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he's usually happy to have convos with him on instagram

UIC med school is 97k/year Lol (not to diminish your problem, just thot it was funny)

@Salvijus cool agree to disagree

@Salvijus you're confusing narcissistic ego boosting with green self-love. they're completely opposite things one is gentle and kind and the other is stiff and hurt

if i had money to blow like that id go to each meetup yes im crazy

@aurum I agree If you're authentically confident and grounded, you'll pass shit-tests without trying to even if you don't pass them, fuck it that's just where you're at and give love to yourself

@Rilles I'm dying

Okay, I'll do my best and try to give my current understanding. This is something that I've been contemplating recently. I'm not actually trying to prove you wrong as I don't think you'll bother to question your perspective, I'm doing this purely as a contemplation exercise and the best way to learn is to teach. My claim: A narcissist that loves himself, wouldn't be a narcissist. Your position is someone that loves themselves is a narcissist. You are confusing a narcissist with somebody who loves themselves, but narcissist's form of self-love is a denial of the self, and only identifying with parts of him that he deems as worthy. Narcissists create a false self-image of themselves. Narcissism is born when the individual denies aspects of him, and identifies only with what he deems as worthy. He is not doing this out of self-love or self-acceptance, just the opposite. He's deluded himself to fit into an ideal that he sees as perfect and worthy BECAUSE he says certain ideals are NOT worthy. So, he disowns the parts of him that he sees as negative and only identifies with the parts of him that he sees as worthy. Whatever is outside of that image, is not worthy and "not him". Narcissists say: I am the best. I am perfect. I am God. Self-love: Whatever I am, as imperfect as I am, I accept who I am and love myself A narcissist would say about their body: "*(deep down I hate my body)* I have the BEST body and everyone else's body is SHIT" A self-loving person would say about their body: "I see that my body is imperfect... I am okay with that. I love and accept myself for who I am" A narcissist would say: "I don't make mistakes. I'm perfect" A self-loving person would say: "I make mistakes. I'm imperfect, but I still love myself"

I think we are all worthy inherently regardless It's important to realize your inherent worth Then do things you love, but not in an attempt to be good and worthy, but because you see value in them in some form. Yeah Leo never stressed this, and I fell into that trap. It's okay its overcomable. I'm currently doing unconditional self-love meditations everyday, and doing 20 mins of meditation but I have a ways to go. Also I've been contemplating what is worth, trying to notice all the place where I feel like I'm trying to BE worthy, and noticing my desires and motivations. I think overtime with consciousness you'll eventually grow out of it, but it takes deliberate effort daily to clean up your motivations

i do 5 mins visualization, 20 min self love meditation, reflecting on my wins + contemplation before i sleep

Here's my counter perspective: On the benefits of a supportive community (skip to 13:23 and watch for 2 minutes) On love from deepak chopra's new book (turquoise) On benefits of people/relationships from eben pagan's new book (yellow)

Well. in life there are always risks you can take. as leo says, take information not only from him, but from 100s of other sources. prove and test things things in your own direct experience, take what you want from leo, and cross reference from other quality sources. much of what leo has said has seriously benefited my life.

Afterward, my empathy kicks in and I find that I always feel guilty. you'll be more fulfilled when you are kinder to people and not hurting them

up your butt and around the corner

I usually just expect it to be here sunday night so my expectations dont get broke

it's a very powerful model. i really encourage people to contemplate it. you can apply it to literally anything emotional mastery, life problem, generating an insight, social skills, enlightenment etc.

what helps me: exercise progressive work videos that bring me to my higher-self good conversations with people

i get depressed the next day if i get too wasted you're just hungover right now, wait til sunday, you'll be back

consult gyuki

what was the insight?

this cleared up a lot you dont even know

@benny in my opinion, i would just go with leo's approach. leo is incredibly comprehensive with his approach the parts from that book that i would take are the skills building part. being world-class, building career capital etc. however picking your domain of interest will come from exploring your interests and building from your values. there's a process of understanding of who you are, what you want to see in the world and what you want for yourself etc. etc. basically his course.

not useless! you're just learning . it's just your evolution of learning

My parents wanted me to get a job, go to school for more college, marry someone of my own race, follow the rules of our tradition, believe in God, listen to certain music, eat certain foods, do certain major in school, have a certain work ethic etc. It was painful and challenging to rebel against all of those lol. They disliked me for when I rebelled against them It's really important to give your kid freedom and to see your own ignorance. you need to trust your kid, resulting him in trusting himself My belief is that as a parent, you should offer your opinion, but let your child make his own choices. My dad compared me to an alcoholic and he's just trying to sober me down, and he doesn't know where the line is to draw. If I was in his position and I wanted my child to make certain decisions in attempt to save his future, I would offer my opinion, but not force it upon him. I'd trust him that he will figure it out eventually, giving him the tools to make it out of whatever situation that he ends up in, and offering my support when he needs it. but yeah, that law isn't a good law imo