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Accept it, welcome it. How does it feel. Can you welcome the feeling of not getting any validation anymore? Really feel it. Imagine the worst case szenario. Al your tinder contacts will ghost you forever. Never answer to you anymore. Can you accept that? Just think about it. The problem is not the things you are feeling. The problem is your resistance to it. Then ask yourself, if you can give yourself love and acceptance. Then give yourself a little more and a little more and even more. See how much you can give yourself. When you reach the endpoint, when you say you cant give yourself any more love and acceptance. Be curious. Why is that? What hinders you? And accept that as well. Repeat.

There are rich people out there who get no woman. On the other hand there are jobless guys who swim in girls. Its a factor but its not essential. The essential factor is confidence. Redpill bluepill is limiting your beliefs. The way you think about people has a huge influence on how your relationship goes with them. So think twice if you want to adopt those kind of beliefs and what that will do to your relationships.

If its a good product and its a win-win situation were you actually better the persons life I would say the end justifies the means. I would focus on making the sale a great experience where you can also connect with them and you should be fine.

So you cant live + pay insurance on 2k $ a month? I mean I know that california is expensive but that sounds really high.

It depends on what you sell. You want to make it a win-win situation. Where the stuff you sell is actually worth more to the right people than you charge. Your job then is to qualify people to see if they are the right fit for the solution you are offering. My guess is that at your company you are selling low conscious stuff that is not worth the amount you charge. Becoming more conscious will make it harder and harder for you to keep that job if thats the case.

What is the minimum wage in your country? These things you list are so basic, cant imagine you cant afford it with a full-time job.

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Do your first sessions and see how it works and then worry about the legal side later on. No one is going to bet an eye when you make your first hundreds. Not to say that its not possible that you could face legal trouble but the chance is very slim. Im telling you this so you start to focus on the main task at hand: Become a good dating coach that people want to book. If you dont have this you can worry and plan on the legal side of your buisness for 100s of hours and it will be mostly wasted. How many people have you coached so far? Some answers to ease your mind: Registering a business you do at the issuing authority from your state. Dont know how its called in Belgium. Tax rate is usually roughly the same for all business and you only pay tax on your income. Your home adress should be fine for an online business.

It means girls you are dating wont expect you to be a sex god. So your way of thinking that you need to be "good at sex" before you want to get into a relationship puts unnecessary stress onto you. Socialize and just stay confident. Id guess the biggest problem you have right now is your mindset. Notice how when you talk to others you already assume they wont like you, so you may not even start talking to them or break contact very fast. Notice how when talking to a girl, her giving you the slightest sign of not being interested makes you sweat. Even tho she might like you. So be chill, assume they like you and have fun.

It can make dating easier but tinder is more effective. Its so popular because its the most mobile friendly social network there is. And 95% of people use mobile to browse the internet nowadays. Dont even dare to upload a landscape picture!

Nice read, I love petting dogs!

The most important happening of a character ever was YOU happening right now. Jesus is also not the work of one person, just like madonna being the queen of pop and michael jackson being the king of pop, jesus being what jesus stands for was a team effort. He grew out of our society nack in the days just like donald trump grew out of it now.

Sounds about right. Depending on how much you put away every month and how old you are you will become financially independent. Be wary of lifestyle inflation and trying to "time" the market. Usually its best to just buy and hold. If you want the safe route I would only invest. Starting a business is the risky route but sounds more fulfilling

You say you already have clients and do the job, I dont understand what you want to do now? Do you want to get employees who do the dogwalking for you? Risk it. You can not fail. Maybe your business fails and you start new but with more experience. Remember the winner is not the one who wins the most but the one who fails the most and still stands up. If you dont risk it you already failed. Follow your heart.

What is your passion? What do you want to be a master of? What gets you in the zone? Pick something. Set a goal to master that thing in 10 years. Dont quit because you get frustrated you didnt master it in 1 week. Only do something if you enjoy the process of learning it. If its playing videogames than by all means do that! In this day and age thats a viable career path. But be honest with yourself. Do you really want to do it or are you just too scared or lazy to do the other thing? But dont worry about it too much. The most important thing is that you are passionate about it.

I love your post Please elaborate on what you mean by social conditioning. Do you have a more precise explanation (maybe from the book you mentioned)? In my experience the fear of approaching has to do with how needy I am. Am I in a great need for security? Well Im sure not gonna approach this woman when all the people around see me, I rather make myself small and quite to not stand out from the crowd and dont draw any unwanted attention. Maybe someone will hit me. Am I in a great need for validation? Ok hmm, what if that woman I talk to says Im not her type and just walks by. Ignoring me? Im really not sure about my worth and maybe if this woman thinks that way I REALLY AM WORTHLESS? Better not risk that possibility. Am I in a great need for control? Allright, lets figure out the perfect thing to say to this woman before I go. Oh, I forgot to wear my cool pair of shoes today. Ok then I cant go over. Everything needs to be perfect before I can go or I might wont be able to control the situation. Also I need to know the perfect response to her questioning my career or my hobbies. Better watch some youtube videos before I go out of the house! If you can realize yourself in the above than I recommend you release these needs. Think about the worst outcome possible. She runs away, a teenager gang nearby beats me up and Im too awkward to say anything in return. Ok. Can I live with that? Can I be ok with that? Yeah. I mean it wont be a nice evening for me but still I can accept that. Life will go on. Let go of your need for protection, validation and control. You dont need any of that. Its just an illusion. As Leo said in his videos: Fear just means that you dont yet accept this part of reality. This part of yourself. This ties in nicely with what you said because I think we are being conditioned by society to have these needs. We are made to believe that if we cant hold a conversation we will be seen as a looser. Many parents raise their kids to fit into society because they themselves are afraid. Its a fearmongering society. Life can be very different.

I like this thread because I didnt really think about that, of course its obvious that we like people who are generous rather than greedy. But you gave a more nuanced explanation. Dont think there is anything wrong with that. But I think that the more and more you realize you already have all the riches of the world inside of you and there is nothing you or anyone else can do to make you more ressourceful the less you will be able to be lured in by rich man. You will realize that no material possesions can bring you happyness. Just as much as when men realize they already have all the validation they need in the world inside of them the less they will be allured by female beauty. Not that you cant still enjoy it but it will loose its temptation and you wont be needy for it. The need actually comes from social conditioning. You watched too many movies, ads and read books about rich and resourceful guys who were liked by many girls. Just like I watched too many ads with sexy girls in them selling me the idea that having a sexy girlfriend = happyness. When in reality happnyess = here Being with a rich guy wont solve your problems, just as being with a sexy girl doesnt solve mine.

Could mean that you dont talk about your relationship enough in general? I dont know what you mean with "best way to face it". What are you trying to accomplish here? Just have a normal conversation like you usually do, be attentive and loving with her.

See this thread Also dont say you approach new friends. Just be social in general. Talk to everyone (not literally) and if you vibe with someone make plans to meet again. Thats how friendships evolve. A common interest or friend are also pretty common for that. For example you go to the same class, club or your friend brings another friend when you meet etc.

Confidence can be seen as a relationship with yourself. Can you trust yourself? Can you accomplish something that you told yourself to do? Do that more and more and you will develop more confidence. That is for long term confidence. Another animal is the confidence you already have in this moment. Its plenty enough but because you feel you are not enough by yourself you think that you need something from outside. Validation, protection or control. These are the main things you constantly look out for. When you can accept to live without those things your natural confidence will shine. Dont become too attached to it tho. Its not like you need to be confident. Love you develop in yourself. (See Leos video on Love)

Have you tried relaxing your body? Do that and then if you still want to be able to speak more do this. 1. Use the "Sedona Method" to release your need for validation, control and protection. These needs block you the most from talking. 2. Practise chain of associations. Do the practise in your head, on paper or even better talking to yourself. Leo talks about it in his "How To Be Funny" video. This will help you to speak without filters.

Yes you can. What do you think would change when you are married? What would happen if you would marry Leo?

Sounds like you are against survival, social norms, hormones and part of your dna. Good luck! You know more about this than me tho, so you should know what your getting yourself into.

You mean you did 2 oopsies: Kissing another girl while in a monogamous relationship with your girlfriend. And then also telling her you slept with prostitutes? How old are you? Have you watched this video? Conditional love is not true love. Doesnt mean you cant enjoy it but just be cautious.

Silence is a nice alternative to talking