NewKidOnTheBlock

@Someone here You're just delusional, is the way I see it. Haven't thought it throught rigorously enough. What does even intimacy mean exactly and why would you need a marriage instead of regular relationship to fullfill this need? "Immature boy" lol you should take responsibility for yourself, thats true, but just make sure someone is not brainwashing you as to what that responsibility means, and what "mature" means, but it occurs to me that you have no problem with being manipulated, so go ahead. I won't gice you any more advice

Marriage is BS. Never get married. You know very well that you only want to get married in a delusional hope that it would give you some sort of added life purpose, guaranteed access to sex/intimacy, and so that you blend well with what is "normal" and culturally/socially encouraged. Big LOL to all of those reasons

Its for losers

Right? As if it's our fault that anywhere you look there's a woman showing her tits, ass, feet etc. etc. All these capitalist vultures and women do is exploit our natural instincts endlessly, and then some people have the guts to preach to men to "take personal responsibility and desexualize our brain", or do nofap or shit like that. Well, how about yall stop being vultures and parasites first, hm? Then we can talk about personal responsibility

Lets keep in mind that "conscious people" are not really out there in this world producing anything tangible. We just sort of sit on our asses and philosophise

Well that's fine and all, but there's not a single soul that's actually rich on this forum. To become rich (to even have a chance, that is) you'd need to get completely immersed into what you're doing to get that wealth, leaving you with no space for anything else, so much so that it'd change you fundamentally. You'd also need to become a kiss ass to a certain group of people you are trying to extract money from and wear certain masks because of that (since it's always other people giving you the money, they don't fall out of the sky so you need to impress these people and provide them value) and get rid of anyone or anything standing in your way. People who care about spirituality would realistically never go throught this process. Even to just get and mantain a certain job, you need to change the way you behave and think just so that you can become a good little cog in a machine and have an income. Never mind trying to become rich

Everyone always keeps bringing up the fuck ups of traditional monogamous relationships, divorce rates, lack of sex etc. and yeah that's a valid thing to acknowledge. But what about all the other relationships that actually do work as intended? That's not talked about. Not saying I'd ever get married, I'd be stupid to do so and I don't believe in the concept, but having one high quality women with whom you have connection and have sex with and have children with, is surely better than any casual sex you'd ever have with some random hoes/prostitutes etc. I know this topic isn't about that but since you brought up the typical potential downfall of a marriage, I wanted to mention this Obviously that's a shitty situation to be in, but I don't think it fits very well with this topic I'm talking the type of people who view having sex with random people as something normal, as if it was another Tuesday or something. Not people who seldom have it

@Sugarcoat In my opinion this "objectifying" explanation is just complete BS, its just a way for women to make sense of, and/or to shame male sexuality. Because from your point of view it seems like objectifying, from our point of view it is a natural instinct. So, this is just another feminist BS imo. Yall just dont get it for real The problems clearly are not the instincts themselves, like I said, but their bad "usage", or "application", these instincts make it seem as if men have no need for genuine connections but thats not true, its just hidden under the surface and we need it just as much, it's just a deeper higher need and therefore tends to be hidden and we realize it later that that's what we need It seems like from these classical feminist explanations women are always victims and men are always the bad ones, and I just don't buy it. Dodging accountability as ussual. Some women have perfectly intact self esteem and genuinely just like sex, or are trying to take revenge on their ex, or whatever. Doesn't matter anyway. In this post I wasn't really trying to make this topic gendered anyway, I was talking in general of people who are having casual sex, and that they tend to view things not very seriously in general, including many times feelings of other people

Yes, for sure I can relate to some of your sentiments on this topic. There's definitely something negative about this, despite nobody really discussing this nor caring about it, and despite this sort of light hearted, fun facade of casual hook ups. Which doesn't mean sex or sexual energy is bad, but clearly it should be consciously directed towards a certain purpose. For example, clearly on an instinctual level I am attracted to women physically, and my mind plays very minor role in this process, and that's fine. Its also fine to seek sex from a woman first, but it should lead somewhere. Towards a relationship creation, relationship strengthening, making children. One of these 3

Golden retriever must be the frendliest dog there is, can't imagine I'd ever confuse it with pitbull. Not that it matters anyway, cause why you'd ever do something like that to a dog unless you're in a life threatening situation yourself. Not gonna lie to you man, you're some dangerous weirdo for sure

Pretty much an out of the blue kinda topic, but important nevertheless. I remember Jordan Peterson talking about this topic but he insinuated something much more extreme, and that is that people who engage in casual sex exhibit signs of psychopathy, using other people for their personal pleasure. And he said that even if you're normal, if keep doing that for long enough you'll eventually become at least sociopathic. Now, this does seem kinda exhaggarated a little bit, surely psychopaths are born and althought sociopaths are technically made, it takes a lot more than that to turn someone into a sociopath I'm pretty sure. Something much more severe. But as I keep thinking about it and reminiscing about the people I've known and observed in the past who exhibited this type of behaviour, I just can't shake off the feeling that there definitely was something to this. I don't think you can just keep sleeping with many people without it decreasing your empathy and emotionality somewhat. And I don't think that's necessarilly good for your life

Lol she really is bending over backwards to defend her profession, isn't she? It's kinda funny to observe

You lost me with that soy boy shit, unless a dude has literaly, medically proven low testosterone, or he's a soy eater (the two can correlate no doubt) then you have no grounds to call someone a soy boy. What's non soy behaviour for you, always being an innitiator and a leader, kissing your ass, etc.? LOL ya women can define and redefine all types of shit as masculine or non masculine, and say all types of shit fr Anyways, I find people who are obsessed with politics a little bit repulsive, not in terms of raw physical attractiveness but just their personality gets uglier in my eyes, they are less likeable as people. Which is also important factor to consider of course. So I completely understand you in this respect

Balance is not always being neutral or being somewhere on the moderate parts of the scales though. There are some things in which there are pretty much binary choices, and you have to pick one or the other. And stick with it. For example, you can only pick monogamy or sleeping around, but you cannot have it both ways. You can also only have kids or not have them, but there is no inbetween choice

I think that a good ideal I can strive towards, is getting to the point of having the perfect balance in my life. Relationship wise, money/career wise, fun/vice wise (my vice is playing this very specific mnorpg game, which I just always liked for some reason, moreso than any other game honestly). Exercise wise, etc. etc. Good life is about finding balance, mantaining that balance and changing various variables of that balance depending on your life circumstances It is however difficult to tell exactly what such a balance should be exactly and it is tricky to find it