Joel3102

Guys usually make the first move. As @d0ornokey, I would recommend getting well versed in RSD to learn the social dynamics of dating before you settle down with a girlfriend. The skills the will teach you will give you the abundance to truly find the right pick for you.

Leo's idea of the metronome app works good for me

Love Jim Carey!

Good stuff. I'm about a quarter through his MBT.

@Siim Land Yes, my friends will definitely roast me... but it'd be a good chance to learn to not care Australian culture isn't particularly welcoming to those who decide to go sober.

Hey guys, so my depersonalisation is back, and it's really bad this time. Feel numb and detached (not in the good way), disconnected from reality etc, all the usual symptoms. Anybody here dealt with DP disorder? Is it possible to overcome simply through higher consciousness and meditation? Keep in mind DP and spirituality/enlightenment are COMPLETELY different things, I've had experiences of both and they're almost polar opposite in my experience. Help would be much appreciated going through a pretty rough time.

I'm considering doing the same thing, I've reduced my drinking like 90% since discovering personal development, but I think doing this and going cold turkey would be a great option!

-Zen -Tantra -Daoism -Sufism

@ZX_man Usually temporary.

I'd be careful about jumping to the conclusion that you're experiencing depersonalisation just because the world is starting to seem a little less real. I've dealt with DP and it's really not related to spirituality as much as some think imo, it's a dissociative symptom in response to anxiety. Do you have any anxiety issues? If it is depersonalisation, don't worry about it because ruminating over the feeling will just allow it to persist.

I loved the rawness of the nightly retreat reports

Depersonlisation and enlightenment are very different things. DPD is an anxiety and dissociative disorder where you feel cut-off from the world and your body, to me it's almost an opposite feeling to enlightenment its subsequnt feelings of oneness. DP is literally a defence mechanism triggered by anxiety inducing situations. I understand that they have similarities, such as the feeling of unreality of this world, but don't confuse DP with the Truth.

I would like a breakdown on the different facets of spirituality. This would include enlightenment, and some of the paranormal phenomena that you've touched upon. Also the difference between spiritual purification and enlightenment. Is it possible to have a direct knowledge of Truth, yet still have miles of spiritual purification left? Or visa versa? Could one still be primarily living in monkey mind but still be enlightened? Also, are there enough free hours in the week to make serious progress working a 9-5?

My current thinking is to dinstinguish between: Low consciousness hermits - who can't socialise, play video games all day and have no direction in life High consciousness hermits - people who've trancesnded excessive socialising/partying ect I used to be more the first, then for a few years I was way too into partying/socialising/popularity, but it was kind of needed to up my social skills. Now I'm more and more interested in spending time in meditation or just being. People think I'm boring now lol.

Sounds good, I haven't done much of it but I've found when I do my awareness skyrockets

How does self enquiry in particular help, more than meditation?

https://stronglifts.com/5x5/ If you stick with this you will get great results, it's not easy though

It's just a whole bunch of ad hominem and strawman attacks. It's not enough to just demonise and poke fun at hippies/psychedelics without actually doing the work yourself!

I made it last night, it's nice!

This was extremely helpful to me.

Lol, I've tried its not easy. Show them a video by a teacher that's very grounded and they can't just dismiss as new age/religious... eg Leo, Peter Ralston, Ken Wilber

@Rider I used to be really keen on learning pickup but since getting into non-duality it's really subsided. Do you think it's still worth having a period where you learn game skills for overall personal development? Part of me still wants to do it and I'm trying to find a legitimate justification for doing game that's not just ego-boosting.

I'm an Aussie but might be travelling to NYC at some point in the mid year

Out of the blue I've had really bad insomnia the last few days. Like 3 hours of sleep a night, and it's starting to freak me out because I don't cope well with no sleep. Feel like a zombie, can't focus or do anything, yet I don't really feel tired as much as wired out. Trying to work out what could be causing this, nothing in my life has really changed, I'm not stressed or anything. My only current theory is that I've been going heavy with Leo's concentration technique recently, and made some pretty gains in my awareness. Could this be a side effect of my mind rewriting itself? If anyone has any insomnia tips would be much appreciated.