@kurt
To be honest, most of what you wrote is unintelligible to me. Please explain!
What means being good at meditation? Where is the threshold to "bad" meditation?
I've been meditating for 4 months with leaving out 7 days. Still I got much mental fog going on and I realize how my ego is fighting the torment like a stubborn toddler that defiantly spits out his soother and rages around.
By problems you refer to my beating-up problems and not my dating problems, right?
For me, dating has nothing to do with serving needs of other people and not taking something. To the contrary! It has to do with creating a pleasurable situation for myself.
But I'm also not really taking something either. It feels more like I do an incremental change in the world by participating in the dating game. Yes, this involves giving, but it's purely motivated by my own desires.
Additionally, I'm learning that offending people is OK cause leaving the people-pleaser mentality is part of reaching my dating goals for me.
What would you advice me on that world view? I think it's appropriate.
