Salvijus

@NightHawkBuzz dude, your whole life is one big stupidness ? Until people get fully enlightened they are just an expression of ignorance and stupidness to different degrees. So don't sweat about it. If you want to reduce the volume of stupidness in your action, than spiritual practice is the only solution. ?

There's a simple way to test if you're enlightened or not. If you can't do this, you're not enlightened. One who is fully aware of his immortal nature has no fear of death, and is beyond suffering. Because you need ignorance to suffer. You need to be unaware of truth to suffer. You need to be deluded to suffer. One who is fully dissolusioned and fully aware of truth is incapable of suffering. Every fool can understand intelectually that he's immortal, but when you put it the test, why do you react like you gonna die? Because it's only intelectual, not experiencial. That's the danger of neo advaita. Not that neo advaita is dangerous, but that people who get intelectual understanding think it's the end of the path.

Haha ? okey, thank you for the offer ? But how do you know I already don't do no fap? What I wrote I wrote from experience not from the sky or smth ?

You sayed it yourself that desire and wanting is the cause of suffering. It's true, that part is correct. You also say acceptence of suffering is the end of suffering, correct. But the last part is that your resistence and your desire/wanting goes way beyond your concious awareness. It's deep deep down in your psyche. So to fully accept the present moment one has to sink his awareness into the bottom of the mind, where all the unconscious wantings and cravings and resistence is. If you touch that place with your awareness, you'll find a distance between you and your mind, that's self-realization and the end of suffering to the large extent. But that is not the end of wantings and cravings yet, not full liberation. Still you have to stay in that place of high awareness for long time to allow this awareness to burn all the cravings down. More awareness you have, faster you can burn through desires. Remaining in that equanimous state of no desire, it burns old accumulated desires. In this way one reaches the final goel of liberation.

Okey fair enough ? I bet you have good qualities also and you're a great guy in reality. All people have both, just don't defend the low ones ? that is the way forward. Regards ?

See when you something like that, the reason it triggers people is because when someone sayes I like only teens, it a clear statement that, that person doesn't care about woman's inteligence, personality, love and care, or any other higher conciousness quality, he cares only about the body and sex. It's indirect and subtle implication here. And people find that creepy and apeish and low conciousness, which is true imo. But of course I'm not judging. We are all creepy, disgusting, arrogant people myself included. Nobody here is perfect. The main point is that you're honest about your shortcomings and aware about the lowlyness of it without trying to defend that having low conciousness qualities is a great thing. Nothing wrong with being little unevolved as we all are to different digrees. Just don't make it into something precious that needs to be protected. ?

Yeah, it's the truth alright. But acceptence is not an attitude. It's a state of consciouness. Without deep spiritual work this acceptence won't happen, imo.

@Gesundheit2 yeah, i guess you're right. It did have a preaching tone maybe. But there still was some value and truth to what was sayed, imo. That's why I've sayed those things. Plus I like drama so... ? deadly combination. Always gets me into trouble like now ? tho this reaction of yours is not surprizing. I probably piss off half of this forum ? things I say would trigger 80% of the world I believe... it's okey. ?

@Gesundheit2 sorry bro, didn't mean to trigger anyone or preach anything, just shared how I feel and see things. Sorry if it triggered you ?

If you seriously want to quit addictions, then do yourself a favor and purge your mind through a meditative practice. If you don't know any than vipassana is very good. Otherwise you'll just be fighting with your cravings all your life not getting anywhere. It's not healthy to live like that. There are ways to be free from these things. You just have to be serious about it and do the thing you need to do. ?

I believe some level of that hornyness and sex drive kids inherent from their parents. If parents are in a good state within themselves, some of it transfers to their kids also and it makes it easier for them to go beyond it. I heard that when somebody in the family meditates or gets enlightened it affects 7 generations of family. I don't know the exact science of it but I think there's some truth to it. ?

Lol, you really turned it around, smooth talked ? But still... those words didn't come from nowhere. Using words like submissive, loyal... that's so disgusting to me. These seem like innocent good words but there's a subtle meaning to them which shows a very poor attitude towards another human being. A partner should never be with you out of loyalty, he/she should be with you out of love for you. If you want a person to be with you out of loyalty than it's not a true relationship, it's like having a dog that you can be taught and trained to listen to you and serve your needs... loyal, submissive, not nagging are the qualities of a dog not your life partner........ man.... so disgusting ? I hope you don't take this personally, I don't have anything against you or anybody for that matter. It's just this attitude that is almost everywhere in the world. These days I meditate so much I sometimes forgot that these things still exist. Gives me chills down the spine every time ? Regards ?

Wow, if I was feminist this would really trigger me. That's very disgusting attitude bro... Sorry to say this ?

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Lol. You have a funny way of expressing things ? Yeah, I agree. But it's not the only way, if you're smart you don't need to go through the drama to get to the same conclusion. But probably majority of people need to chase after their fantasies to get dissilusioned and see the pointlessness of it. I do agree. ?

Lol. I feel there's a lot of placebo that people get when they do nofap. Confirmation bias you can call it maybe. The only benefits you will get from nofap is less lazyness because ejaculation drains life force and that's it. The rest of the benefits area bit made up. Also health benefit is there because your body has more energy to heal itself when you're not draining the life force everyday. That benefit of becoming chick magnet is also not very true, well somewhat true maybe. Because when you don't drain the life force everyday, your body attains to a certain glow of vitality and health. And woman kind of get attracted to this. A healthy looking guy will obviously be more attractive than a lousy, drained, no energy person. In that sense yes. Being 10× times more horny is not true. That only happens when you're suppressing the energy without transmuting the energy into something else. Sexual energy wants to be used and released somehow. One way of course is ejaculation. If you don't do ejaculation, then you must be either very physically active, or very intelectually active, or be very hardcore meditator. Than that alloted sexual energy gets used in one of those things and the horniness goes away. Confidence benefit is probably placebo imo. Well... some indirect correlation could be there. Ejaculation somehow makes you feel dirty and uncomfortable, it makes you feel like you just want to be alone for some time for a few hours or maybe a day. But it's subtle, most people don't notice it. Social skills will sky rocket? Placebo. The guy is exaggerating about the depomine thing.

@Raptorsin7 duuuuudeee ? I literally wrote in every post sex can be beautiful and there's nothing wrong with it ? guys you need to read more carefully what I write. It is that obsesiveness about sex that is the problem. A healthy short term solution is to find a girlfriend and let your steam out on her. But not to have 1000 of partners. Just one. That would be a healthy alternative for those who are not at all ready for spirituality and struggling with intense sex drive. A much more sensible and wise solution is of course go beyond these things altogether... I can't make this more simple guys, you need to put at least some effort on your own to understand this. I can't spoon feed you every step ? okey okey. Maybe I wasn't clear. Maybe I'm even wrong idk. But it makes sense to me what I write at least. ?

So you're saying first to get abundence of pleasure as much as possible and then that will give you the power to drop the compulsion? You really think that's how it works? "Okey I've had enough sex I don't want it anymore" yeah, maybe if have lots of sex you will feel tired of it for a week and then it will come back again. This strategy doesn't go anywhere only in circles. But this could work actually. Sometimes people have lots of pleasures and money and stuff and they realize that it doesn't make them happy and then they turn spiritual. But you don't have to go through the entire drama to realize that, if you're smart that is. Anyway the solution is the same, spiritual practice, either you realize it now, or you realize it after 1000s of pleasures. Depends how smart you are ? Now okey, I want to give some credit that it is important for those with vary strong sexual lust and drive to find a healthy way to express it. Maybe to find a girlfriend or something so that they can finnaly focus on smth besides sex. I would just like to add that it's just a short-term solution, like patching a cancer with a bandage sticker. It will keep you going, but the real problem won't get solved like that. But it has some meaning and importance definitely. Another thing I want to mention is that it's not that difficult to overcome these low conciousness compulsions, I have an impressions people think it's some kind of godly only for monks achievement, no man... it's super basic. If you just check any person who's done a 2-3 years of high quality spiritual practice like vipassana or isha, you'll see 1000s and 1000s of people who are free from these obsesive compulsions. Not 100% free but free enough to be happy by themselfs. And not just free from sex but free from all kinds of addictions like coffee, tabaco, alcohol etc. A need for intimacy can still be there, that's a very advanced stuff to overcome, but it's not even neseccary to overcome it since it can be very beautiful and spiritual also. Does any of this make any sense? I'm just repeating the same thing in every post again and again ? I feel we should end it because it's getting exhausting. Regards ? @Preety_India @something_else

Yeah, that's okey, I think the same way, so... ? I even sayed in my previous post that sex can be beautiful and coral etc. Nobody is against it. A compulsion is the problem, and spiritual practice is the solution. ?

@something_else @LSD-Rumi I'm not sure what we're talking about anymore ?... Well first of, I didn't mean suppressing it. As long as compulsion is very strong it's better to find a healthy expression to it. But I don't think hitting on woman in a bar everyday is a healthy expression of that compulsion... debatable perhaps. And the very thing of indulging in this sort of activity will not make you free from it, probably will make it even worse. The way to come out of it through consciouness work. Religious morals don't work either of course. @something_else see, you sayed a sex deprived guy can't come out of this longing because he can't get sex and sex is all he ever thinks about. That's the whole point I'm making that even if you give the guy 1000s sex he will still remain with the same compulsion or worse. The core problem is the compulsion, not how to fulfill the compulsion but to overcome the compulsion. For this only consciouness work is the answer. Teaching a desperate guy how to get laid is just a short-term solution. Which is not a solution at all really. Just a postponement of the real problem. Like giving another dose of candy to a kid to stop him from crying. And instead of encouraging kids to overcome their candy compulsion we teach them where the candy shop is and how to earn money to buy lots of candy as if that will solve their crying problems. Do you see the problem here? ?

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He makes good points about not having hair, but what's the point of shaving eyebrows lol ? Anyways... I've noticed from my own experience that shaving hair somehow lowers the sense of pride, I think that's the real reason monks shave their hair. Also noticed that cutting hair can feel like dropping a lot of the past and be somewhat liberating and gives a feeling of fresh start. But other traditions say the opposite, I think in christianity it is sayed somewhere not to cut hair and leave them grow. In my experience long hair gives a certain sense of balance somehow. So yeah, lots of different opinions like always ?

I feel overcoming lustfulness and hornyness isn't a big achievement really. It's rather very basic step in a spiritual path. However, overcoming the need for intimacy is different. That's quite advanced stuff. But intimacy itself is not that really bad, it can be very beautiful and spiritual if it's used to no fill the hole inside. Intimacy can be coral even. Where am I going with this? I don't know ? the point I'm trying to make is that the right attitude is to try and overcome the lustfulness and hornyness and move into a realm of pure love and connection without lust. Second point is that to achieve this you have to do spiritual practice. Trying to become pro at landing girls will only feed the lustfulness and hornyness and it's just a backwards step in evolution. What's the point of becoming a pro ape? The point is to overcome the ape. And can only happen through consciouness work. Makes sense? I'm not even sure why I write these. Had a feeling this is useful to write. Or maybe I just like drama ? ?

Thank you ??

A concious human being is incapable of doing something stupid. A stupid action is an unconscious action. By vary nature consciouness and stupidness don't go together. Only because of lack of consciousness can somebody perform a stupid action. Once you become concious of your stupidness automatically self correction happens. That's just the law of awareness. Stupidness means ignorance, awareness means the end of ignorance and stupidness. Speaking about coral beings, can you ever imagine buddha or Jesus hitting ladies in a bar with their dick? Lol. Of course not. Because a coral being is not an ape. That's what makes them coral. Makes sense or no? ?