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I just reviewed Leo's video on the relationships and the types. I am somewhere in between independent and interdependent in my relationships (more towards independent). Perhaps, it's hard for you to judge, since you don't know me. I am positive I could be single my whole life (except for having some sexual interactions) and be OK with that. However, the selfishness inside of me (or something else) pushes me to have kids. So I suppose that's my main motivator towards a relationship/family. Not sure how healthy is this tendency.

Well, these seem like nice words, but frankly they do not provide much of a details of a good relationship.

@aurum Love the idea, that they are our personal development coaches. I notice though, that depending on the relationship, these coaches have different intensity levels. How about the fears? Any fears motivate you to be in a relationship? Because I certainly do. Maybe they are not very strong, but I do notice them. I also haven't mentioned in my post that relationships are also logical financial-wise. Of course, both partners should contribute for this to be fair.

Hm, I haven't got sold on those. Water is the best hydration source. Plus, I have heard from some that they gained weight specifically because of drinking coconut water in the evenings. Why pay for packed bottles of coconut water if you can have zero calorie hydrating almost for free from your tap. Not even mentioning the ecological side of it- plastic bottles etc

I was always wondering what's advantage of the coconut water? You could just pour regular water and it would be fine. Am I missing something here?

Didn't get your idea, Phil. Could you elaborate on it? The advice given in the video is something I haven't heard of before. I must consider.

I would say that texting too quickly says you are a little needy. Of course, that's not enough to judge whether he's needy or not. I would agree more with @Life Coach here than with the rest. Man must have other priorities than just women. I also think that calling instead of texting is hot!

Is it worth dating someone who has less experience in life, is in a worse shape than you are, but is, otherwise, a kind and honest person? I am asking it from a women's perspective, i.e. the woman is the one dating someone who is presumably not as "developed". The answer is rather obvious to me. But I wonder what others think.

Well, it's rare for a man to have all those qualities. Btw, when you say you do not need to "date up", it actually does seem you want at least a high quality woman. If she's intelligent, in good shape, she's got her things together, she isn't probably going to do a cashier job either.

In my opinion it's best to tell them your intentions. Just tell these girls that you aren't planning to date them "for real".

At the retreats? I would suppose at any events which promote high consciousness - yoga, meditation, deep discussions, etc.

Your requirements aren't anything supernatural in my opinion. Any woman who is more or less into growing herself cares about her body. Hence, she is most likely in a pretty good shape. Same applies to intelligence. In fact, a lot of things that you mentioned I took for granted. I never mentioned them, but I thought that those are the necessary prerequisites to qualify for a high quality man Not sure about the sense of humor though (I struggle with this one, perhaps). Seriously, nothing that you mentioned seems anything super special to me. I am certain there are a few women who qualify for this in my opinion. To add: I would also expect all those things from a man too.

OK, good to hear. So what's the icing that you expect?

This sounds vague. But I will try to think about your idea, thanks.

Well, you could have a quick chat with them after the class. Ask them something about the practice, of their experiences, of what they like. Girls actually like being approached. I mean even if they aren't interested in you, they will flattered to be approached by a guy. But if they are interested, then it's totally your chance to find one.

OK, I think I might be misunderstood here. I am not saying that entertainment is evil. That's a person's choice of how to spend their time. What I meant to say is that I think these types of experiences do not really help in building a relationship. So if I had to choose from a guy who is experienced in, for example, organizing some events, and a guy who is experienced in playing games, I would rather go with the first option. Because he is more likely to know how to socialize, how to handle difficult situations, etc.

Never said that playing games, watching tv shouldn't happen. What I meant is that those experiences do not really help in sustaining a healthy relationship.

Could you elaborate please on this " You seem to misunderstand when it comes to 'how to understand and communicate people'". I would appreciate that.

I can offer him my commitment to the relationship - to try my best to improve and try to understand if there's something that needs to be understood.

Maybe you are more experienced in some things (like playing games, watching tv :D), but who the hell needs that for a relationship? We are talking right now about experience in living life.

Good point! I do notice, however, that a lot of things do get on my nerve eventually - I start being irritated by even small things. So I would rather skip the possibility altogether.

Yes, there are tons of women out there who themselves need to level up. I don't mean to blame men for all the evil in relationships.

I agree. Feeling resentful towards men is the exact description of the way I felt. Yes, I don't want to point any fingers. I am sure that I can find someone who's at my level or even above. And I agree that most of it is up to me. Didn't mean to complain. I guess I just got a bit grumpy because there's guys who are less experienced around me. And yes, it's again my mistake - I must do something to change the environment.

Wow, I didn't see it from this perspective. You are right. I really think that the guys should level up. Problem is that most of them (or am I just overgeneralizing and being negative?) are not there and maybe won't ever be?

@Lynnel Not going to. Have had my share of situations. I was wondering about it from a different point of view - the one of the ego. It seems my ego has a very strong opinion about who I should date and who I shouldn't. Very categoric. Also, I notice how at times I when I am more connected to my emotions (or that's probably my sexual desires ) and not my mind, I feel like I could date such guys. However, when my rational thinking kicks in, I see it as a complete stupidity.