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not sure if you want me to look on your channel or you want to suggest that OP should just distance himself from manipulative people instead of going inside and see what makes him prone to manipulation in the first place.

Why are you asking?

Id suggest you look for some people that have been in your situation and decided either for or against. And then ask them how happy they are with their decision and if theyd do it again.

Your action could have a small statistical impact on this. If you hit like. She could be looking you up, seeing how you had your profile on private and then just copied it. Like people who see suicide in TV will copy it and kill themselves as well. (see https://www.jaacap.org/article/S0890-8567(19)30288-6/fulltext) If you want her to make her profile public again Id suggest you make yours public. Could work!

Haha your a funny guy This is not some random event that happend to him. He had been navigating to it, set sails and held course. Im sorry as well tho.

Like with money. People think girls will make them fullfilled, but they dont. Watch some of Leos videos if you want to find out more. If you want a relationship, get a relationship instead of a hookup. Your needyness can be worked through with inner work only.

Why are you afraid of people? Where does the anxiety come from? Put that counselor of yours to work and get these questions answered! Or answer them yourself. You dont want to be afraid of people anymore. Ok maybe 2020 is the year where you can finally drop all of that fear!

Then everyone would sit around you watching attentively every step you make...

Im digging it! Also I like the beautiful drawing, you definitely got skill! Whats with the graph on the bottom, mind to share how it works?

@The Don Great find! It truly does work! Another proven method is to let go. Let go of needing reality to be a certain way. Lets go of putting your requirements on people, animals, nature, companies or society in general. Let go of validation, control and protection. Become a superconductor for life. Being without resistence. You dont even need to feel happy! If you feel the need to be happy. Let that need go. Another one is to love everything. Unconditionally. This also ties in with letting go. You lost your job? Love that! Someone calls you an asshole? Love that he did that! Life is amazing. Everything is love. Everytime something shitty happens in your life its the universe testing you. Universe: makes you sick "Is he still loving this?" You: *sick as fuck* but still loving every moment of it! Universe: "hmm" makes you go bankrupt *eagerly awaiting your reaction* You: Ah shit now Im depressed! Universe: Seems like the universe is a bit like a cat.

Maybe its just too easy to make money. You know, like you are sitting next to an atm thats broken and gives out endless money. You know the money doesnt belong to you and its wrong to take it... But at the same time its just sooo easy to push on that button and get more money. So you push again and again. Until you get exhausted and your finger hurts. Next day you swear to youself not to use the atm again... but on your way to the backery you pass that atm again and... oh your right back at it. Damn it!

And now. How did you come to this conclusion?

Maybe stability and equilibrium? Its also good for survival as it preserves energy.

Any ideas on how to do it? 2019 I want to say 10/10 but I was too lazy for that so I'll give it a 9/10. I dont set any goals for 2020. Im pretty happy with the trajectory so far //LIFE IS AMAZING!

I dont understand your problem. What takes time from you? Is it the relocation process or finding a new job? Or ist just the time at the job to earn money? How many hours do you work? Im the one that is holding me back 100%.

Yes Why freedom tho? Its kinda meaningless without the other values. But hey they are highly subjective so...

Most of your questions rely heavily on where you are at now. You can be the nerd type that is really rational and doesnt have a lot of experiences with women. Then you will have a much harder start than the regular guy that is already dating and has a social life. Biggest insight: Oh boy do women love confidence. Biggest difference between amateur and professionals: The professional isnt affected by the outside, he is self-centered and expects that women will like him. He can go out and get 10 girls telling to his face that he is a ugly fuck who no one would ever want and is still as confident as before. While the amateur is affected by the outside and relys on validation from strangers. The way he analyses and interprets the night, he is already out after 2 rejections. I dont know a lot about teachers. But if you combine experience while going out and talking to woman with releasing emotions that make you needy you will get very far, very fast.

Well you can do both. Asking questions is not bad per se. We usually dont know what to say because we are trying too much to say the "right thing", to make others like us or other consequences. The trick to talking forever about anything, is to remove all the filters you put infront of the stuff you say. Then you come into a state where you talk faster than you think. You can say everything unfiltered.

You are on a good path here. A more direct way to work on your needyness ist to release your needs for validation, protection and control. Try the sedona method. Basically just feel the emotion behind your needyness fully. Note: this can take several hours and continous sessions. You can learn it yourself but its also good if you could find a coach to do it with you (definitely faster!).

Seems to me like you are a bit biased towards the feeling of "good". What about feeling sad, miserable, dreadful and so on? They also have interesting textures to explore haha. You know, some people enjoy these complex fuller tastes, kind of like whine or cheese. Or are you afraid of those? Are you running away from something?

Is that really the case or is that a story you tell yourself? I didnt meant to say you shouldnt do PD or strategic planning. Definitely work on a good schedule and work on having the best infrastructure in place you can have. But those things will come naturally for you. I see your are very active on this forum and so I figured you are aready well rounded and crunched down on that PD a lot. So for someone like you doing the actual work now seems the best way to go about this for me.

@The Don I think its more the case that we have to stop unconsciousness rather than teaching moral. Just knowing about morality may hold down your urges to act out but being conscious makes you not want to act out to begin with.

Why do we perceive time at all?

And even if you could control your thoughts and feeling 100% that still doesnt mean that you have free will. Leo just pointed out to you that you are stuck in duality based on your posts. Silly and intelligent is also a duality. Dont get stuck again

Aim for a good balance. But its cool if you can go into a relationship without needing anything from the other person and just express your love to them. Now not having a self is another completely different kind of luxury only a few people enjoy