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Do you already have clients? Do you have proof that your idea works and did some market research? If yes then I'd say go for it! Spending the 8k alone will get you hyper-motivated. And if the coach is worth his money and you work good together you can save a lot of time.

@ValiantSalvatore In your example your seem to be kind of reactive and compulsive. Try to relax, take some deep breaths and feel into your body. Maybe I worded it a bit wrong. Don't just talk about emotional things. Also be emotional with her. So when she says she likes Japan try to understand what she feels about it. And why. If she feels joyful, feel into that joyfulness. With her! And then you don't have to talk about other Japanese culture. You can say like "Oh I really enjoyed staying in South Korea, it was an amazing experience!" talk about it, or see if she asks you any questions and then switch the topic again. The point is that it is not about the information being exchanged, you can save that for work. When you are on a date it's about feeling, intentions, tension and having fun. Don't be afraid to not talk for a while. She can also keep the conversation up. Then quickly change the subject again. Like I said, it is not about the subject. It should all be very non serious but also not a comedy show. A good way to get more emotional is to ask her what was the last time she was moved/really excited/frightened/grateful whatever strong emotion you can think about.

A need to be exceptional is connected to the need for control. I'd suggest you learn Emotional Mastery. Especially integrating your emotions via the sedona method. You will learn techniques to release your needs. And you will see that you can still become a pro athlete, in fact you will find that it becomes even easier for you to pursue and accomplish your goals.

Seems like you got the first part down. Laughing and having fun is a good energy on a first date. Seems like you build a kinda wall to not get hurt. This will of course seem cold to other people, like they can't get to the real you. Maybe you experienced that yourself when you ask someone a question and they only give funny answers or don't really answer or tell anything about themselves. Find some similarities, talk about some activities you like and in general her and your emotions. Doesn't have to be extremely emotional or deep. For the first date that is usually not needed but could be fun if you both enjoy that kind of intimacy.

If this is really what you want to do in your life then I'd suggest you learn sales. It's a skill that can be teached and learned. Some quick tips. Get to know your customer as best as possible. You job is to help them to make a decision. Either yes or no. Doesn't matter. Of course if it is a no you write down why and think about if you did a good job explaining that part to them so that they clearly understood the benefit your product/service brings them.

Of course it is a big fucking bias.

I think if men want to change the way the dating market works, anyone who suggests this should start by having a romantical relationship with an older and unattractive woman. There are many lonely obese, bitter or unsocial woman out there. Start with the ones with some mental or health problems, too. Then begin a family and your kids can be the first in line for a regulated dating market. After all, if that is your vision, you should be willing to take the first step? For anyone else I recommend this read.

Could be because you are unconsciously wired towards failure. You don't allow yourself to succeed. That is sometimes because we feel secure with how life is going right now and being "successful" might change that. People could react differently to us, expectations could change. Maybe you fear that you are unwilling to feel the sensations of growth and change. Or you are attached to the feeling of lack and failure because you are so invested in that identity that you feel that you'd be betraying that part of you. And, it would also mean admitting that that part of your life was such a waste and you hate being wasteful etc. Study how to accept anything you are unconsciously wired to. Then visualize what you want next.

Don't overthink it too much. Do what @Roy said. But it is also important that you don't hide your intent/sexuality. Be a little proactive, like Roy in his example. Hundreds of books have been written on this topic but you only need to know very little. Research what "flirting" means and describe what you learned here in one or two sentences.

Ok, this is a kinda tricky situation. First off, the fear you experience is very normal and human. Even very experienced people will get that fear. The only thing different for someone who is experienced with this kind of fear is, that the fear they feel is quite small. And they know how to handle it. To lower the fear you can do several things. 1. Just do it. That is what you are already doing. You get more and more reference experiences where you did what you fear and it didn't hurt you. You are still alive. 2. Release the fear. This is a form of Emotional Mastery. You can do it from home. You work on the fear and emotions to accept them more and more and to have less and less resistance against them. Paradoxically, by accepting the fear it will become smaller. On the other hand, anything you resist will persist and eventually become stronger. To learn how to handle what is left of the fear you can do this. 1. Become comfortable with tension. This is a crucial skill you can develop. Type "Fearless man tension" into YouTube search if you want to learn more about it. There are a lot of good videos on it. 2. Reframe the situation. People who are good with starting conversations with strangers don't think "I have to do it in order to get rid of my fear", or "I need to do it". No, their internal monolog would be more like "This is gonna be fun", or "I want to do this now". One last point. The reason you are having a hard time with your fears is also because you are constantly thinking about them. And you are making it a center point in your life right now. There is nothing wrong with that! We have to concentrate on things in order to get good at them, or to overcome things. But, and this is kinda advanced, you will only really grow in this area of your life if it doesn't even come up in your mind anymore. Because you are spending so much time and energy right now on your problem. The problem becomes big. And this can be a trap. Because you are tricking yourself to see a problem and constantly create the problem in your experience. Where no problem really exists. Don't worry about this too much right now. It will happen automatically.

What did you do exactly to face your fears & insecurities head on?

That is not what intelligence is. Here is a good start if you want to learn more about intelligence.

Thanks for the great trip repport! Your trip checks out I could definitely see a few correlations from my trip on a mild dosis. In particular the "body high". Becoming more at ease in my body and more confident overall.

I think anyone who makes it to yellow automatically "acquires" intelligence on their journey. On the other hand there are many intelligent and smart people who are not at this stage. Why do you ask?

Are you willing to change your mentality? Are you willing to let go of being frustrated by covid deniers? Are you willing to have today be the last day you are letting yourself feel down because of this? Contemplate these questions and see if you are ready for change. Or if there maybe is a part of you that likes to be frustrated and feeling down because of this. If you find it hard and you are torn between yes and no, a vision of yourself can be helpful. What do you want your life to look like? Make a precise image of yourself and the way you want to be.

Here are some relevant videos for anyone who is interested in the topic and hasn't seen them. Cook-Greuter 9 stages of Ego Development: The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 1 The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 2 The 9 Stages Of Ego Development - Part 3 SD: Spiral Dynamics Stage Yellow

Isn't that exactly what Leo wrote like status is the hook and the rest is personality? Like in this video he also says that status & looks are not as important (17:30)

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Must have watched it at least 10 times. Very important skill.

What is emotionally difficult varies from person to person and situation to sitation. There might be some people for whom it is not difficult to live in a cabin alone for 30+ years. Also don't dismiss the emotionial turmoil that can happen in relationships.

The most meaningful thing you want to create in your life.

Yes, there are ways in which you can get something like messages from your subconscious if you analyze your dreams. For lucid dreams I find the concept of practicing a skill or using it for self-actualizing fascinating but I haven't had a lucid dream in many years. Do you have lucid dreams? If not, the first step would be to get them more frequently.

And woman will love you for this. Everyone wants to get the best they can get. It's all survival.

You want to speed up the process. Sedona Method is not about thinking about the questions. More like feeling the questions. You want to make a quick decision, yes or no and then continue with the next question (even if you answered no). Be a little more patient when learning a new skill or trying a new technique. For the Sedone Method to work it is crucial to get in touch and feel your emotions. I wrote a post that describes it step by step.

This is the culprit. As long as you need anything from others you wont notice any real change. The point is that you become so content and happy while you meditate, that you will notice that you need less and less. Needing TV? No. Needing instagram? No. Needing to be with other people? No. Needing approval of others? No. Needing others to even like me? No. While the kind of meditation Leo mentions will bring you there eventually. You can also speedup the process by deliberately releasing on the needs and desires that come up in social settings. No need to do it while you are with others (even though you can do that). Working on your Emotional Mastery can be done everywhere.