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@Tyler Robinson The guy in the video did exactly the opposite of what you should do in social interactions. When you want to have a good time you assume everyone likes you. From what he said you could quickly see that he thought the others where a threat. And he needed to justify and explain to them. If you want to make a better impression always assume whatever the other person is asking is in good faith and they already like you.

Laugh about it. No reason to focus on the negative. It's human to do it but you'll get much more out of life when you can focus on the positive.

I think it's ok to indulge in some ice cream and pizza. These are not even that unhealthy. Body builders eat ice cream because it has comparatively low calories, pizza you can eat without cheese and with lots of veggies and it becomes healthier (if you don't have celiac of course). Yesterday I had vegan ice cream without sugar, just dates and it was amazing! What you should avoid is salmon, that stuff is poison. So with all in life it's counterintuitive but you will figure it out. Listen to your body. Of course it depends on what your goals are, what your vision is.

No, proceed as usual.

You are not anger. Anger is running through your body. By keeping it down and having resistance towards feeling it, you imprison it in your body. When you are loving and kind towards anger it will become your friend. Allow anger, feel anger. Anger wants to go, naturally, but first it wants to be seen and heard. ❤️

What is it about fantasy mode that you enjoy so much? You are in this cycle because you want to. To end it and Grow you need to change. You would need to become a person that doesn't even think about fantasy land anymore. Are you willing to let that person go? Because if not, then you are already exactly where you want to be. ❤️

Learn about Emotional Mastery. Acceptance and letting go. Meditation. I’m general increasing your ability to be aware. Feel tranquility Feel love Feel complete Feel peace Feel centered

You are trying to perfect the opener. Why? If you want the best response rate, use "Hi, excuse me, you look like you are (not) from x". *smile If you want it in order to stay in control, you are on the wrong path. Control is not something you can get by saying the perfect line. Release your need for control, welcome the feeling of loosing control and let it go. Control is an illusion. You are not in control. And you don't need to.

This is normal. Can you feel and sit with this need for approval? Can you welcome that need more? Just sit for a few minutes and let the feeling in. Then when it's time, ask yourself if you would let it go and when. Repeat how often you want.

This seems to be something very dear to you. So maybe you should just talk about it and if the woman is not interested in this topic she might not be the right one for you. Set your own standards! If you want your girl to be very open about these topics, screen for it! In general, I'd advice against this subject, especially if you are uncertain how to talk to women.

If I was you I'd change up my beliefs and mindsets. This is the only thing keeping you away from friends and money. If you can focus on improving this day by day, even just a teeny tiny little bit. You can not imagine the results you will have. Here are a few mindsets I'd implement asap. -I do not need money to have friends -I do not need friends to have money -I do not need to be pain free to have money This is, if you really want to change. I'd enquire deeply why I am poor and lonely. What is the benefit for you to be poor and lonely?

Self-Love Letting Go Acceptance Also see my thread Integrating Emotions.

Now where they drunk or sober? Can't be both. Sleeping next to a guy or going in the bathroom with a guy are not signs for "I want to sleep for you" but they are also not a sign for "I do not want to sleep with you". If you ever find yourself in the same situation make your intentions very clear. As for how to tell if a man has done it before I am not sure. If it is your boyfriend you are worried about I would just ask him.

It's not black and white. These are cultural norms that vary by country. And as @Chew211 said also on other factors. In general, paying can give a small hint that someone can provide for the other. Which is a quality women seek in men more than the other way around. On the other side you don't want to come off as if you need to buy her "time" because you got nothing else going for you. So balance it out.

That seems a little broad for me. And as such it could be an overwhelming task. When you narrow it down, like which part of humanity can you reach best and what is it you want them to actualize first, the task can become easier. There are many areas we can achieve Growth in order to self-actualize, is there an area you want to focus on? When you have a narrower picture of your LP you will experience small wins down the road. Which will help you keep track and achieve your bigger vision.

What is your life purpose?

That's totally normal. Question your mindset, is it really hard to find a new partner? Cast some doubt on your beliefs. "I have low confidence and am not sure if I can still do it", is that really true? I would be very sceptical about it. Also might be a good time for these videos Also ask yourself what are the benefits for thinking like this? Maybe if you allow yourself to think this way and don't date, you wont have to deal with approaching women and getting rejected? And of course welcome your emotions. Let them run through your body. Allow them to be. ❤️

@Thought Art Well he didn't say he has a student loan. And I don't know who wrote that article but the study they are quoting puts Halifax at #17 of most expensive rents in Canada. In fact it was one the few places that saw rents go down a bit. Of course living expenses are getting high right now. But being debt free, no kids, willing to move and willing to share your appartment you are good. Just going on what information we have in this thread.

I doubt that. My motive isn't to guilt, it is to empower. But I see how it could be interpreted the other way.

Godspeed bro, you are rocking it with that challange! She probably felt insecure herself. You can help her relax and open up. But even if you do that some people just don't vibe. 1. Talk about what you love/hate, happy moments, vacation, dreams, the things around you. Stay away from politics, religion, stuff that will bring you/her down and anything too rational. 2. Body language, touch, kiss etc. 3. You eliminate the mindset that there is even the possibilty that you could say the wrong thing. Instead you see/evaluate if you like her. And if for some reason you still say something wrong, you laugh about it. 4. Is that really true? Did you ever had a conversation in your life that wasn't draining? 5. Then go, get up and leave. Have some self respect. Smile, listen to something funny. Watch something comedic. Work on these things 1. Embodiment. When you are talking with someone (doesn't matter if it's a date or not) explore your body. Notice. Feel your feet, legs, ass, dick, belly, chest, arms, fingers. Notice where you are feeling. Come out of your head into your body. Relax and stay with the person you are talking to. It's a bit like meditation, you can meditate on all of this as well at home for practice. When the other person talks try to be there with them. The other person will notice. You will fail and that is ok. Just come back to your body again, and again. 2. Emotional Mastery. Dating will put you on rollercoaster of emotions. You are already on it. It's better to go with it instead of fighting against it. Let your emotions run freely through you. Accept them, welcome them, maybe even learn to love them. Let them be. If you go like "Uh, this girl doesn't like/love me, that makes me so sad. I don't like being sad, go away sadness!". The feeling won't listen. Instead it will come back even stronger. Hitting you full head on like "Here! Here! I am sadness, I am here! Look!". Not good. Let it become your friend and it will come and go easily. ❤️

What do you mean with struggle? You either support yourself or you don't. I expect a certain drive to work on and better yourself from people on this forum so that automatically puts you out of the group of "many others". Yes. Some people may struggle with looking for jobs, going to interviews and then later to go to their job for 8-9h/day. Then they might struggle with not spending all their money on unnecessary things. But these are all basics that are easy to learn and have a very small learning curve. Compared to being a sage.

Are you happy in your relationship? If not maybe it's time to end it and just be friends. To go one step deeper. People will often treat us how we treat ourselves. So if you want to change something that is a place to look into as well.

As a 29 year old you should not have any trouble supporting yourself. Either commit 100% to your LP or get a job and do it on the side, both could work. Do you really want to change is the question.

No it's not. Just as much as the desire to stay in a closed relationship isn't as well. There is a difference between wanting to sleep around and needing to sleep around. Or wanting to stay together with a person and needing to stay together for that matter. Behind your desire to be single is there also fear about being in a commited relationship?