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What I meant was more like a coach who can teach you stuff 1on1. Can make thinks easier. What also helps is working on your Emotional Mastery.

If you want to succeed with this you will need to be able to tolerate frustration several magnitudes higher than what you have encountered so far. The two are married together. In all areas of your life. Get professional consultation if you can afford it.

Interesting question. When I was younger I experienced a lot of boredom. Waiting for the train, waiting for the teacher... whatever. Maybe it is a state. When you don't feel like you have anything to do your mind switches to "boredom mode". Instead of just enjoying the present moment and all that it has to offer. It's kind of like a security mechanism to escape the present moment and not having to be "there". Maybe it helps to integrate your emotions to get to another state, on the other hand it is as simple as tricking your brain that boredom has been deleted from your life.

If you have the time I'd ask for a coffee right now. Get her contacts only if that doesn't work out. But that's just me, I'm tired using technology.

If your goal was to get the girl you should've started to talk to her more solo. And move away from the group, so you can have romantic time together. On the other hand if your goal was also to have fun with the group and enjoy the night with them you did everything right.

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Our memories are very flawed and stripped from a lot of detail. With that mostly everything that was unpleasant as well. Also thinking about the past is a distraction from the present moment. Which some people may welcome.

Can you give examples of this? Not to say that I don't like the idea but I haven't seen it recently. I would go as far and say embrace anything with Love and consciousness. Even women in night clubs who manipulate men to make love with them. You see manipulation happens everywhere.

Plenty of things to do: True Growth You can outgrow your inability to be alone. This means changing yourself so much, that you won't even bother thinking about the whole issue anymore. It means letting go of the self that is attached to having these feelings. That thinks it needs others and that is identified with having this problem. It can also help to release the need for company. That means welcoming the feeling of loneliness and emptiness. And then letting that feeling go as well. You can do the 2 Steps I described in my post here. Aligning yourself with Truth Meditation, psychedelics... there are many ways to increase consciousness. As you ground yourself more and more in Truth you may find out that you were always alone your whole entire life... or that you where never alone, ever! It doesn't really matter. Because as you dive nose deep into consciousness you also dive deep into Love. And feelings of bliss, joy and gratitude will soon be sharing the space with the loneliness you feel right now. Fake Growth Aka the practical stuff. Meeting more people, changing your lifestyle in a way that you will have enough company to feel happy. You are already doing this right now with the martial arts class. I'd suggest activities that are more about getting to know other people, instead of getting to know a sport. For example you could join a community or club that aligns with your interests (personal development, spirituality, yoga, meditation, finances, toastmasters... whatever). Basically a group of people that are open and meet to talk about something. Or they do an acitvity and then later on stay to talk about it. Speaker events often are like this. You sit for a few hours and listen to a talk, then later you can discuss the topic with the group. Meetups or networking events just to name a few more. While Fake Growth is not the best way, it's definitely better than doing nothing. Just fake it 'til you make it

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He says some nice things. And to many people this will be very relevant. Big companies spend decades of hard work to make you believe that a car, a frappucino and the new iPhone will make you happy. That is of course not the case. Learning to be happy with what you have is a good lesson. And certainly helps to live a more easy life. If you are interested in happiness I can recommend this video from Leo. Mr. Mustache makes some big assumptions. For example that the purpose of life is to be happy. For him that may be true, but everyone is different.

Definitely possible. Have you watched this video?

You are already living your dream life I'd encourage you to hone your creative skills. And also not focus on material things but rather experiences and feelings you want to dive into.

Shadow work. Work on releasing your needs via the Sedona Method. You don't need to find yourself attractive to flirt. Just have fun and if you act surprised when she says she is flirting with you it's even better. "No I wasn't flirting with you" (while you flirt heavily) *smile* "But you seem cool anyways, let's meet again" She : "Wow cool, ok sure!" You : "Ok what's your number?" And then continue not flirting with her

First you will want to know what it is that you want to do (something BIG). Then you break it down into smaller steps (something small). Figuring out what the next step is and deciding on it, is part of the creative process.

If you want to create a monster you need to become one. Just decide to become it and then go for it. There is no failure and there is no success. Only resistance to change. So much resistance. That is why so few change.

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It's like with friends or with dating. People want the best they can get. In a Job Interview they look mainly for two things 1. Do you fit into the team 2. Can you do the job (Positioning might change, depending on the job) Best way is to get to know the people who hire you before the interview. Second best is during the interview.

Please refrain from making too many assumptions about others here and stay on the topic. I think it is interesting how we define rape. A few hundred years ago the definition was way different. For example rape was seen as something that could only happend outside of marriage. Nowadays we have a broader definition and I'm sure a hundred years from now the definition will change again. And every person has a different understanding of it as well. People living in North Korea and other less developed countries will have a different take again. Then there is the question of what is rape fundamentally. A feeling? And what are the driving forces behind rape? What makes it more prevalent and what makes it less prevalent? This topic seems to be hitting a spot where people don't feel comfortable. Where emotional trauma is at play. Where there is a sense of feeling powerless and fearful. This story comes to mind. The Rape of Yeshe Tsogyel Yeshe Tsogyal is considered the Mother of Tibetan Buddhism.

Great insights! Now keep going...

I wanted to post this here as well. I think many guys can benefit from it and can get a better understanding of the opposite sex. Notice how there is no concern about how to meet and attract a partner. Instead it is all about choosing the right partner. You can clearly see how dating advice for women is radically different from dating advice for men.

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Order something you like to drink. Water is one, if not the best option when it comes to drinks. Otherwise juice, tea or non alcoholic cocktails. Be prepared that your friends might not like it (many tend to discourage people from change).

Of course, everything is a delusion! What is good is what is happening right now. There is nothing to do or to go to. Because everything that is, is already an authentic representation of what God/Infinity wants to display.

You could be asking if chocolate ice cream tastes better than sushi. Everyone is different and will have different tastes. Is a career better than not having a career and working for example at McDonalds? Probably... But still there are many people who have a career and are not happy. And there are many people who are in relationships that are not happy. It's all about what you like. Are you happy with your career or relationship?