Salvijus

@Leo Gura to have no identity or to make your identity everything. Isn't it two sides of the same coin? Total disidentification means zero, total identification with everything means infinity. Zero = infinity. Both are equally valid in my opinion. What do you think?

@Leo Gura why total identification with everything is > than total disidentification from everything? I think they are both equally valid truths. also wouldn't you say that total disidentification from everything requires a total peak of awareness? I'm sorry if you answered this already. I didn't get it ? if no. Why not.

Sorry, i didn't see you edited that. But you see, I'm not interested in training my body to handle pain either. My claim is that total disidentification is only possible when awareness hits the peak and realization happens that nothing in the universe can touch you. Awareness hits the peak and realize I'm nothing and suffering stops. And of course nothing is infinity also.

Okey, but can I question this? For example, what causes identitfication with the body-mind-psyche? Isn't it that lack of awareness is causing this identification with something that I am not? And isn't it true that if I become fully concious, I will gain the power to see that the identity is not me. When awareness is full on a distance arises between mind-ego and awareness. This is what I call disidentification. A clear distance between mind and awareness. So much so that one becomes totally aware that everything passes except awareness and this gives him total disidentification from everything. So. I hope it's easy to follow. The conclusion should be that total disidentification is only possible if the awareness hits the peak. Because it is lack of awareness that causes identification with mind in the first place. Would that make any sense to you?

See but it does guarantee that the monk who can bear lots of pain is at the peak levels of disidentification. And peak levels of disidentification implies a peak level of awareness that he is in. Because without awareness you cannot disidentify from pain. Would you not agree?

I accept that. And I think total identification with everything leads to love realization. And total disidentification leads to nothingness. I also think these are two truths about reality at the same time being equally true. One is that "I am everything". Another is "I'm am Nothing" I feel they are both true. One leads to total disidentification from everything and end of suffering another leads to total merging into existence. Total engrossed into existence and loving existence with all you have. One is dissmising existence totally another is accepting and loving existence totally. Two sides of the same coin. Yin and yang. What are your thoughts on this?

@Leo Gura isn't it a fair thing to say that if a person can endure big pain without suffering, that his awareness is totally disidentified from the body-mind system and he resides in that place of total detachment from everything.?

Why you didn't agree with what Consilience sayed about pain and equanimity? See I think your understanding of meditation has some holes in it. First of all, it takes enourmous awareness and disidentification from the body-mind to be able to endure big pain. It's not a spiritual trick really. It's a direct consiquence of your ability to disidentify from sensations. Without very intense awareness that is not possible. So... why do you not agree with this that intense awareness makes a person capable to disidentify from everything that he is not and end all blind resistence to the pain?

@Consilience wait bro ? Don't start a fight I'm trying to have a normal conversation here ?

I see. And are you sure it's impossible to attain to this awareness through buddhism if it goes to its peak attainment? I'm pretty sure buddhists know this also. Experiencially I mean. That state of no distinctions. Or perfect union.

@Leo Gura is awareness that I'm nothing. Beyond any quality and beyond suffering not a cool state? I think this is the aim of buddhism. How in your understanding this is different from your God-realization that you speak of? ?

Genuine Inquiry means looking, observing, scanning into who am I. It's a process of paying attention. So it's kind of like mindfulness meditation or deep self observation meditation that gets deeper and deeper as you practice. Mental masturbation is just intelectual gimnastics. For example, "who am I? Im the awareness that observes all phenomena". That's just mental masturbation. Genuine insight is when you observe all phenomena and you experiencially realize that nothing in the universe can touch you and you become god.

@Mz Hyde I like you too ?

@somegirl ? Okey, okey, sorry for sarcasm. Here is my highest wisdom coming from now on. honestly it's very hard to picture the whole scenario based on your describtion of what happened. In general, expossing stupidness is always a painful and embarrassing experience for everbody. Ego is an insecure thing, it always thinks It’s right and perfect. A natural resistence and denial will happen if you challenge that. Unless it's a very concious self honest being. People are usually very defensive about themselves so you have to be sensitive enough to know how much you can push it. You can’t just call somebody stupid moron straight in their face even if it's true. Not everbody is open and concious enough to take it ? if you want to learn the art of relationships you need to become more sensitive and self-aware, qualities like compassion and care help. You're not going to logic your way into every situation and how you should act in every different situation. It's an intuitive thing. You have to feel when you're stepping on someones toes but also not to support their stupidness. There's always an appropriate action in every situation. And there's no technique to tell you what that action must be. If you’re concious enough you will know it from within, if not then there will be endless friction in relationships. That's just the price we pay for being unconscious. But honestly it just feels like a random drama that happens between women that is not of much importance really. Okey I'll leave myself out now ?

@somegirl I think you just need a hug, and for someone to tell you are right and others are losers for not listening to you ??

@Rilles actually "I watching" meditation is very good for what you're doing. A person or I-feeling is actually an observable phenomena not just a vague idea that doesn't exist. It's like a sensation or tension inside the psyche with your self-image on it. If you can become aware of it, the rest is easy. But it takes considerable amount of awareness to locate it.

Yeah, but you see, how successful your investigation will be, is determined by how sharp your awareness is so... ? Even to locate the sense of a person in your psyche you need considerable amount of awareness. Let alone to transcend it.

Spot on intuition. There are any number of ways of rising the awareness. All the spiritual practices and meditations are about that mainly. The sense of being a person will not go away by mentally phylosophizing about it. But you probably know that already, I think.

Ahah, so you already know the answer then ?

The story that you're a person is caused by unawareness. Just ramp up your awareness until you're no longer human ?

This one good. "The power of now" is probably the most beginner friendly spiritual book. And it's very powerful at the same time. Or give him a christian book if he's a christian. After all it's Christ-mas day.

I think you can infuse your spirit and energy into art. That's what makes great art great art. Like for example you can read a spiritual book written by some spiritual master and you can feel the presence and the energy behind those words. The vibration of those words are alive almost. And can even transport you to that place of consciouness where those words were coming from. A book like that have a power beyond the superficial wording only. I think a maschine will never be able to do this. Because a machanice is just data, art is energy and expression of a certain state of consciouness. You can replicate the words but you can't replicate the spirit.

Life is to serve god. Life is to be of service to all life and to be a veichle for god to function and create more love in the world. That's the only real happyness. Selfish life is misery. Very poetic this one ?

@Knowledge Hoarder you're making statements but no arguments to back up those statements. for example some people are really suffering that they can't afford a 10k clock on their wrist. People are capable of suffering all kinds of nonsense that are socialy promoted to be valuable. Sex feels such a exaggerated thing. There's really nothing to it. But it creates this illusion that without it you're nothing. The sex drive is there I don't deny it. But I think uou can easily just masturbate your way out of it and be okey. The rest of the pain is coming probably from social conditioning. Idk, maybe I'm wrong. Im not sex expert. I don't know how I even got here ? I'll stop replaying now. Regards ?

@bloomer yeah but the topic I thought was about virginity as a social status not about sexual desires driving people mad. Btw can't you satisfy your sex drive by masturbating? Is there any difference between sex and masturbation?