charlie2dogs

this is a very good piece,

there is a huge misconception about enlightenment, there are no levels to enlightenment you are or you ain't , there is no inbetween,

both of you have lost the desire you once had for each other, and why must it be you that has to be in the mood, what about him, what is he doing to get you in the mood, or make you horny, when the desire goes, it can get boring very easily, and you may never get that back with him, most likely if you was in a new relationship and excited about it you would feel sexy and horny. I do think there are a few people who come together and the excitement and desire stays, but i think that is a very small percentage. Most anything you do long enough will get old, unless you have great passion for it. most relationships start out generally neither party having the tools to make a fruitful lasting relationship, Most enter a relationship looking for love that they don't have. Love is a state of being. The human identity seeks love because it only knows about acts that are called love and with that the desires of the flesh, the desires of the flesh being the driving factor most often. Most have this belief that everyone needs love, that isn't true. The need to love and be loved causes humans to do a lot of crazy things that end up with a lot of crazy consequences.

what do you mean quantum jumping

what is a zone of genius?

achieving financial independence may create what you think is freedom for the human identity, but it will never liberate you from the fictitious identity that you think you are, which is what real freedom is about. Money wont improve the world, there is only one solution for the world and that is the evolution of human consciousness. At 20 years old your thinking is normal thinking for human beings, and at 20 you are going to do what is important to you at the time no matter what anyone tells you. Enjoy your youth while you have it, make the most of life, reach for your highest potential and be careful of the consequences you create, they can be costly and painful.

i understand, whether you function as a human identity or a self realized being you will find that there is a right thing to do, versus doing nothing or doing something that would create a consequence for you and others. When you do the right thing you will stay on the path to liberation, and you will know it. When you become self realized you will want to remain in a state of liberation, so in your actions that you do, you will do them in a way that keeps you in liberation, that is doing the right thing and it wont bring consequences to you or others, I know of no enlightened being that doesnt have principles that they live by, those principles are what is right for that being and those principles govern what that being does in life and with other humans.

a thought without a belief has no power but a thought with a belief can start a war. When one functions as the observer only, you have the power to give life to a thought or simply turn away and allow it to cease to be. This only happens in the moment of life, when you are present in that moment as the event arises.

Mikey you sound like your life is a wreck, do this stop all the nonsense and take some time to be with your wife, i mean really be with her, talk with her, listen to her, get her to tell you how she feels, ask her if she is fulfilled, and if not why, ask her what is missing in the relationship that would make it better, do things with her, go some place with her it dont have to be expensive, just something simple, maybe a walk in the park. Keep your mouth shut and listen to her, learn to communicate with her on every level of her being, and maybe it will help you learn something about yourself. P.S reading your text you dont sound far from nuts

i have been where you are with this several times in my life until i figured out what i was doing to myself, your only recourse is to force your mind on something else until you let go of what you are dealing with, and remember this lesson, when you allow yourself to be consumed with something it becomes rooted in your consciousness, then you got to get it out, I used to listen to some of alan watts, stuff i had recorded, some mooji stuff, good relaxing, soothing music, and it kept my mind occupied and took it away from what i allowed to create the problem for me in two or three days you should find relief , but remember this lesson, dont let things get a grip on you like that, now you know what it will do to you.

if he understood and it stopped, you should let it go, its all in your thought process, stop thinking about it, its over, let it go, and maybe you did the right thing by not punching the guy out. Drop it and the feelings you have about it, it is serving no purpose but to cause you stress, why do it. The problem is you have thought about it so much now you cant get it off your mind. Start right now, and dont allow yourself to think about it, find something else to put your focus on for a while, some good mp3 that hold your attention, and if the thought comes up turn away from it, and focus on something else, it will stop bothering you if you do that. I know what you are experiencing and the hold it has on you but you can break it, just realize that you are programing this crap in your consciousness and you have to stop it before it creates a real problem.

there is nothing to reconcile, if you encounter someone being raped, stop it if you can, you know its the right thing to do. Getting caught up in a lot of nonsense isnt going to help you in real life or help you do the right thing for yourself and others, and if you arent going to do the right thing for yourself and others then what are you going to do.

its seems that you have a pretty good handle on all this, but at times you are not able to control your thought process, which is creating these times of depression and anxiety. as the human identity it is often hard to control the thought process. Everything you have ever done is because of your thought process. It was no accident that you were born to these parents, and apparently there are some huge lessons for you to learn here and you are learning them. The real issue is controlling your thoughts. as long as you function as the human identity, that problem will always exist. So what is the solution to your issue, you are going to have to understand yourself on a deeper level of your being, the only way that is going to happen is for you to be the observer and the observed, you are going to have to look at life from another place than the human identity and ego. ( take some time to be quiet and still and to experience and explore the source of life that is possessing your body during this time, embrace it, be one with it). i didnt tell you to practice meditation, and there is a reason for that, meditation for the most part is just another buzz word that has come to mean little for the most part. Many will meditate their whole life and never achieve self realization. simply do the one thing i told you and it will bring change to your life. in order to be liberated from the ills of the human identity you must ( be ) that which is using your body to experience life, that means to see and function from a higher place than the human body. you have learned a lot, embrace these lessons, its time to move beyond these things, begin to monitor your feelings, and what affects your feelings, and the feelings that come from your actions, watch your thoughts, look at how they make you feel, listen to the words you use, and how it affects you and others, look at the actions you are taking or going to take, what is the intention behind them, what consequences will it generate, what are all these things generating within you and for others. the more closely you monitor these things, you will see what you are doing to yourself and others and out of that will come a desire for liberation that will be following close behind. One other thing you can do is begin to question everything that you believe, why do you believe what you believe, a belief is just a belief, its never real, drop them, look at your programing that you have been programed with, can you see it, see how it has molded and controlled you. contemplate these things, there is enough right here in this text to enable you to be self realized, if you can see it, and you have the will and desire to do these things and all it requires is introspection of your deeper self and contemplation of these things i have written here.

your emotions will always deceive you as a human being, when you experience the real you, you rise above emotions and mental states of being as a human being and you have the opportunity to see reality for the first time, it allows you to function above emotional and mental states and begin to have some control over the human identity, its ego, and desires of the flesh, and to direct your own destiny. Unless you have a deeper connection with the real you, you will always be at the mercy of the human identity with its issues and consequences. Be one with the life force within you and the rest will take care of itself. Forget what you think you know drop your belief system understand that you are not this body The real you is a being of consciousness that existed before this body, be that, experience that, forget everything else. Then you will have the experience of a self realized being and the student will have become the master.

first thing i would forget everything you think you know, forget everything that you believe, just drop it, no longer acknowledge it, then you have to work for a bit, you have to work at being conscious, and present in each moment, in your life you have only had moments of oneness with your real self and being in the moment, you have to devote some effort until it becomes a natural thing, in the beginning it is not easy to remain in the moment, but when you can you will be functioning as a being of consciousness and not the human identity. The secret to opening the door to self realization is being able to be in the moment of life and be in a conscious, present state of awareness, that is the key that will take you to self realization, then you will be able to see the reality of things, and even have control over your destiny. You will begin to understand and know things you never did before, you will be able to read others like an open book, at that point you will fully understand the saying, when the student is ready, the master will appear, because at that point you will have become the master. It doesnt have to be hard, complicated, long and painful to become the master, but you have to drop everything in your mind and experience the real you which can only be done in the moment of life, it is in the moment that life can only be truly lived fruitfully and as a liberated being. Over time you have been bombarded with all kinds of methods, doctrines, philosophies, programing, false belief, till the whole world is in a state of confusion, find the moment, find the real you and life will live you, without pain, misery, suffering, consequences, then you will understand love because you will be love, you will understand freedom because you will be functioning from a liberated state of being. The question is are you ready for that, do you have the desire to take you there? I can't give it to you any simpler than this, and its only fully understood after the experience, and desire for liberation is the factor that will determine if you become the master. The only key you need to become liberated is right here in this text if you can grasp it, and stay with it.

Im sure that many would present some quick fix for this but in reality time and not giving it attention is the only cure, it only exist when you give it attention. There is no way to cleanse yourself of it unless you stop giving it attention, and if you stop giving it attention, problem is solved.

what does being in a relationship with a cheater have to do with love. There is no connection between the two. Human identities can have relationships with just about anyone or anything, for any reason and pretend that it is love. The human identity has never experienced love, it only experiences feelings from emotional and mental state assuming that is love, but it isn't. The situation you present is for human identities that are functioning in an unconscious manner.

I'm probably going to have to spend years of work trying to connect to my inner being because right now, a lot of my thoughts and habits are still founded upon external desires. It doesnt have to take years, drop that thought, remain open and (be one with the source of life within) and you might be surprised just how little work and time it takes.

maybe you should give yourself some time away from her, sort things out in your mind. you are seeing some signs that would make me rethink things if i was in that position, the being cold and unresponsive that is something to think about. If in doubt don't. Are you really sure you want this relationship?

the only heaving i know anything about is when i was younger and thought booze was a good thing, did some heaving then but that is about it, sorry i can't help with that, but good answers to the questions, thanks

hahahaha you are funny Mal

, Jes if it is that bad, do you have any alternatives to going there? anything, can you create an alternative.

maybe you should try to see your father in a different light, find all his good points, focus on them. If you have these kinds of feelings about him he may be picking up on your energy and most likely he isn't even aware that he is but it will have an affect on him. I'm going to give you the hard part now, the problem isn't your father, it is you. see your father in the best light you can, see all the good things and instead of resistance be a friend. you can stay away from sensitive issues when around him, its not so important that you get your view across and if you see things might go in the wrong direction simply find something you have to do and go do it, or change the topic casually, what are his interest, hobbies, what does he like to do. Based on your text you have little or no respect for your father. If you cant do the suggestions i made don't go.

you said: To be quite honest it made everything else seem pointless... I'm not sure if I want to be there yet. I would like to get financially stable first. A self realized being doesnt see everything as pointless. You said you didnt want to be there yet, where is this there you spoke of? you are and will do what is important to you as a human identity and as the ego will allow. a self realized being has the ability to see reality, and to choose how events unfold if they unfold at all, but their choice is pretty much limited in one area, what ever they choose they will want to maintain a state of liberation, so their choices will take them in the direction of liberation. stop worrying, when the student is ready the master will appear.

its not really an escape, its regaining your original state of being, and being able to enjoy life without the human identity and ego controlling everything creating consequences, pain and misery.