@Ar_Senses Great self-reflection here.
Yeah, food is tricky because grabage food is EVERYWHERE and healthy food nowhere.
You must basically cook all your own food if you want to eat clean.
Diet is super important. It's really the foundation. You will not get far with self-actualization without proper diet.

I realized today that the Higher Self is always wanting to be called into action.
Most people wait till they're in a panic to call upon this Higher Power, but it would be wise to cultivate time with the Higher Self when it's not as important. 
Today i was forced to rely on the Higher Self, as i was overwhelmed with strong emotions. I hurried over to my meditation cushion and immediately started doing Kriya as if my life depended on it.
It felt like nothing else mattered, and it was quite liberating.
I became slightly aware of how potent Kriya could be, and that i'm barely tapping into what it could look like for my life down the road. 

Contemplate how many thousands of people even greater than Jesus, Buddha, and Mahavira lived and died, but you never knew about them due to lack of marketing.
The things you know about you only know about for one reason: someone marketed the shit out of them. Not because they are the best.
What made them different was that they were genetically predisposed to it. They are freaks of nature, like someone who is 7 ft tall. Good luck beating him at basketball. Mental capacities are correlated to the brain. You are never going to get a donkey to understand trigonometry.
And now, for those of you who are eager to turn what I said into a victim mindset about how you can't achieve enlightenment. We'll that's nonsense. You can. You're just making excuses. It would be like arguing that you can't play basketball since you're not 7 ft tall. You don't need to be 7 ft tall to play basketball. Will you be the best basketball player in the world at 5ft tall? No. But being the the best in the world is an ego trip. Let it go. Just be the best that YOU can be.
Don't try to be Sadhguru or Buddha or Christ. Be you.

@Kalki Avatar Notice how in your relationships, you never actually relate to the actual person. You're always just relating to your own needs, the way that person fits into your life. The relationship is always about you relating not who she is, but to your fantasies of what you want and need her to be. But the actual her never lives up to your fantasies so you try to change her over and over again, which still doesn't work, until eventually you give up and leave.
YOU ARE ALWAYS RELATING TO YOUR OWN EGO! Not to what is actual. You don't give a rats ass about what is actual. You want to live in a fantasy. But you want it to feel like its real. So you just call your fantasy reality.
EVERYTHING YOU DO IS YOU MAINTAINING YOUR OWN FANTASY. Every thought you have and every emotion you feel is part of this effort. Notice this. Then maybe you can learn how to relate to things actually.

@tashawoodfall The issue is, someone who hasn't satisfied the Love & Belonging need will not be capable of self-love. Or at least they will not believe that self-love can help because they think they need other-love.
So can you? Yes.
Will you? I wouldn't bet on it.
Learn to crawl before you fly. Self-love is much harder than finding someone else to love you. Self-love requires a lot of maturity and consciousness to execute.
Isn't it true that you hate yourself? Think about what it would take to never hate yourself again.

Classic newbie mistake.
Your own mind will trick you like that and get you to believe that having fun with your friend is accomplishing something. It isn't. Fun is fun. But it's not enough to get you the skill set you want.
You must force yourself to approach 10-20 sets each night. No excuses. It's best to start approaching immediately upon walking into the club. The first girl you see, you approach.
Which is why when you get a bit more experience and comfort, you should hit the clubs solo. Solo you can really do some damage in the club. Hanging to your friends too tightly will not allow you to get laid. You must be ready to break off from your friend to approach girls, and bounce them to new locations. It is not enough to just approach a girl and stand with her in the same spot the entire night. Once she's attracted to you, you've got to bounce her as much as possible around the place and then outside the place to other places and ultimately to your apartment. Pickup does not work without leading and bouncing.
Solo is highly efficient. But it's emotionally hard, because when you're out of set you feel very alone.

@Stenne The Work is very effective and powerfull! Follow the advise of @How to be wise . Don't expect to solve your greatest problems within a month.  
If you feel like it's not working for you (at this moment), experiment with some different techniques. In my experience, my being needs different things at different stages of self-actualization.
A selection of different techniques;
Innerchild work - my favorite  Teal Swan; the Completion Process
The Sedona Method - my favorite the Fifth Way
Letting Go by D. Hawkins - read the book on letting go of different emotions
If nothing works, try the unstuck question;
What payoff am I getting out of this positionality? What gratification, pleasure and satisfaction gives this position which I am stuck in?
If your willing to give up the payoff, then the believe can no longer substain.
The Work is still my favorite technique. But personally I can't rely on this technique alone to change my own behavior. Find out what works for you.
Good luck with your journey! ?
 
 

All spiritual journeys are tough.
Spirituality is not for sheep. Only the bold will find God. Mommy cannot hold your hand through it, since Mommy isn't even real.
Not if you are.

i‘m sure you‘ve read that a thousand times but what about adaptogens and nootropics? are you taking any for basic stability?
if not - really please try rhodiola and ashwaghanda and brahmi as those are the only ones i know for sure can have a small impact on this pain you are having right now. 
i know this pain is real and hurtful but as long as you feel that pain so severely you can’t really work on the problems. 
@Charlotte also talked about nootropics that helped her once, maybe she could tell you.
the second step is to change the variable in your life that will make the biggest impact with the lessest effort. as you don’t have much energy at the moment handling all at the same time. you are juggling with your problems but you can only concentrate on one. so aim at a simple solution of the biggest problems first, it doesn’t have to be the final solution - there are also provisional solutions. also even though all problems are probably connected and intertwined, you need to separate their connection to see how the viscous circle feeds itself, and handle only small matters aside from them.
bullet journaling helps me a lot these days to juggle and get a grip on the balls  to man up you know  
maybe you could find the book in a library.
?
and also if you are interested, just call them and ask how much it would cost and how you could get support from insurance or other sources!
https://www.mindtherapyclinic.com/neurofeedback-treatment/
and yes it all costs money - but food also costs money. treat it as food, food that will really nourish you.

I've been delving into videos and podcasts on here for about a month now. As you can relate, i have discovered many fascinating life changing things, some of it is Incredible really. The thing is, sometimes i overdose on self actualization and need something to cool me down a bit. I like movies but recently most movies just don't cut it, the subjects and nature of them bore me. I feel like i want to get lost in the fantasy of a fictional story but it to relate or subtly sing to the topics on actualized.org that i have been investigating. Was thinking this could be a thread to list some decent ones for everyone.

You might be right about that.
Research is very sketchy as yet.
Then again, I'm taking brain health more and more seriously these days.

Neurofeedback is definitely no placebo.
I use my EEG machine to meditate every day. It's about 10x-100x more effective at meditation than without it. No joke. You feel it after 1 hour.
I don't regret spending $3000 on it.
It's a truly amazing tool, but too expensive and too technical for most people to self-operate it. It took me over a month of technical study to learn to use it properly. But now I get to use it for the rest of my life easily, for free. Strategic thinking FTW!

@MM1988 What bad experiences? A girl rejecting you is not a bad experience. Did a girl stab you with a knife? Then I might understand you'd be hesitant.
You are just being weak and playing victim.
You need to take massive action to solve this problem. This requires going out over and over again hundreds of times. Try to enjoy it. Some night you will cry. It's difficult but also rewarding.
It helps to find some friends and wings to roll with. Solo is doable but pretty hard for a newbie. You REALLY have to push yourself when you're solo.
The problem with kids these days is that they have no sense of work ethic. They don't know how to discipline themselves to achieve a big result. You expect everything to be handed to you, otherwise you think it's impossible. Like if I took you by the hand, sat you in the car, drove you to the bar, put you into a good mood, and pushed you to approach girl after girl after girl, and told all your sticking points and all the right ways to deal with girls, you'd have success. But you're not motivated enough to do all that by yourself, to figure it out by yourself.
You have to learn to lead yourself and to be a creative problem-solver. All the resources you could possibly want for learning how to approach and date hot girls is available online. Much of it is free or very affordable to purchase. But see, you're not making use of it. You're not even appreciating that 20 years ago none of this information was available. It was basically unheard of and impossible 20 years ago. But today it's all free knowledge. And yet still you don't put it to use. 20 years ago you would have paid a million dollars for this knowledge.

I don't really actively talk about it unless they ask me, which they rarely do.
My Mom is pretty tolerant of me doing whatever, even though she basically thinks I'm crazy.
My brother is pretty open to it because his wife is pretty heavy into spirituality and he's had some mystical experiences on psychedelics. But mostly he's stuck in stage Orange materialism and scientism. He's open to it in theory, but not motivated to do any actual practices. Recently I introduced him to the Spiral Dynamics model and he found is interesting from a sort of scientific and historical POV.
My Dad I don't communicate with at all for others reasons.
My ex-girlfriend was a bit into it but the metaphysical stuff was just way over her head. Although she loved the psychedelics.
It doesn't really matter. Just do your spiritual work and mostly keep it to yourself or some close friends who are also into it. Definitely do NOT expect your family to be into it or to understand it or to support you in your spiritual journey. Your family wants you to be the old you. They don't want you to be enlightened because it would freak them the fuck out. They cannot handle the mindfuck of you becoming immortal. It is just totally outside their reality. They want to feel like The Matrix is real.
A great way to scratch the itch of sharing is to find a girlfriend or boyfriend who's also into self-actualizing and spirituality. Then you can go real deep with it together. That will be a wild fun ride. But it requires the right person, not just some rando.
There is no cure for closedmindedness. Other than to open one's mind.

@kieranperez There are probably other cheaper solutions. Just start by doing your research and be open to finding new stuff.
But also, if you were really serious you could get a job and save up $2k-3k pretty fast. You have to be open to trying stuff and doing what it takes to get results. Don't lock yourself into a victim mindset. There are many ways to solve problems.
Maybe you could even volunteer in a neurofeedback facility in exchange for them letting you use their machine. It costs them nothing to let you use it.
Get creative.

Yes, of course. Learn to crawl before you go trying to fly.
Don't worry about it. Handle your basic survival needs. Later you will shift your balanced back to spirituality.
You can only do whatever your ego will allow you to do. If your basic needs are severely under-served your ego will not allow you to seriously pursue spirituality. Your heart must in whatever you're doing. If your heart is telling to go fuck, then go fuck. Get it out of your system.

@kieranperez It seems to me that your issue might be physical. If you have serious ADD you might want to research ways of curing that first before you tackle other things.
From what I understand, ADD is often caused by heavy metal toxicity due to impure diet and water.
If I were you I'd get a heavy metal toxicity urine test done to make sure you don't have elevated levels of mercury or lead.
I would also check other vital blood work stats to make sure you're not vitamin D deficient, thyroid deficient, etc.
And if all of that came out good, then I would look into EEG neurofeedback training. That's quite effective for ADD. You can find treatment centers all around in San Fran.
If I were you I'd spend some serious time researching the root cause of your ADD. Find the best books on ADD treatment and read them. Visit some ADD forums. Find cases of people who successfully cure ADD and follow their steps until you resolve your condition.
ADD could be physically caused. It could also be psychological. And it could also be both at once. So you must look at physical solutions as well as psychological solutions (like meditation).
Kriya yoga is a great practice for reducing monkey mind.

Dude, WTF is this sad victim thinking??
I never drank once in my entire pickup career. Which means starting at zero experience.
Stop spreading your limiting beliefs onto others.
I swear, you guys on here have such terribly limited attitudes about women.
It's like you've learned nothing about the core of what I teach: you cannot trust anything your mind says!
What's embarassing is how easily you believe your own bullshit stories.

@Maximus That's because you haven't bothered to build deep relationships.
Relationship and genuine communication is a skill. It needs to be trained and practiced.
Make. Better. Friends.

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@ExodiaGearCEO How many times has a girl dumped you because your life was too boring?
Also, you are missing the point of being in an intimate relationship with a human being.

@Preetom Yes, that's precisely what I'm telling you. 2000 years ago Jesus could have owned slaves and no one would have batted an eye.
Your definiton of enlightenment is literally con-fused. You are conflating states of consciousness + stages of development + lines + types + morality + personal development + emotional awareness + the shadow + mastery.
All of the above must be carefully distinguished from one another. Otherwise your definition of enlightenment becomes so grand that no human on Earth qulifies as enlightened.
Enlightenment is NOT moral perfection. Nor is it development. Nor is it emotional mastery. You will have to work on all of that post-enlightenment.
Enlightenment is strictly only one narrow thing: direct consciousness of Absolute Truth. Nothing else.
It is as though you are defining surgery as the cure to all ills and I am telling you that surgery will not cure all ills but you are insisting it must. This is a dangerous attitude because there will be many ills which surgery cannot cure, so you will then be forced to repress these ills in order for your definiton to be true. And so you will be sick without knowing why.
Waking up does not cure you of dysfunctions which depend on the structure of your mind. Waking up merely detaches you from giving a fuck about the dream. Within the dream rules still apply to you. Hence why you will not be perfect, you can still be addicted to alcohol or rape a woman or own a slave. You can still be ignorant of relative truths and believe in false conspiracy theories. You can still fail to acknowledge the validity of other spiritual traditons. You can still have anger problems. Because all of this relates to the formed dream realm.
The dream realm has importance. You cannot just neglect it unless you are okay will all hell breaking loose.

@Liger How can you control her when you are not even in control of yourself?
Pay very close attention to just what control is and how little of it you have. This doesn't just apply to people but all of life.
This question of control is a very deep existential one. Notice how the ego keeps trying to control life but keeps failing and getting upset at itself for not having the control it wants.
What is in control of you? Are you in control of yourself? Then why do you keep failing to control yourself? What is control? Why do you want control?
Patiently contemplate all that.

@Psychonaut You are being a pussy and you are full of shit. Go approach those girls! They're not gonna do the work for you, and approaching is always uncomfortable.
The women in clubs are ordinary women. They aren't trash. That's your own mind making up bullshit excuses for why not to approach.
Be very mindful of your self-talk in a club. Do NOT trust it! All of that is pure fear-based excuses.
You will be amazed at the types of sweet and cool girls you'll meet in clubs. Clubs are not for whores or drunks. Ordinary girls go there. Girls are social creatures so they just get dragged along by their friends. If you approach enough girls you will be some great ones in bars and clubs. Girls in bars and clubs are not necessarily regulars. They might be there once a year for a birthday party or bachelorette party or for a work event.
Before holding all these prejudices, go approach 1000 girls in clubs with an open mind. Then approach another 1000 girls in bars. Then approach another 200 girls at the mall. Then compare where the best girls come from based on your direct experience.
P.S. If you go to clubs to enjoy dancing, what do you think the girls are doing? They enjoy dancing more than you! And yet you judge them for it. According to your twisted logic when you go to a club to enjoy dancing, you are not trash, you are better than everyone, but the girl is a trashy whore.
If you're looking for a dog, go to the pet store.
Frankly, with your rotten attitude you don't even deserve a trashy girl. Stop acting like you're too cool for school.

@joeyi99 What is a woman's value in a man's eyes? Think of a list of what makes a woman high value to a man. What makes a woman a prize?
Now step in the woman's shoes. What is a man's value to her? Make a list. Why would a woman need a man in here life at all? What makes a man a prize?
Hint: these are NOT symmetrical! You must stop thinking about this using your dick. A beautiful face/body is not why a woman is looking for a man. Nor does she need a man with a long dick. She has much more important needs he must meet.
Contemplate this from the woman's POV until you understand what needs a woman has. Then you will understand what value means here.
A woman's value is much more physical. A man's value is much more social. A man who is weak, lazy, socially out of touch, and incapable of leading other men is the equivalent of an ugly woman.
What makes a man ugly is NOT his physical appreance but his meek attitude. Which is exactly why incels can't get laid. It's not their looks, it's their ugly attitudes.
You need to develop the attitude of a winner or a boss or a warrior.
What do all girls fantasize about? A knight in shining armor who will sweep her off her feet and show her a whole new world. Looks are not what make a warrior.