Salvijus

That's like saying there's no way to open your palm.

Every heart deep down is longing to become open. How simple it is to remove contraction then. Just do what you already want to do 💛 Aleliuja. Praised be the Lord.

The contraction is something you've chosen to create moment to moment out of fear. You have the power to let go of fear, as you have the power to let go of the tight fist into an open palm. To deny this simple fact is peak self gaslighting. You're 100% responsible if your fist is tight or open. You're 100% responsible if you chose to contract or to allow.

A contraction of me is just unconscious fear. It's like holding a tight fist on existence. Enlightenment is like relaxing the fist into an open palm. You have the power to hold the fist tightly, and you are doing that moment to moment very consistently to maintain the contraction of the ego. But you also have the power to let go of the fist and make it into an open palm. In other words, to surrender fully into the present moment. Test and see. Fist is something you can control. And so can you control your resistence to the present moment. When you let go of the resistence to the present moment fully, there will be no contraction anymore. The power is within you to do that.

The contradiction of ego (self grasping and fear) will fall away when awareness increases. There are many ways to increase awareness. Like there are ways to remove hunger, so there are ways to undo contraction born of misperception. You can't say, "I can't remove hunger because the seeker doesn't exist", no just go to the store and buy the damn food. Or in other words, follow the instructions that rise conciousness and contraction will fall away more and more, misperceptions will get corrected more and more. See.

A practical list of things you can do to open your heart: 1. Sun salutations (Surya namaskar). A beautiful practice to open the heart. If done daily for about 6 months, the results will definitely be visible. 2. Prayer. That's my number one advice. It's very direct when it comes to heart opening. 3. Dancing. This one can be done by yourself at home. It helps to get out of your head into spontaneity of self expression. To shake off the constipation and rigidness that is blocking your flow and playfulness. Dancing and relationships have many things in common. 4. And lastly meditation. A large part of communication is just expressing what you feel. Or commenting on what you feel. However most people don't have much self-awareness. Usually people don't even know how disconnected they are from their feelings. Especially men. That's a big problem. How are you going to express yourself, when you're not in touch with your feelings? It's like trying to improvize on a guitar while being tone deaf. You'll simply have no ability to translate anything inside to outside. So this one is fundamental. But without opening the heart meditation is insufficient. Opening the heart is even more important in that sense.

You're asking the wrong question. Ask instead how to be easy-going, wholesome and confident. I'll give you a clue. It's about how open your heart is. When the heart is open, playfulness becomes your natural quality. Your ability to connect with people increases dramaticly and communication flows effortlessly without any technique. If you want to master communication, you have to master communion and there's no communion unless your heart is open.

Can relate

A small taste of when a north pole flips over. That will be fun.

Yoo, that was sick.

If awareness is only the appearance, then what is observing that appearance?

There are other ways to look funny while also being charming. This one is the opposite of charming. I say no. 👎

Jealousy is a belief that there's something that you're missing while sitting on the throne of God. Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose. Anxiety is like revving the gas pedal while the gear is still in neutral. Playing a victim is an effort to manipulate the outcome while giving away your true power. Insecurity is the fear of being nothing. Judgement is an attempt to kill what you believe has no right to exist. Fear is a ghost. You reach towards it and it dissappears. Holding a grudge is like carrying a rotten fish as a badge of justice. Boredom is the ultimate smugness.

What about awareness?

Idk, I personally still believe in those states. Even the state where all seeking ends I imagine to be pretty dope, magical and intense. Not just small relaxation that you get from something like a massage, haha.