Interesting. I still talk to 3 of my ex boyfriends and I'm in a committed relationship. First ex guy I talk to because I still care about him, not romantically but as a human being. He was into hardcore drugs, and last time I heard he might be in jail. He has isolated himself and everyone around him hates him for being a junkie. When we speak I check in with him and try to cheer him up. He is deeply depressed, and as an on and off sufferer of depression myself, I know what it does. 2nd ex, he's just a cool guy. He's fun and smart, but we weren't on the same page when we were dating so we decided we are better off as friends and it works. 3rd ex, we used to talk a lot but he got married last year so we hardly ever make contact (his wife checks his phone LOL). While I don't feel bad that I don't keep in touch with 3rd ex, I do miss talking to him about sci-fi films. So why am I giving all this info to you? Because as you can see, in my personal experience I stay in touch with exes for various reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with my boyfriend. To me these guys are just people that I can interact with and that I know. I don't know if this happens to other women, but I can interact better with men instead of women. I created relationships with these men, and aside from the physical / romantic part, there was a friendship. Can I stop talking to them ? Sure, but that will never change the fact that I presently love my boyfriend deeply, I respect the trust he's granted me. I am loyal to my boyfriend and he knows it, he would never ask me to stop talking to an ex. My advise to you, do not let your insecurities ruin what you have. If your gf cheats, she didn't cheat on you, she cheated on herself by lying. If she cheats you will be free from remorse or guilt, that's freedom, true honorable freedom. Stay cool.
