

It's creepy because it feels unnatural. Like, "Why would you approach me and give me a compliment? You don't even know me." It feels like an attack. I prefer to be approached in an organic and natural way, through a common interest for example. Pushiness is a no-no. It's good to be attuned and feel the vibes of the other person at all times, and drop it if you get a "go away" signal. I'd say, look for people who are open and then start approaching, and proceed if you get permission. That would be the simplest and most effective tactic in my opinion. As an idea. But even if I'm open and looking for connection, I may not like a compliment. A simple "hi" would work much better. It doesn't really matter what you say. It's about connection and the feels. If you feel it, it's there. If you don't, then no matter what you say or do, it won't work.

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It sounds like you are going after the wrong girls. It sounds like those girls don't like you. So why should you waste your time on them? "Whereas, I have to go through this long process of initiating conversations, texting and keeping in touch, cause they don't even make an effort to connect back. And there is no certainty. I have been absolutely crushed in the process." ^This is not how it should be. You should not have to work so hard. If you have to go through this, you are not approaching the right girls. These girls will never like you so you are completely hitting your head against the wall over and over again. It will drain you, crush you and destroy you and you will never get what you want. The mindset change is this: Let's assume that you are going after the wrong girls. Ask yourself, how is this true? How would you like this process to be for you? Why do you let these girls treat you so badly? Why do you insist on going after these particular girls? What bad thing would happen if you went after someone who actually liked you back? I hope this helps!

I think this is a very cool idea! And even if you don't meet anyone, the dance will teach you to attune to your (female) partner, lead her and keep her safe, which is extremely good practice for real life relationships.

@JayG84 You are very welcome!

Without experiencing the "negative" you wouldn't have any reason to give rise to a new desire and move towards that. Within fear there is always a personal truth that will teach you more about your life path if you stop to listen. Everything is energy and everything vibrates, but things vibrate at different frequencies. Like different radio channels. You have to tune your radio to a certain frequency to be a vibrational match to the music that is broadcast on that frequency. So you are a little like a complicated radio receiver. Law of Attraction states that like attracts like which means that energy that vibrates on a certain frequency gets pulled towards similar frequencies and pushed away by other frequencies. Things appear first as thoughts. Thoughs vibrate on certain frequencies. If you think a thought long enough, it becomes an emotion. Emotions are more "solid" vibrations. Then if you feel a certain way long enough, it becomes more and more solid until it manifests in your reality as experiences and other more tangible things, things you can sense with your five senses. So all the thoughts and emotions in you are vibrations and they keep attracting matching vibrations all the time: other thoughts, experiences in your outside world, encounters with people etc. You always know what vibration you hold by how you feel. Positive emotions vibrate closer to Source or God and thus, your highest purpose. More negative emotions tell you you are going against your highest purpose. But still, at the same time, you can't get it wrong. God does not look at any vibration and condemn it as negative. It's just a learning experience so to speak, and behind every negative emotion there is always a positive intention and message. I hope my answer made sense!

You can't get in the way of Law of Attraction. You attract whatever vibration you hold. If something gets in the way of something you want, you attracted the thing that got in the way. It's not possible to be left behind. You are it. There is no behind, so to speak. If you are afraid, then it is your purpose in that moment to be present with the fear. That is your "destiny", that is "God's plan". If you feel that fear gets in the way, you are in resistance to fear and what you resist, persists. You will attract more fear. You can't feel that you have something with all your heart while you are still afraid. So face your fear with love and it will melt away. <3

@Superfluo Yeah, I've tried them and they have worked for me too! I have "Heritage" hanging on my wall and over the last few months it has helped me manifest more meaningful discussions with my mother about our relatives and cultural heritage. I've also seen some old photos of my family that I've never seen before. <3 Recently I discovered that I need more safety in my life so I'm beginning to work with "Sense of Security". <3

Your problem is that you think that there's something wrong with a need for attention and that you need to get rid of it. Why? How does it make you "a bad person" if you need attention? That's your shadow. You are meeting the need in toxic ways, because you think there's something wrong with you. What you need to do is accept the need and meet it in non-toxic ways, such as get on stage to perform or whatever floats your boat. Get up there and tell everyone, "I love attention".

That’s beautiful ❤️

The reason they don’t get what they imagined is that there are reasons why they don’t actually want what they think they want.

I have been wondering for a while if that's what you really want? Do you want to leave? Cause I understand if you do, I've felt the same way. For me personally, I had to face the fact that my growth is in staying and facing those demons that I want to escape.

Also realize that "normal life" and enlightenment aren't contradictory. You don't have to become a monk to become enlightened. Enlightenment encompasses all life, it's not just about meditation. Chop wood, carry water. You don't have to choose. In fact, you can start building your life (like Leo said), but in a conscious way. Try to make conscious choices. Your awareness will naturally rise higher and higher.

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Hi, Leo! I love your videos on Spiral Dynamics, Lifestyle Minimalism, Body Awareness, Art and Conscious Politics. I would be very interested to hear your take on Covid-19 from how you see it raising our collective awareness and how it might change the society in a big way. What kind of value shifts should we expect, what kind of lifestyle changes might we face and what kind of opportunities lie here for us? I think this kind of video might help people see the big picture and bring relief and a sense of purpose. Thank you!

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Hi, all! As we all know, Leo is a proponent of mastery, becoming really good at what you do. That's great and very inspiring to me. But it seems that there are all these mixed messages coming from different directions when it comes to being happy and successful in your work. Some people say that it's not so important to be the best or even that good, as long as you provide value for other people. Someone who is the best at something that no one needs would end up alone and unhappy. Conversely, someone who isn't that good but focuses on helping from the get-go would end up having connection, feeling valued and needed. Another thing I'm trying to reconcile with mastery, is marketing. I just recently started my own business and everyone says that you should spend at least half of your working time on marketing. Around 20% of time would be spent doing business managing, such as book keeping, which would leave 30% of the time to produce the actual work. Does this sound strange to you? Do people with this schedule still have time for deliberate practice? I would barely have time to actually do the work that customers ask me to do! It just doesn't add up. Are all these opinions part of the modern anti-mastery mindset? If so, how does one reconcile mastery with providing value and marketing? Balance? What are your thoughts?

Eat as much McDonald's as you want while being mindful and you'll naturally realize in time that you don't want that in your diet. It's not enough that your mind realizes it. Your body has to realize it too. How do you feel after eating it? Watch this (includes an actual example with a hamburger):

He didn't necessarily blur the calendar because he was embarrassed of it though.

Well, you said you were struggling with lack of energy and tristesse loosely translates as depression, so I thought I'd give it a go. Also you mentioned lack of concentration and that's basically a form of anxiety. If it doesn't resonate, that's okay. Although you can see that from my perspective, I saw a connection there.

There's this thing called "post-coital tristesse" or PCT. Maybe look into that? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse

I'm an introvert and I find people to meet online. Then you can join group activities, like someone suggested, if that is not too difficult for you. You don't have to be an extrovert to meet people and make friends. Just find ways that suit you specifically.

It sounds like you don't know how to connect to people.

Okay. I don't know what "play" stands for here, but it might be useful to consider that when a person's trauma memory is triggered, they might not be in a very playful mood. The people will have to be provided with validation and comfort, a safe space to process the trauma.