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The correct way to say it, is to not expect anything from her after you said it.

If you only have this problems with girls its likely that you are too needy. You try to hard to impress her, thus filtering the things you want to say. Remove this filter, layer for layer and conversation will be super easy. Its not really important what you say. You can always either say something fun ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EsLCVXYqUns ) Or deepen the connection you two have ( https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-SdqaGS_jc )

Does it happen with anyone? Do you avoid 1 on 1 conversations? If not, how do they normally go then? Are you 14?

@JohnnyBravo solid advice! @Marinus Yeah, do what feels right to you. Just remember, you can convey some MASSIVE dominance and balls while escalating a social interaction confidently. And dont be afraid your intentions wont be clear when you approach women. Chances are, if you talk to a girl longer than 2minutes, she will know

Ask yourself "Why do I feel this way? Thats interesting..." Then ask "What does this feeling want to tell me?" If you find out, acknowledge it. Accept the feeling and whatever is coming up.

Good stuff! Keep on going mate, I think your doing great! What do you mean she liked what you were doing? Yes this! Always initiate! You always need to lead, especially in the beginning. Most girls are very reactive. I know it can be a bit bothering, on the plus side, you can do whatever you want. And when you build up your intuition it gets easier and easier.

Did you watch this video?

If you are dating a needy person and your friends try to set you up with some random people... well, its no wonder that it seems like a burden to you. Do you feel like you deserve to be loved? Realize that everything you are right now is perfect. If you dont want to have a relationship, dont. You dont have to follow all these narratives that todays society feeds us. A true relationship can only happen when you take off your mask. I feel like you try to put on a mask to be more likeable to others. I did this as well. It can be very exhausting.

Of course dude! I know someone who does exatly that and its working great. I saw a study which said that more people than ever, are solo, so there is definitely a big market. Just be aware of dogma and ego. Why do you ask? Literally anything can be your purpose.

Thanks all, will check it out! Already have Roma on my list as well! Somehow related I can say Serenity (2018) was a nice ride! But I think it works best for people who like to immerse themselves in a movie. Dont expect it to be perfect either.

So Im looking for videos which speak to you and make you want to meditate or do spiritual work. It could also be inspirational on another level. Maybe you saw true beauty in it, or it made you feel love, or it made you question reality. No speeches like Alan Watts or Sadhguru, or speeches with photo slideshows! Im specifically looking for art in video form. So mainly with actors or it could be any visuals. Please specify what the video/movie made you realize/feel and what about it spoke to you so strongly. Can be subtle as well.

It was mostly tension in the back. Got a little bit more faith in the medical field after my doctor did a good diagnosis

This is how many people slept in history. I always heard it was because of acid reflux/heartburn.

Beautiful thread. See what story you created in your head around the barking. It steers the feelings that come up when you hear it. You can try to associate something positive with the barking that you look up to. Maybe use it as an alarm that reminds you to be in the now. Or you can just use it to feel connected with that dog.

Why do you draw a picture? I like your question, why do you like to know?

Im not sure what you mean by unconscious thoughts. If you mean its like you are thinking but you are not really there vs. conscious thoughts were you actually pay attention to what you are thinking. These seem to be not completely unconscious vs conscious but rather on scale. The mind is an answer generating tool. I would say it might be more effective when you use it more consciously. But that of course implies a kind of judgemental outlook on life, which favors your survival and purpose.

Let it go, drop your fears

What do you do in your saved time? What do is your journal about? What do you mean by "after this". You mean you tell yourself its ok to quit but only after overcoming the next hurdle? The infrastructure you need is very personal and depends on your goals I guess. What do you want to achieve?

What would be one thing you can do today (or this week), that would make all your other 3 goals unnecessary?

Stop looking for the problems and start looking for solutions.

I see it like this Animals: Unaware - Conscious Humans: Aware - Unconsious Enlightened Humans: Aware - Conscious Animals live in the "now", they are not distracted by ego or mind. BUT they are not yet conscious of themselves (aware). As animals evolved (to humans), they started to become conscious of themselves. They became selfaware. To become selfaware a mind needed to be created. The mind tells them there is an "I", which is equally to ego. With that they also got the unique experience of "time". Something that no other creature on earth had yet experienced. Humans got enslaved by this powerful new shiny tool (the mind). Trapped in ego and time. By learning to understand the mind and how it works, enlightened people can turn off the mind thus overcoming time and get back to the "now". With the simple addition of still being aware of themselves from having experienced with ego/mind. Its all about perception. I think I got that from Tolle.

Why do you feel the need to change them and not accept them as they are right now? In SD no stage is better than the other. If you really want I would do some of this. Show them how unfulfilling pragmatism is. Are they interested in cars? Talk about Tesla, what your favourite green energy source is. Talk trump politics limits. Stop playing video games. Suggest psychedelic drug trips. Go to music festivals. Open up emotionally with them. Show them the similarity between relgion and science indoctrination. I dont know your friends so you will have to see what fits best. Give them this rant:

Haha, you friend sounds like a funny guy. Why did he freak out? Maybe you guys can work it out. Not saying you cant get out alone and be perfectly fine. Anyways good luck next time!

I feel you with the loud music, it just hurts my ears. Try ear protection and go to the areas in the club that are quiter - or outside, if you want. The thing with the cashier is, she is working. So she is actually paid to be nice to you. Now Im not saying she was ONLY nice to you BECAUSE she works there. I dont know the exact circumstances and the store where she works, so it can be whatever. I would suggest you do as she said, ask her out in a week again. Dont make it a big deal. Stay funny/cool. Dont press it too much. When you ask out a girl on the street she can go if she feels uncomfortable, the cashier can not. Just remember that. You dont want her to feel uncomfortable without an easy escape. Imagine how you would feel in that situation. How did your other interactions went on the other days/nights? How is your feeling towards women in general, like when you talk to them or afterwards?

Sounds good, its normal to get distracted. Be gentle on yourself. Just let yourself think and sing and come back to observing once you notice your mind drifted away. This will happen hundreds of thousands of times. I can also recommend focusing on your breathing.