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Why limit to somebody? Try everything. Let the love drip from your fingertips and onto everything your eyes gaze at. Feel the love and connection to everything. Breath it.

Why do you need safety so much?

Two answers here How to deal with your emotions: Have you watched Leos video on emotions? I highly recommend them to you! So basically when you have this situations you come up with a story. And the more you engage with this story the stronger the emotion. For you to have this strong emotion you must think along the lines of "She was supposed to be with ME but now she is more interested in her boyfriend and my roommate! She thinks im not attractive! That means Im not attractive, no girl will ever like me. Blablabla..." This is an example of a situation that makes you feel angry. But its just your interpretation of it. Another equally valid interpretation could be "Great! She isnt attracted to me. That means Im free to date other girls that do like me for who I am and I can find a girl that I will have an even better time and better fit than if I would hang out/get into a relationship with this girl. Cool. The world is so great to be giving me this opportunity to learn from this experience and go on and find my dream partner!" See how the story you tell yourself in your head is changing how you feel about it? How to increase her chances with you: Have you told her/showed her that you are interested in her? This the first step to get things going between you two. If you havent already, do this as soon as possible. Dont expect her to be instantly whooshed away when you do this. Just state your intent or make a move. Then she can make a decision if she wants to go on with it or no. If she isnt interested, you see that this is not the end of the world right? Do you? Good. If she never engages with you from then on thats cool, you now have more time to spend somewhere else. Find other girls, there are plenty. And if she is interested you can go on and explore that route.

Im just saying what I feel about you but Im not sure if Im correct here. You seem to be very rational about this, which is ok and we men tend to face decisions that way. For your own wellbeing please consider the deep deep emotional states you could be going through depending on what the outcome of this will be. Im talking about the emotional states not for the next month or years, I mean for a lifetime. Let your choice be one made out of love, coming from your heart

@Nivsch You are on the right track. Step by step see what makes you whole and happy. I can tell you two things Ive found that dont make me happy and whole A relationship Transmitting to other people that you are whole and happy so that they find you attractive If you dont feel whole, there is a need in you. This need could be anything (e.g. I need a new iphone, I need a car, I need cool friends, I need a girl, I need sex, I need money, I need attention, I need people to like me etc.). But it will ultimately boil down to 3 needs: Validation Protecion Control Explore these needs in yourself. How do they feel? How do they manifest in you? Get a coach to help you transcend and release these needs. Or do it on your own if you think you do that. If you have done that everything will become so much easier and nicer for you. Im not saying that you just have to that! Some things are just basic needs. For example food and shelter. You can be very highly developed but still get thrown off track without enough food supply. Especially in the beginning when you are still mastering your emotions it will be helpful to get those basics covered. Get some sex, human interaction, money or whatever you crave, it will help you a lot! But keep working on your needs.

+1 Just want to add, that the talisman can not be programmed but must have a magic spell on it. To do that you would need to be a wizard as well. That concludes how you get any girl really. Become the guy they usually date.

not sure if you want me to look on your channel or you want to suggest that OP should just distance himself from manipulative people instead of going inside and see what makes him prone to manipulation in the first place.

Why are you asking?

Id suggest you look for some people that have been in your situation and decided either for or against. And then ask them how happy they are with their decision and if theyd do it again.

Your action could have a small statistical impact on this. If you hit like. She could be looking you up, seeing how you had your profile on private and then just copied it. Like people who see suicide in TV will copy it and kill themselves as well. (see https://www.jaacap.org/article/S0890-8567(19)30288-6/fulltext) If you want her to make her profile public again Id suggest you make yours public. Could work!

Haha your a funny guy This is not some random event that happend to him. He had been navigating to it, set sails and held course. Im sorry as well tho.

Like with money. People think girls will make them fullfilled, but they dont. Watch some of Leos videos if you want to find out more. If you want a relationship, get a relationship instead of a hookup. Your needyness can be worked through with inner work only.

Why are you afraid of people? Where does the anxiety come from? Put that counselor of yours to work and get these questions answered! Or answer them yourself. You dont want to be afraid of people anymore. Ok maybe 2020 is the year where you can finally drop all of that fear!

Then everyone would sit around you watching attentively every step you make...

Im digging it! Also I like the beautiful drawing, you definitely got skill! Whats with the graph on the bottom, mind to share how it works?

@The Don Great find! It truly does work! Another proven method is to let go. Let go of needing reality to be a certain way. Lets go of putting your requirements on people, animals, nature, companies or society in general. Let go of validation, control and protection. Become a superconductor for life. Being without resistence. You dont even need to feel happy! If you feel the need to be happy. Let that need go. Another one is to love everything. Unconditionally. This also ties in with letting go. You lost your job? Love that! Someone calls you an asshole? Love that he did that! Life is amazing. Everything is love. Everytime something shitty happens in your life its the universe testing you. Universe: makes you sick "Is he still loving this?" You: *sick as fuck* but still loving every moment of it! Universe: "hmm" makes you go bankrupt *eagerly awaiting your reaction* You: Ah shit now Im depressed! Universe: Seems like the universe is a bit like a cat.

Maybe its just too easy to make money. You know, like you are sitting next to an atm thats broken and gives out endless money. You know the money doesnt belong to you and its wrong to take it... But at the same time its just sooo easy to push on that button and get more money. So you push again and again. Until you get exhausted and your finger hurts. Next day you swear to youself not to use the atm again... but on your way to the backery you pass that atm again and... oh your right back at it. Damn it!

And now. How did you come to this conclusion?

Maybe stability and equilibrium? Its also good for survival as it preserves energy.

Any ideas on how to do it? 2019 I want to say 10/10 but I was too lazy for that so I'll give it a 9/10. I dont set any goals for 2020. Im pretty happy with the trajectory so far //LIFE IS AMAZING!

I dont understand your problem. What takes time from you? Is it the relocation process or finding a new job? Or ist just the time at the job to earn money? How many hours do you work? Im the one that is holding me back 100%.

Yes Why freedom tho? Its kinda meaningless without the other values. But hey they are highly subjective so...

Most of your questions rely heavily on where you are at now. You can be the nerd type that is really rational and doesnt have a lot of experiences with women. Then you will have a much harder start than the regular guy that is already dating and has a social life. Biggest insight: Oh boy do women love confidence. Biggest difference between amateur and professionals: The professional isnt affected by the outside, he is self-centered and expects that women will like him. He can go out and get 10 girls telling to his face that he is a ugly fuck who no one would ever want and is still as confident as before. While the amateur is affected by the outside and relys on validation from strangers. The way he analyses and interprets the night, he is already out after 2 rejections. I dont know a lot about teachers. But if you combine experience while going out and talking to woman with releasing emotions that make you needy you will get very far, very fast.

Well you can do both. Asking questions is not bad per se. We usually dont know what to say because we are trying too much to say the "right thing", to make others like us or other consequences. The trick to talking forever about anything, is to remove all the filters you put infront of the stuff you say. Then you come into a state where you talk faster than you think. You can say everything unfiltered.

You are on a good path here. A more direct way to work on your needyness ist to release your needs for validation, protection and control. Try the sedona method. Basically just feel the emotion behind your needyness fully. Note: this can take several hours and continous sessions. You can learn it yourself but its also good if you could find a coach to do it with you (definitely faster!).