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Kinda... say for example you need alcohol. And you know you need it to stop yourself from feeling sad. You can feel the sadness so deep and fully that the need for alcohol goes away. That is very simplistic of course, reality is always more complex.

I don't know where to fit all of this. And I think it's 50/50 we either find out by the government or by a random YouTuber who does prank videos. But when we find out they made contact, this is the song I will be rockin

This is some good self-reflection and it seems like you already know what you should be doing. That is to release on the need for her to love you, to validate you. Also it seems like you either don't trust her or you guys are not very good at communicating. Does she say she loves you and does she say she isn't into instagram-boys? If yes, then why don't you trust her? If my girl would be getting secretive about who she texts and likes on instagram while we are together she would either be playfully teasing me or be kicked out very soon. Everyone has their own vision for how their relationship should be. It is also totally O.K. to tell her to stop talking with other guys if it makes you feel bad. Some relationships are quite open and some are quite closed, there is nothing more to say here. And then of course there is the element of not getting lost in a train of thoughts. For example: You see her on instagram and giggling > Is she flirting with someone? You take her phone and see she likes pics > She is definitely flirting with him! You make a joke and she doesn't laugh > She doesn't love me! She is dating him! While what actually happend is you just made up a dream story that has nothing to do with reality. So be mindful not to get your imagination going crazy, that is why open communication can be great as it shuts these dreams down quite easily. Now, I would invite you to take a step back. There is a deeper story going on here and if you don't understand what is happening it will repeat itself over and over. There is a reason why you have these issues. And the reason is not because you have so little self-love, a shitty girlfriend or because your mother didn't hug you enough as a child. No. It is because you want to have confidence and insecurity issues. You love feeling that way, it gives you security. It makes your life easier, or maybe you just like to be a victim. Or to feel less. I don't know exactly why, you will have to find that out yourself. As soon as you understand that, you will be able to bath in and enjoy having these confidence and insecurity issues. Ah, don't they feel great? Cool... Then you will wonder what was so special about feeling that way. And you will move on. You will get bored by it. And your identity will change to fit a new want, a new narrative. A conglomerate of new sets of beliefs, desires, wants and needs that is a mix of everything but confidence and insecurity issues. That is real Growth ❤️

How do you want to be awakened while needing to be out of fights, need to be free from your dad yelling and need to avoid the police? Realize that you don't need anything. You are already complete.

Noticing how complaining makes you feel is a good start. Have you looked into Emotional Mastery?

Depends on how it makes you feel and if your subconsciousness accepts it. I'd say give it a shot and see for yourself. Everyone is different.

Yes Conversation is perfect as well. And if it happens to bring you down, well that is perfect, too.

Yes entirely possible. Start with the Sedona Method and do the exercises in Leo's Body Awareness video. You get tense and shaky because you have unfelt Emotions, a terrible mindset and have lost connection with your body. Unfelt Emotions You might have some deeply stuck feelings in you. Like sadness, bitterness, feeling not good enough, you name it. These Emotions are heavy. But they are not bad. You have to realize that you will have to face those Emotions head on. And there is nothing wrong with feeling them. These Emotions are not your enemy. Quite the contrary, they are your friends. They point you towards deep insights and realizations about yourself and the way you currently live your life. Another area to look at is your needs. Big ones are the need for validation, need for control and need for protection. See how much you experience them on a daily basis and evaporate them by going deep into the feelings. Future readings: Emotional Mastery, Sedona Method. Terrible Mindset "Dating is Hard" "I can't do it because I'm an introvert". You need a big paradigm shift in your thought process. The way you are thinking right now simply doesn't cut it. It drains you out and keeps you from moving forward. Do a deep inventory of your mindsets and replace them with mindsets that are more aligned with Truth and Self-Love. Lost connection with your body When we feel uncomfortable in our body we tend to get squeezed into our heads. Make yourself at home in your body. Be in the body. Feel your feet, you thighs, your heart. All these areas. Stop thinking and instead notice your body more. All of the above mentioned exercises are meant to make you lighter. Mastering your Emotions will naturally make you rise. Letting go of heavy feelings there is no other way to go. Changing your mindset to experience more joy in your life. Savouring each moment and just being are enough. Relaxing into your body the stiffness will fade away. You become flexible and at ease. ❤️

There are many ways to ground yourself. For example. Grounding yourself in your body. Which I think is very important, especially when you are a very rational person and find yourself being in your head a lot. Or Grounding yourself in Truth. Which has more to do with self-inquiry and becoming clear on who and what you are.

First, you are not being insulted. Maybe you two didn't had a match, or she wasn't in the right mood, or you where not in the right mood. But it didn't seem like anyone was insulted here. Of course it is better to get her number but sometimes that is not possible. Then you can either say bye, ask again later or go for something like her number, instagram, twitter, facebook, whatever. One thing you could try is to ask earlier for the number and then stay in the conversation a bit afterwards. Otherwise it may seem like you only wanted her number. Her being in a relationship can also be a good reason why she is not giving away her number (if she doesn't want her bf to find out).

https://www.actualized.org/blueprint/sedona-method https://www.amazon.com/Sedona-Method-Happiness-Emotional-Well-Being/dp/0971933413

Sedona Method is excellent for shadow work!

Emotional Mastery in a nutshell. Yes it's acceptance. But you can go even further and love it.

You might want to see if you can enjoy these activities. Speaking in a deep voice, clear and decisive. Lead other people, guide them and tell them what to do. Create space, first for yourself and then for others. Ground your bubble. Heavy exercise. Something like boxing, sprinting, weight lifting or even just push ups. Look out for others in need, manage their situation for them. Create a container. Breath deeply and be present. Don't avoid tension. If you have the urge to change the topic or leave. Stay. Step into tension. Say whatever is on your mind, be loud, get noticed. Touch others. Handle conflict. Don't avoid conflict. Hold eye contact. Smile and be self-amused with other people. Do things for fun. Or to make the situation more fun. When you talk to an attractive woman and feel turned on, embrace that feeling. Don't hide it.

Yeah I wouldn't go as far as judge the guy on this. You have to look at the bigger picture. Is he a great and responsible man in all areas of his life? It sounds to me like you just met him a few month ago and he lied to you in regards of his sexual condition. Now you don't trust him anymore. And in turn he is trying to regain your trust by agreeing to your terms. Do your own judgement. Regarding the whole sex situation. There is no reason to strategize or be diplomatic about it. Sex is not about thinking. It is about feeling. Of course if you have the feeling that you don't want to have sex it is right to tell him that. But what about your feelings for him. A deep relationship is so much more. And if you can somehow trust him again and you both get turned on - you two will get intimate again. I think he knows that and that is why he is trying so hard to regain your trust. It's up to you if you want that or if you don't. At the core is a shadow he has about his sexual condition. That is what you are noticing and what he will have to work on, no matter what happens between you two.

Why would you tell him this? Did it happend like this: You told him you would be fine with being together again on the condition you don't have sex. He agreed.

See if you have the following values and if it aligns with any of them. Connection, Love, Contribution, Fun.

So you consider the positions in which you climax easily to be the ones you don't enjoy? Hmm. If you want to start to enjoy your masculine side you could explore it in different avenues in your life. Not only while playing instruments. See how it feels.

How do you know?

For being less in your head. I'd recommend Body scan meditation (like in this Actualized.org Video). Integrating Emotions and elevating your Emotional State. Focus on light thoughts, having fun. Lower your chin and feel deep into your body. Be present. Really feel into the other person while talking to them. LSD or mushrooms. Push through tension. Gradually increasing your comfort zone. Enjoy and feel the moment. Ask yourself "Can I just be?"

Why are you like this. Best way is to not think about having sex with other girls. Only your girlfriend. And when you walk outside never look at any other girl either. Your love is limited! Don't waste it on others, or there will be none left for your girlfriend! When you are seperated for a few weeks because she is on a business trip and you get sexual urges they are impure! Filthy human body with these filthy sexual needs. Stop it. Only impure minds have sexual thoughts outside of marriage. Also stop seing any female friends and never allow her to be with other men. Only one day per year she can go on an event with her coworkers. But make her wear a burkha. We don't want any jelousy to slip through the pure minds you both have.

You mean he is not conscious and doesn't think. Well, what is with your parents for example. Are they conscious and do they think?

What if you started thinking about reality the same way. What are dreams and reality fundamentally?

There is no way to get to God. God is here now. There is only now. You already know. You are God.

They are not a must but a good relationship can make things more clear. Basically the other person can act as a mirror for you. Some people are very attached to their worldviews/thoughts. They will stop discussing it, or even go to war for it. I wouldn't force a topic on anyone that isn't willing to explore his beliefs.