MonikaBcn

You are definately too needy An u sefull thing to do could be asking the "cool girls" why did they lose interest in you. Assuming that you can handle possible answers...

@Leo Gura What about relationships? Do we need them or its just about sex and enterntainment and it takes way too much work or sacrifice to make then last longer than a couple of years?

@quantum im not talking about being super happy, just not sad to start with you have this belief, u dont know why, it doesnt serve you. Why dont you get rid of that belief that you need to have an impact. You have your own house/body/family/work and mind to have a massive impact on

@quantum Why do you need to have a massive influence to be happy?

@quantum you have the impact on entire universe only through force of gravity for example. Einsteins thery says that all time, past and future exist at the same time. Superstring theory says that everything is built of vibrating energy. Enlightened people say the same: we are all one, beings of light, we are love, we are all and nothing at once. The idea that we exist "by accident" and for no reason seems insane to me. Even man in the sky watching me masturbate seems more believable than this...

@stalker have you tried asking questions you want to be asked?

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@Pallero And u still state that thinking doesnt make you miserable and that you don't want to change?

@Pallero on what ocassions do you hear that there is sth wrong with you? why do people even comment on what´s going on in your head? how do they know?

I would say there is nothing wrong with thinking a lot as long as it doesn´t make you suffer. Do you want to stop thinking and wondering or not? It makes you miserable so I guess you do. What have you done to stop thinking so much? I´m sure meditation and affirmations can help. But frist of all you have to get rid of that belief ¨I am this way, period¨. If not, nothing will change.

how to be respected? respect yourself, others will follow

if it´s your family, you cannot eliminate them form your life. it would break theirs and your heart. If you realize how and when they are being negative, simply don´t let this affect you. keep your optimistic point of view and ignore demotivating messages. ignore their weak moments and enjoy the good ones as for toxic friends and people who really don´t care about your well being - get rid of them without a blink of an eye or at some point they will do that with you for 15 years I was ignoring the fact that ¨my best friend¨ is a shitty person because I felt sorry for her. not worth it. in the end I was the one kicked in my ass

Sorry, English is not my first language

sooo, I´m the car and men are drivers... no man wants to share his car with others, right? tell me milosmajlo, would you like to be compared to a car?

where do you see them?! I think I need glasses or something

You can only know for sure after being diagnosed by a doctor but watch Russel Barkley videos and see for yourself if you fit the description. It was very eye-opening for me.

I started this thread in context of productivity, so I don´t think it´s very helpfull moving it to SERIOUS EMOTIONAL CONDITIONS. Gluten free diet helpful? For which symptoms exactly?

lol i didn´t know that ADHD is a SERIOUS EMOTIONAL PROBLEM...

first thing to do: learn the difference betweeen being a businessman and being self-employed

http://affirmyourlife.blogspot.com/2009/07/confidence-affirmations.html record yourself saying them with happy attitude

I was diagnosed with ADD as a child but that´s it. Nothing was ever done about it and I forgot about it for years. Recently I discovered work of Russel Barkley as I was looking for a reason why I cannot get anything done. I make my goals, set up a routine, follow for 5 days max and then everything goes to hell. Every month the same story. I could really relate to the parts of ADHD/ADD he was describing as a lack of ¨executive function¨. No inner voice, easily distracted, no working memory, bad perception of time, need for external motivation/reward. I am trying positive affirmations now, to convince myself that I can be disciplined. All my life I heard that I´m the opposite, and I was. If this doesn´t work then I don´t know what will... Maybe only hiring a coach to punch me in my head whenever I procrastinate

have you found 'the one'? and why not? ;D

how about having a business that is not innovative at all? isn´t that good enough to start with? Where is this idea coming from?! That you can only start a company or product that never existed before. bullshit. that´s what keeps people stuck. there is enough pie for everyone. if you provide good product/service you will be succesfull. period. don't forget aboout cashflow though, thats pretty important too ^^ if u don't know what to do now, start by making money and then change the world...

'when God closes the door, he opens the window' and I love this one by Arnold Schwarzenegger 'If you sleep more than 6 hours I suggest you sleep a little faster'

All my past relationships had the same dynamics as my parents relation (very destructive btw): father: leader, provider, jerk, mother: loving, caring and weak. I was like my father choosing bfs who were just like my mother. And I never ever wanted a relationship like that! So why was it happening to me? When I finally realized what I was doing I wanted to laugh. I was always going for the shy guy. Unconsciously I was attracted to them. Why?? I don't even like shy guys! But it seems that I like challenges and when they were not showing me their interest (bcz they were shy, not bcz they were not interested) I was intrigued. Making them show their interest was very exciting. In the long term, none of the relationships survived. My parents also divorced finally after 25 years... My point is, ask yourself very carefully what kind of partners are you choosing and WHY. You may realize that what feels right at first is not really what you want in the end.