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Well @Jecht Spencer got it pretty much all covered. Women are attracted to guys who are comfortable with themselves. And to be comfortable you need to know who you are. That in itself projects confidence. So you can see how it is interconnected. Now, if who you are is a lazy slob, who sits all day at home, plays videogames, drinks beer and diet consists mainly of potato chips...you're not going to be as successful, to put it lightly. Not to say there won't be any girls attracted to you...but if you want the higher quailty ladies, you'll have to work and earn it. Also, women are constantly on the watch for men of similar or higher than the perceived value of themselves. At least, from their perspective. There isn't exactly a scientific formula on how all of this works. I suggest you pick up "Models" by Mark Manson. It's a great book which encourages you to be yourself which gives you natural advantage over a lot of other guys because it's easier to screen out options this way (compatibility testing). Yet you still need to improve, so it's a bit of catch twenty-two.

Watched this yesterday. I suggest you do the same. Really powerful message, do the exercise and you'll be astonished by the ammount of judging you do constantly. It will certainly help.

Pretty much this.

Haha, nice! Check this one as well. It's so descriptive and accurate to the point of being scary! http://www.intp.org/intprofile.html And this explains your entire life. http://www.intpexperience.com/

Tool - The Grudge

I haven't checked if there's a video on this. I read about a simple exercise in a book on positive psychology. You probably have past relationships where things ended in an ill manner. Maybe there were misunderstandings, maybe both of you were not comunicating well enough or were in a tough place in life. Maybe you still hold onto some grudges. Maybe you still have negative feelings towards your previous partner. So what do you do? Let go. Don't even analyze the situation. Accept it for what it is and what it was. You can't turn back time. Write a letter/note/message to the person. Focus only on the positive qualities and emotional experiences you had with them. Thank them and be grateful about the good times you shared together. Be as honest and sincere as possible. I guarantee you they will be surprised and react positively. And even if they don't - you feel like a massive weight is lifted off your shoulders. Like there is one less thing holding you back. That's how you move forward in life. By liberating.

Perhaps @Leo Gura should take on the challenge himself (at least 30 days of hard mode) and then share his opinion on the subject. We are here to be open-minded about everything, right? (:

Anyone into tribal?

Consistently brilliant, thought-provoking mindfuck movies.

Were you much of a reader before getting into self-improvement? If yes, what were your favourites? How would you describe your childhood/teen years? Anything particulary interesting? Before getting into pickup, what was your experience with girls? Do you believe in supernatural phenomena? Do you think aliens exist? What is your stance on conspiracy theories? What are your main inspirations? What would you say is the most valuable thing you've laearned from self-acualizing? Do you have a pic back from when you were overweight?

Not only is it a touching real life story but a brilliantly executed film and lesson we can all learn from. Not only about the strength of human spirit and will of perseverance but in general. An enlightening experience. It works pretty well as a metaphor too - of being stuck in life (caught between a rock and a hard place) and the scrifice you need to make in order to move forward and gain a lot more.

Oh yeah, I've heard that one a lot. It's true, I tend to overthink and analyze everything. I analyze myself, my decisions, my emotions, my behaviour. I'm always searching for patterns and reasons. I do it with everyone else too. I've become so good at it that usually when I reach a conclusion I'm right - and it doesn't take me that long. It's both a blessing and a curse, really. You need to find a good balance of thinking smart without becoming stuck in your head constantly.

I think it speaks volumes on our current state of ADD and short attention spam. Our lives are very fast-paced so we can't make time for the really important things. We consume fast food, we want immediate results, fast solutions. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. You need to invest in something constantly and long-term for it to bear any kind of fruit. That's why starting a business on your own seems so stressful - you don't know when it will start paying off...if ever. You see other videos - they're generally 10-15 minutes, really fast-paced, use a lot of cuts etc. That's what I love about Leo's content - it's genuine, done in one take, goes in-depth and synthesizes the most valuable information, presented in a well-structured and accessible manner. It's inexcusable if you can't find 60 minutes at least once every few days for something that might improve your life dramatically. However, I can understand why it would be a problem if you're not watching them out of your own genuine interest. My advice: Make them even longer.

After the sexual revolution everything is a mess. Women are trying to be more like men (purchasing careers, running businesses, earning more money than ever) while men aren't as ambitious and are unsure of their role in society or what it means to be masculine in this modern age. Equality is a lie and we al know it. Feminism. The Red Pill. Men Going Their Own Way, Would love a video on that one, especially Leo's opinion on the subject matter.

I love music. Share your favourites. I found this little gem just a few days ago.

What about the four archetypes of masculinity? I've yet to read that book but the topic is quite interesting.

You know what to do. There's some pretty deep stuff lying here.

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Name: Stefan Klisarski Age: 25 Gender: Male Location: Sofia, Bulgaria Occupation: Graphic designer Marital Status: Dating Kids: No Hobbies: internet, music, cinema, reading, drawing, meditation, tennis, self-improvement, hiking, deep & thoughtful conversations, introspection It's hard for me to pinpoint an exact date on which I started this journey of self-actualization. It's ironic because I was cynical about the idea of self-help/self-improvement...basically my entire life. I had nasty eating habits, was consistently consuming junk food, never working out or playing any kind of sport. Basically I was a lazy, unmotivated slob. However, I remember that summer 2014 I met a girl which I was immediately infatuated with. Now, girls and relationships were always one of my main inspirations (I've dreamed of having sex with hot girls since I can remember). Not that I was particulary bad at it but I didn't really have a lot of experience (my views on the matter were pretty idealistic and naive) and was basically a virgin. So this girl...I wanted to become the best version of myself for her. That's when I got serious about NoFap, started adding positive habits to my life and one thing led to another. It didn't work out with the girl, however I managed to pick myself up and an year later here I am. Personal challenges I've overcome: Neediness of women. I am fine and happy by myself. Fear of (failure in) sex and really intimate relationships. Unproductive porn and masturbation habits are more or less a thing of the past. Was out of shape. I exercise regulary now, am more physically active and also attending yoga classes. Social anxiety and fear of being judged. Still struggling but getting there. Low self-esteem issues. Granted, I'm still working on that but I feel way more comfortable in my own skin. Closed-mindeness. I'm way more open to new ideas or different world views. I don't automatically dismiss something just because I disagree with it initially. Bad diet. I'm more aware of the food I'm consuming. Trying to be a vegetarian for short periods of time. What I'm working on now: Finding my life passion Becoming financially independent Emotional stabilty Getting better at dating and (especially) sex Being an all-rounded individual Reading all the books I should've read a few years ago Being less messy and scatterbrained. Being more focused. My sleep schedule

Perhaps you're talking about me? Yeah, NoFap was my stepping stone into personal developement. I already started a topic about it in the relationship forum so you should check that out edit: Nevermind, you were quoting someone else. Here's the link to the thread.

But there is a purpose to that built up sperm - it is reabsorbed in the body. Not all of it, of course. Your brain works in funny ways - it recognizes when you're ejaculating with a partner and by yourself. Frequent ejaculation makes sense from a reproductive standpoint but what about literally wasting gallons of sperm? That can't be too healthy. Also death from oversex is a thing - http://www.iflscience.com/plants-and-animals/new-species-marsupial-has-sex-until-it-dies

You should probably abstain from porn as a whole and direct your focus towards real life experiences and relationships. Masturbation is a touchy subject. Everyone's different but the point is conserving and transmuting your sexual drive into health, creativity and energy. And don't worry about sperm building up - your body has a natural way of releasing it.

Great idea! I was actually thinking about something like this recently. Maybe you visualize your road to success and happiness. Plan the solutions to possible obstacles along the way. Drawing something would be even more helpful since it really lets your mind focus on the idea. You are creating the visual yourself so it interconnects and resonates more deeply with your concious and subconcious. I'm a graphic designer so now I have a lot of great ideas to tinker with.

It would be this one.