Norbert Somogyi

That's good that you do, I believe you do in certain contexts. However it just doesn't seem to reflect on the attitude you are exhibiting on the forum for the most part. Cooperation is not necessarily the first word that comes to mind. Granted, others are also to blame. From my point of view, It's as if you are looking for some sort of foundation for your worldview and you twist certain disagreements in that direction. Those end up being sarcastic comments and sometimes even cherry-picked arguments to justify your view, resulting in pain and making others uncomfortable (sometimes even worse). In a sense sometimes you end up propagating pain that cause potentially hate, which you can use as a justification to strengthen your worldview. However using their understandable reaction to this pain&discomfort that you inflict on others with your own frustration as a justification for one's worldview (be it man-hate or anything) is far from being cooperational in my view. Yes it is healthy to have standards in regards to the type of characters you surround yourself with, however there's no need to look down on the rest or spread hate towards them. In case you don't have the capacity to appreciate some people or at least be willing to listen & understanding, just let them be. I understand this is the internet and it is hard to avoid the urge to share one's opinions and worldviews, but c'mon. The hate you spread about these man-hater women sometimes end up becoming justifications for them to continue to do so. Each part spreading hate about the other, justifying the others' hate. It is a hellish cycle. Nah, I don't think of this as a theory. I have some first-hand experience in relation to being called a creep or being ignored by women I approached, but I didn't twist it justifying a worldview where all women hate men or that specific woman would hate men in general. These experiences were painful, but they made me reflect and I ended up being more understanding of my flaws and women in general. Nowadays I can get along with them just fine, and if something bad happens I can laugh it off or at worst just let it be and go on my way. I have other issues related to this, but they require deep inner work to solve & heal. These self-proclaimed feminists do exist, (I may be a little biased since where I live I have yet to meet them, it is mostly on the internet I see (especially if you intentionally look for them, duh)) and I find it best to spend as little effort & time with them as possible. Don't be irritable towards them neither, don't justify their hate further. I also can see how the current multi-faceted dynamics that are in place are perpetuating an increasing disconnect between people and themselves, and consequentially between genders. However the solution doesn't seem to be agression, but first a holistic understanding of the issue and being strategist about your actions to solve it. Even if a part of you genuinely wants to do something about this (which I can see you do), there are other parts of you that end up working against it (even if well-intended). This is what Daniel Schmachtenberger would call governance at the level of the self and where shadow work/IFS comes into play. That's good to hear! I don't want to discourage you about sharing the message, but I hope you could be more strategic about it and see the flaws of your current approach.

Men and women are meant to cooperate, not hate each other. Why not propagate more of that? Why don't you work on becoming a man who can elevate simps to manhood so that they can cooperate with women, while also becoming a man yourself who cooperates with women so that they can not hate you? Wouldn't that be a wise course of action, proving this *man-hate* itself wrong? Man, I wish you could meet a lovely lady in your life who would be able to change your mind on this. All these darts of projection you shoot at basically everyone are hurting them.

@framu Could you please share a step-by-step guide about how to do it correctly? I've been practicing and feel some kinds of results, but I just want to make sure I am not missing out on anything. Thanks!

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It is possible that your priorities are not in the best order. There could be underlying psychological issues / anxieties that are severely holding you back from succeeding in this field. If you could spend 10k on RSD coaches, you certainly can spend that on developing your character and life including Leo's Life Purpose course. Just watch Leo's How To Get Laid series thoroughly and see where you could be focusing backwards. EDIT: 400 approaches are great! Some people reach their first cherry after even more approaches. Not everyone is the same. Just make sure you don't evaluate your level of success based on laidcount. As explained in the recommended series above, that is just a side-benefit that can potentially boost your morale if you handle it carefully. Otherwise it is your character that is supposed to be built on this journey.

Perhaps their thought-process was that it would be more a viable approach to send a member(s) of their race physically so that making contact would be easier. You can imagine what went through the heads of the natives upon seeing us horrible white europeans with our advanced tech. Unless they technologically transcended the relativity of time itself, maybe what they see from Earth is the past maybe even before the industrial revolution and thought this is a better approach (possibly based on past experience). Could also have been a mere clone. Yes it does not make sense when it comes to resource management, but perhaps they prioritise benevolence and a pro-life paradigm over that. A remote-controlled airfact would also require a presence in the vicinity of the solar system, so they would have done a good job hiding around (unless they can cut through space-time itself to cross large distances quickly). I am just speculating, but perhaps it is within their framework once they have transcended the pettiness of survival.

Concerning the OP post - if you will be dating this girl, do not use nofap as an excuse to not have sex. It is a crucial part of the bonding process. This would be a good opportunity for you to rewire unhealthy porn-induced patterns in your brain with healthy ones. No-porn is a given to me since it can negatively influence your expectations and the bonding experience, given that unless you date a top model, reality will repeatedly slap you in the face. I'd say find your own balance. Doing it only with her is great, but if her sex drive is lower than yours then you may need to look for natural alternatives to even yourself out. This of course can change over the course of a relationship.

I went through this process with a trial&error approach for 5 years, with varying results. I tried numerous methods and had some success, with some *streaks* going up to months. Up until an occasion where I had utter disgust for doing it, felt it in my whole body. That cleared things up, helped me quit porn and brought me my longest streak. This was 2 years ago and I am back to a natural balance I'd say, releasing 2-3 times a month without porn. I can't say much about the transmutation of sexual energy or even Brahmacharya as I have little to no direct experience, nor does it currently work for me. All I can say is that the shame component is what makes things worse and fuels the addiction, and possibly POIS for some. Nor is it a magic cure for all of my problems, but it helped me become more of a man than before and take initiative & responsibility for my life.

Interesting share, this can potentially be revolutionary if taken seriously! I wonder if @Leo Gura has tried anything of this sort.

I most likely often drink a bit more than necessary, but I'd prefer that than constant dehydration. My veins have always been complimented doing bloodwork/plasma donation, furthermore my blood pressure/pulse have always been near perfect. It's just weird to me seeing people my age (mid 20s) with high blood pressure / resting pulse. In quantitative terms, I drink around 4-5,5 liters a day during hot summer days, and 2,5-4 liters on colder days (even during winter). My body thanked me for it so far.

Unfortunately Android is slowly but steadily following the trail Apple is setting. Replacable batteries, 3,5mm jack, unlockable bootloaders, microSD slots are fading away. All of these optionalities on top of the open-source system made Android shine up until like a decade ago. It seems to be a downhill since, especially from let's say 2017. Louis Rossmann has a few videos on the topic. If you care about owning and controlling your device, best to buy an older android phone you can hack. If you prefer security and everything just 'working' in your service then go for Apple.

I don't see the possibility of being blissful 24/7 as long as you have a body constantly working on preservation & survival. You can't transcend basic biological needs just like that, not with a body and ego. If your goal is happiness, watch Leo's Ultimate Guide to Happiness and get your basic needs met. Spiritual Bypassing is not going to help in the long run, personal experience. If your goal is bliss (which requires awakening), you gotta appreciate all the infinite parts of reality for what they are.

They appear to be polar opposites, yet that is how they attract each other. Spirituality can manifest on any stages of personal development, however it tends to become more integral at advanced levels.

Maybe we are a large sandbox experiment for pro-life aliens who are out there. Potentially their way of living and development is completely foreign to us. Maybe they have long risen above their survival instincs, trying to guide the growth of life in the galaxy instead. Intervening only when it is necessary. I can imagine that perhaps psychedelic plants as well have alien origin, which would also potentially coincide with how our brain capacities have increased at an evolutionarily unprecedented rate in 2 million years. I can also imagine that these aliens are multi-dimensional beings far outside our ability to sense them (unless they want us to), perhaps even time travel is not foreign to them. Maybe they are humans from the far future trying to steer away ourselves from the path of self-destruction. So many possibilites. Maybe us inventing nukes brought their attention, so they dropped an outdated piece of technology which was still leaps beyond our technological development back then (perhaps still is, as we potentially are still trying to reverse engineer it), trying to divert our attention away from nukes onto something else. Giving us time to be able to change course.

Whatever the case may be, solipsism does not exclude a potentially infinite depth of relative development (self-actualization) now, does it? Which in solipsistic terms would translate to exploring all facets of yourself. I have no doubts about your awakening experiences and intelligence that led you to this insight, however why not dwell a little in the relative realm and see how it goes? Maybe you have the power to change how you feel in this body, like a lucid dream. Who knows? Take a look at IFS, for example. Just begun and it already helped me take steps on a growth-oriented path in life. I am sure many others can say the same. Wish you the best!

Thank you for this amazing share, a lot of points to ponder on! Daniel is truly something else. P.S: I believe it is best for you guys to read the referenced article and its' notes instead of merely the principles shared here, so that you can minimize the chance of misinterpretation and avoid bringing up the gender question unnecessarily.

Back again. Ever since the incident I accidentally brought a hurt and long-repressed part of myself to the surface, my life has been swinging back and forth between periods of productivity and a general improvement in well-being, as well as intense anxiety. I had a coffee break booked with my coach but I had an intense anxiety the night before. I decided to go out in the night to club and went overboard with drinking, trying to numb the anxiety. I slept in and felt intense guilt. Fortunately she handled it with grace and positivity, made it easier for me to forgive myself for it. Even now I have an intense anxiety, and I'm not exactly sure what to do. I only have this recent episodes of anxiety (that I cannot connect to anything else) and a subsequent dream as a reference for the existence of this part of me. Not sure what event led to its' creation (separation) or how can I integrate it. I feel like journaling about it would be my best option at the moment, but the pain is overwhelming. Will try to do it nevertheless

Hi! I've been putting away the thought of journaling here for a loong time. Including today, it is about time to get into my night routine (but hey, better late than never, eh?). I have no idea in which direction this will be going. The funny thing is that I've been thinking about it for a while (for too long, trying to make it perfect without even making the first step - happes quite often). I guess I will just start and build it up as it goes. I feel like I have been interfacing with the world around me on a surface-ish level. Barely did anything with full engagement, yet for some reason I have managed to accomplish a few things I thought impossible long ago. Things like finding a stable 9-5 job, moving out, going out to have fun with or without friends, some success with pickup as well. Sometimes I feel like there is much more potentiality in the life that I can build, yet once I start building it I start to feel like I can't do this and just escape back into this thoughtless existence (much like being on autopilot, when possible). The office job I have now. In the first month or so I was basically great. Learned very quickly and I was told it will be really easy for me to do this. Then some time have passed and mistakes have started to come up, and eventually I sabotaged myself so much that I was on the verge of being fired more than once. Unhealthy self-esteem is a bitch, I know. For some reason I did not think I was capable of it (when I actually am, if I believed in myself). I guess there's a lot to unpack deep down. Even now I'm just rapidly going around, barely sticking to any topics. I guess that is reminiscent in the way I live these days, my attention can barely be locked onto anything for more than a minute. Now that I think about it, buying that feature-phone does not sound like such a bad idea. I guess I really need that digital detox, no matter how long I have been postponing it. Moving on, I have shit to do. Later

Finally got accepted into Integral Academy here in Hungary, my life is on its path towards enrichment. It is also a possibility for me to begin responding to my innate calling I've been ignoring for a long time. The interview was comfortable and cozy, went great. There is still a huge anxiety rushing over me (as always whenever I take steps in a direction), an inner voice telling me I won't be able to do it. Yet at the same time, I'm already formulating plans to deal with the financial deficit it may cause me, in ways I could further enrich my life. Didn't feel so excited yet so anxious at the same time in a while. Gonna push ahead.

Today I managed to respond to a person I've been holding off for like 1,5 months. Social media is a bitch, it can easily distort your perception of responsibility when it comes to communication. Another thing is a thought-process (perhaps an insight) that popped into my mind as I was travelling back to my apartment from work. I was always interested in things and had an innate curiosity, but it often stopped at a superficial level. Whenever I questioned things on a deeper level (concerning any topic including my identity) I met a wall which brought me pain and anxiety. Couldn't break through that effectively for years. Maybe it is because it does not align with my self-image (which I'm just discovering on a deeper level). Perhaps my self-image does not include innate curiosity, wisdom and introspection. It is, a weird thought.

Another entry into my journal. It is really hard for me to maintain this journal, because every time I set out to follow up on it I feel a rush of anxiety. I get the urge to distract myself, and eventually forget about it. It happens with quite a few things, but for some reason this time I have the strength to work through it and get down to journaling. Just celebrated my 25th birthday with some friends camping up in a cave, then at home with family. It was a wonderful experience, got to know this friend I've been hanging out it for years a lot deeper. Up until now I was constantly looking up to him, but this made me realize (like he was saying for a while by now) that he is not better than me. Perhaps in some things, but then I am better in other so who cares? Had a lot of deep discussions with him about life, psychology, spirituality and the future that we can see for the world. That is something I am relatively good at, but talking shit and having fun with others is something I'm still working on, still dependent on external validation. I've always thought that throughout my life I've always been passive & superficial with people in my life. However an insight just came to mind that the person I was showing to them at the time was actually me back then. Including the anxiety, seeking external validation, trying to please them instead of showing who I am. This kind of relieved me some of the guilt of me handling relationships transactionally in a sense (I only seeked the company of people I have seen value in (according to my perspective)), and the only way I could show them that I care was through either good deeds or material gifts of sort. Wanted to make up for my lack of social calibration, which seems to be improving week by week. Journaling is still painful, but I'm sure there is a lot deeper to dig into and thus I'll keep going.

Hi! I've been a loong-time lurker of this forum with only a few posts here and there. Another addiction of mine. I was at a cafe reading Six Pillars of Self-esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden I just bought recently. I tried to read it first by taking notes along the line, but I soon realized that it was not effective and I was lowkey fooling myself. So I started to just read it and dive deep into the book. Turns out I went a little too deep, as the book was slapping me around with each page I was reading. A lot of things have risen to the surface I was repressing for years. The thousands of hours I spent browsing the internet semi-mindlessly. The number of times I sabotaged myself when things started to go too well, like in job roles and relationships (or even friendships - I have underlying attachment issues as I could not form a healthy relationship of any kind so far, not even with my family - or myself for that matter). The bursts of energy and motivation, followed by falling back into my old protective, but unhealthy habits soon after once (again) things started to go *too* well. I am also heavily dependent on external validation. There's so much more. I felt incredibly vulnerable standing up and going home, been feeling like this since. In fact my brain threw me a quick dream, in which I was walking somewhere until I met someone who was pointing a bright flashlight at me. He pushed me back so much I fell on my cheeks. He sit down so I could see his face (with the flashlight still in my face), and pointed in a direction possibly signaling for me to go away. I have woken up soon after (must have been not even an hour into my sleep), feeling even worse. I tried to reconcile myself and tried to start talking to the part of me that felt vulnerable and hurt (with little success, but was an eye-opening experience). For some context: I am a 24 year old male, spent some time with psychotherapy (solo and group alike). I achieved some success (living on my own independently, with a stable job, some success in pickup too), but I just feel there is so much more potentiality. This is something that's been holding me down for a long time, and only now I am starting to realize how deep it is.

@flowboy Thank you for the thoughtful response! Given me food for thought. I will also check out the links you provided. You also inadvertedly have given me the motivation to start a journal here, so thanks!

@NoSelfSelf Oh yeah, I agree with that. I'm just saying most of the points you considered delusions (perhaps you meant as if one was focusing solely on one? In which case I'd agree too) can be integrated into your game to nurture it.

@NoSelfSelf While I agree that using money on girls to improve your dating opportunities, or focusing on girls that appear to be *easier* to get is selling yourself short, the gauntlet you proposed doesn't seem bad at all. Nofap can definitely help you improve your dating opportunities (personal experience) if not taken out of context. Even Leo says that you can just avoid jerking off for a few weeks before going out to get better results. It's not a necessity, but I believe it can provide numerous benefits in this regard and basically most facets in your life (especially once you stop being neurotic about it). Red-pill well yeah. There are some good bits to be found, but generally avoid falling into the ideology. Being on a purpose: Life Purpose - sounds like an integral part to improve your life as a whole, which in turn enriches your dating opportunities dramatically on top as well. Money/Status: Money is required to improve your status, but in a bigger perspective. You can use it to invest in yourself as well as to create and maintain a large social circle (if you are into that) to improve your dating opportunities. Looks maxxing: Improving your appearence can be a good strategy on its own, but in combination with other tools on this so-called *gauntlet* is the best. Passport bros: Well some people live in small rural towns where dating opportunities are little, in that case its better to move especially if you are not satisfied with the life you can lead there. Moving to the US seems like a good idea in this specific context too (but not a necessity). Obviously don't focus solely on either of these (perhaps except for finding your purpose, as that itself can enrich your life in a way not many things can), but a combination of these does sound good to me if done mindfully. What would be the real solution, according to you?