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And then what? I mean everywhere else people would tell you to not allow it. You came to this place and ask this question. The thing is, you dont need her. You are already complete how you are. Whatever you do, its right. You cant do wrong! And love is not something limited happening between two people, its everywhere. My advice, go ahead and allow it. Let her try it. And maybe try for yourself. You are taken now, so that means dating will be a lot easier Be open to each other and share your feelings and insecurities (like the one I quoted). Release them and talk about them together and maybe it will be a great way to deepen your relationship. Of course be careful of things like STDs and do paternity testing if you have to.

This. Is there something you are hiding from us or yourself @yellowschnee ? With gay man only trying to be friends with you because of your cuteness I think its like people who want to be friends with you because of your money, status or because you know some famous person. You will notice pretty quickly. And its quite rare. Maybe change the setting you are using for socializing.

Next time after you came just cuddle a bit, use your hands or mouth to maker her feel good. After a while you might be able to get it up again Depending on your mood Id expect something between 5 and 60 minutes.

Sure everyone wants the same man. Was there some event in the past where you got betrayed or so? Because you should be able to see if you like someone or not by yourself. What can help is to not get into anything just because of a fear of being alone or something else thats silly.

And that makes them... what? I mean, do you think capable people deserve more money? We are not talking about jimmy is a good musician and worked hard his entire life, so give him 2 cars. While todd who is a bit dumb only gets to drive 1 car. We are talking about 10.000 vs 0 cars. Also in every country I know higher tax rates only apply to the specific amount over x. So its not like rich people get taxed higher. Its just that jimmy (60k/year) pays 40% on his 20000$/y, while both jimmy and anna (40k/year) pay 35% on their equal income of 20000$ and 30% on their other 20000$ they earn.

I dont indulge in distractions such as the future, only now. Issa joke.

Great insight! I think we all have that to some degree. Sounds also like you are behaving in a needy way. I dont really know what tip to give you. Maybe start to focus on the journey more so than the outcome. Enjoy the time you get to spend regardless of how she responds. And when it doesnt work out, enjoy your extra free time you now have just for you

Wrong, you are the man. You do the chasing. In general. Not saying it isnt possible the other way around. She might as well be insecure and think you dont really want her. As a man you should be comfortable with showing interest without being needy. I want her instead of I need her. Persistence is king. She can always say no, but if you already give up 1 meter after the start line dont expect to finish. If you go out tomorrow and talk to this cute lady, share each others views on the world, form a deep connection and later marry her, get kids and get old together. How is that shallow and a waste of time? You need to set the right motivation and expectation. Look Ive been there done that. If you really think this fear riddled person with tons of limiting beliefs is the authentic you, then fine. Never change.

Maybe you want to be a millionaire but you also want to be comfortable and lazy and watch this new series and read that, do that, meet friends, play this game, eat, drink. See? You are not very focused, so live isnt too much focused on sending the money your way, too.

This Also how can you be conscious and into politics, if politics is a distraction?

Eh dont be harsh on yourself. Most people have it to some degree. It cripples us on our way through life. So go ahead and release it!

I would say you are on the right path. Out of what kind of love does suicide come from?

Gratitude and Love. You can start with taking some kind of life lesson from it but ultimately you want to stop giving it any thoughts.

I would call all the above the self or ego. Its just different stages of needyness/neurotic behaviour. So for your question if you should actively manipulate her I would advise against. Right now it seems like you have two of the three most common needs for men in dating, the need for validation and especially for control. We want everything to be perfect, so that we can predict the situation and be in control of it. I would advice you to release this need for control. That means you have to feel it very deeply and affirmative until it goes away on its own. You might need to envision a scene in your head where you totally loose control over the situation/relationship to lure the need out. Thats when you pack it and take it deep into your heart. Screaming at it: More,more more give me more! You get what Im trying to say.

Thank you very much for this thread. Very interesting read! 8. Experiences from the waking world get transfered to the dream world. For example when someone tickles you while sleeping you might dream that an evil monster is tickling you. Or if you need to pee in waking world while asleep, you also need to pee in your dream.

You avoid that trap by not buying things you cant afford. Be conscious of your income and needed expenses.

People come to you and ask you questions and then they blame you for answering them. Are you serious? Maybe its the way you say things. Dont be a know-it-all. Be more humble. Maybe.

I used to play. Now I cant get invested in them anymore. See if you really love playing games or if its just a habit because you have no other meaning in life.

Why do you think about your future, stop endulging in fantasies that will never happen and focus on being happy in the all encompassing now. Nothing can be added, nothing is needed now. Your are dating her a few times and joked around, cool. Why are you making a big deal out of it. How can she know she wants kids with you if she isnt even decided on being with you? If you want to know if she wants to have kids ask her seriously and dont joke about it. And if she says no and is young. Dont worry so much. Biology and society will do their magic and she probably will want some kids later on. Caring about someone else rather than oneself is very liberating. Most people like it very much. If not, they havent tried yet. It means to detach first from your need to have the world any other way than it is. When you are detached you dont think about if you do this or that. You just do it without any attachment to the outcome. Aka you dont care. I dont understand what you mean with self, authentic self and no-self.

Do you mean to imply that feeling lonely is a bad thing?

You went on TWO dates with her and now you judge the future of this relationship on her slow texting habit? Have you tried 1. Talk to her about it? 2. Call her instead of texting? 3. Be true to your own values and stop texting her, if you dont like it?

I dont think you have no goals. You have goals but there is a voice in your head that says to all this goals "You cant do that, your are too dumb/mediocre/untalented etc. for that". Society created this voice in your head. Do you watch Leos videos? They could be helpful. Also if you cant come up with any goal right now. Your new goal is to find a goal that will make your life more fulfilling and inspiring. So work on your self, thank the voice that keeps on telling you, that you are not worthy, for his work and leave it behind. On the outside I would recommend you do a cold turkey on computer time. Stop using the computer after work for 2 weeks. Of course also no tv or phone. Go for a walk, read a book or write a journal instead. Even just doing nothing would be helpful.

There is also a book about it from an australian woman who worked in palliative care. The 5 things are: -Not having the courage to live your own life -Not staying in touch with friends -Working too much -Not expressing emotions -Posting videos without any context, thoughts or discussion in online forums

Why do you feel the need to rid yourself free of responsibility? Do you like to have a comfy live and blame others? You are responsible! The point is not to be shamed for being responsible but to be powerful - to activate a force in you that sets things in motion. Instead of feeling powerless and let everything stay as it is. Humble brag

This You can be nice and will be good with woman. But you cant be needy an be good with woman. Thats the difference.