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"I can be, I will be more confident, I'm working towards being courageous, I'm becoming compassionate as I speak, I am more accepting every day" check out different affirmations, it's amazing how words can make such a huge difference, even without noticing. You should feel excited about these and not guilt possibly from a should statement like Leo talks about.

I listen to my intuition, it's not that I'm more sensitive to it but since I was young Ive chosen to pay attention. I have no schedule, no routine, no goals, no intentions, no records. Anything work or practice I do is effortless, it feels natural and growth happens at almost a constantly increasing rate whether I'm aware of it or not. It's not impulsive or chasing desires, sometimes this leads me to negativity or suffering, which I know I must experience and the most growth comes out of this than anything. So yes, this is about as balanced and relaxed focus as it can be. I love the quote too

This is exactly what most people do wrong. You are lying to yourself into believing you are the master of your emotions when you will never be through this way. This blocks you from feeling the emotions and letting them flow. This is the ego's way of "mastering your emotions" and yes it will lead you straight into delusion. It's great to find the good in everything, but living this way is against reality. Mindfulness is about NOT NEEDING to be in control, NOT NEEDING to be a master of your mind. Through this, which is the paradox, you actually feel you are a master and are in the driver seat. You need to accept "bad" feelings and events exactly as they are, REMOVE MEANINGS from them, allow yourself to feel the pain you need to, and then move on. It is logically the exact opposite of what you would think, which is why people get so lost in it. The goal is to not attach yourself to your thoughts/emotions and not see them as YOU. But to experience them in full and let them pass. This will give you the life that you are really after

First, I think you should really contemplate the whole idea of wanting a girlfriend and see where your desires are coming from. Do you genuinely want to share a relationship with a girl to have this wonderful experience? Or Do you want to have a girl so you can boost your ego, live up to Dad's expectations, show her off to your friends and trade nude photos? Its ok to be shy and nervous around girls, it shows who you really are, how you really feel. It may be embarrassing, but you will find some (if not many) girls find this more attractive than guys whohave a huge ego and disrespect them. (Let's be real, do you even want a girl that likes guys like that) Just like your success with school, love for yourself comes from within and it may be difficult to get going. Self love and acceptance will make you more confident in your body and be authentic as possible. At this rate, the ladies will want you to be their husband!

Not everyone is ready to drop their lives and become enlightened. Most aren't even aware of its possibilty. Enlightement and ego work perfectly together, there is no separation, there is only one. Leo will absolutely continue to teach people to grow in their ego world, their illusion, whatever... Basically I think you need to "reconnect to the universe" and tweak your opinions.

Hey there Kylir, I'm sorry to hear about your current situation, hopefully things will work out the way that is best for you and your spouse. It sounds like your session of nothing went exactly as it should, and that is instrumental in continuing this work, to be able to sit in peace and be okay with that. However, I wanted to warn you it might be easy to become addicted to meditation. You might think this isn't bad because you're doing something good, but there are little traps you should be wary of. I think the most important is to not use meditation as an escape from life, but the opposite. It should connect you with life more, especially when you begin to flow with it and let it live through you. There really isn't a wrong way of meditation, you just need the right intentions. It's all about mindfulness and surrender to what is in the present moment. If you enjoyed the experience because you escaped from your problems for a little while, then this will not help you. If you enjoyed it because you found peace within yourself, and were perfectly content with life and without your addictions and attachments, now you're on to something! The first major step is already out of the way, and that is everything you wrote and understand about yourself in your post. Now you just need to follow through with the dedication and persistence needed to grow yourself, and your reality has no option but to improve to reflect this. Keep learning and moving forward, great things will come

If you haven't yet, Watch Johnny Berba's Coaching videos. It's important to know that the degree to which you've allowed yourself to study and understand these deep parts of you is incredible. I don't think you'll have any problem overcoming all of this and becoming a greater more authentic version of yourself. Your progress is HUGE so far. Nothing left to do but to keep going, keep knocking down these beliefs, life will be better by the day...you know what to do

It is definitely something you need to incorporate in your life, to grow and nurture, and eventually mindfulness can be your natural state. It isn't difficult it just needs to be done long enough to become habit and to feel normal to you. It's much more of a relief than a chore. Sounds like you are making great progress!

I walked without the intention of meditating or mindfulness, I simply didn't interfere with the flow of the walk, the flow of reality and the flow of my consciousness. I didn't judge or label anything I saw, I saw reality and myself for what they were. I simply decided to go for a walk and that was the only thing I focused on. It was a very beautiful experience

You are afraid to lose something implying you believe you have it, or you will have it. So long as you attach yourself to this belief I think it will be difficult enough to become enlightened. Motivation is lost when a mind tries to conceptualize nothingness. It concludes "if nothing exists then what's the point of doing anything" it's like paying for a movie ticket and then leaving the theatre because the movie will be over in a few hours anyway, what's the point in watching it at all? What you see as negative to your improvement is redundant. If you're afraid an awakening experience will change your mind, why would you want to do the thing your awakened self doesn't? Continue practice contributing to your growth and the others around you. Everything will happen exactly when it needs to.

I think your SOUL would appreciate that. Although it is a little different than feeding your stomach. See if you can do it everyday for three weeks!

all three of those are excellent to be practicing I'm sure you've already heard this but twenty minutes of quality meditation is better than an hour of quantity meditation. My routine has been balancing "doing" and "being" and to let being overflow into doing. When I am being, the time doesn't matter. It could be fifteen minutes, or I can remain blissed out for three hours. If I controlled it I wouldn't be being anymore.

At the second tier "friends" are no longer a desire or a need, more of a by-product/side effect...If you want a yellow career you will probably have to create it yourself or make one of those dreaded orange careers better by coloring it yellow

the main differences are you're encouraged to find truth for yourself, you're encouraged to challenge the "truth" you find, and your encouraged to have your OWN experiences. In fact, you MUST do all of these to grow. If you choose to make it the way you describe, you can see these teachings as religion. However it's only your perception and what you choose to do

I don't feel bad about lying when it doesn't reinforce my ego or others opinions of me. Sometimes I lie for the opposite, to literally make myself less than I wish to portray. I care immensely about others feelings however and no one ever needs to hear everything that is churning inside my little head. It simply never helps. Most people I know would live with much more nueroses if I was brutally honest 100% of the time, they simply don't have the tools to use it the right way...

Often it's nothing more than a false thought/belief you hold onto so dearly that gets exposed by truth and seeing it from this perspective it's hard to understand why it was even a problem to begin with. Through this, caring is lost. Be careful with this, because it can get confused with "turning off emotionally" and not allowing things to effect you the way they should. Shyness doesn't get solved by just not caring anymore, shyness gets solved when you accept it and see it for what it is in truth, and realizing it was created by you and it never needed to be a problem. THEN you don't have to care anymore.

a physically and spiritually fully functioning human being who does not endlessly suffer at the expense of the planet

Sometimes these people who seem to be fulfilled only seem that way because they want to believe themselves that they are fulfilled so they go out of their way to create the public illusion that they are fulfilled and maybe even force their fulfillment on you so that you wish to be as fulfilled as they are and this supports their illusion of fulfillment but deep down they aren't fulfilled

Become more interesting by not trying to be interesting. Become funny by not desiring people to laugh at you. Become confident by not giving up control of your self-esteem to the people around you. People who don't like you will pass by. People who enjoy you for doing the above, will stay. Connections with the people who stay will be free, effortless, judgement-less

Do you worry more about what people think of you because you partake in the act of meditation? Do you feel antisocial because you partake in being "anti" "social" a few hours per day? If these are true you simply have some false beliefs to study and dissolve and try to contemplate why you're so worried about others opinions. Look for the truth. Feeling sad, you might only be more aware of this feeling which you've ignored or rejected for so long. Sadness isn't "bad"

Short-term impulse decision= an easy temporary solution that makes things worse long-term. Everything bad comes from this route. (Example: "getting rid" of him, disowning, fighting, breaking ties) emotionally difficult acceptance and love as @vizual describes = a long-term benefit / solution which is hard in the beginning but worth it no matter what. Nothing bad can come from this route. (Example: deep conversation, understanding, effort) Just one way to see it. What would you rather? Short or long term solution?

@Amir In regard to waiting for anything, as an excuse to be in discontent in the moment. "I'm waiting for more peace" "I'm waiting for more money" "I'm waiting to deal with this emotion" takes you into the projected future and away from the present moment

Mine, Yours, Have, Want, Possess Goal, Work, Achieve, Success, Failure Win, Lose, What if I don't, What if I can't I'm waiting..., I need time..., If only... He/She Makes me, It's because of them You're wrong, You're stupid, I'm right

Hey @Natalya , I have some similar experience unfortunately! I have a few tips that might be obvious but I'll share. • Never give her an excuse to put you on her bad side • Always do good/honest work to gain respect/trust • Understand you'll never be able to change her, you can only change yourself • Understand the struggles she deals with on a daily basis and try to understand the basis for her behavior on a deeper level • Never take anything too personally • Maintain a peacefulness within as often as you can Be a good worker, be a better person, simply give no reason to be treated poorly. Accept what is and do what you can to improve it.

I agree with @Elton Are you ready to grow mentally and spiritually and feel every cell in your body urging you towards this path? Then begin to take this work seriously and build your life around it, don't build self growth around your life.