Never_give_up

I accepted many things this year: There are many people smarter than me I am not special I won't do anything important in life (something that will change the future of humanity) I won't do the things I want in life cause I wasn't born for them, my mental capacity isn't enough for the things I would enjoy if I had the mental capacity It will take many years to develop myself to find a girlfriend I can't be top at something, we are 8 billion and I am just one. I can't stand much pain and I am a coward: In short I am feminine in many aspects and traits There are people that are stronger, more beautiful, funnier than me. I am unnatractive at least for now. Don't confuse this with doing nothing. I still do art, workout, socialise and learning japanese, try to eat healthy. This is not about giving up. This is about moving forward without the pressure of things I can't control. This is about realism not pessimism. This is about radical acceptance that will reduce suffering. What are things you have accepted in life? Is acceptance the key to reduce suffering? I feel relieved that I accepted many things in life, but there is still some small part in my soul that I haven't accepted all of them completely. Should I go for radical acceptance and accept what I wrote fully or it's a wrong approach?

I decided to do psychedelics. My reasons, I have autism , inferiority complex, existential curiosity, internet addiction, too many desires and many other things, so I want to overcome these problems (yeah I know autism can't be cured, but I think it can be helped). I want to ask : In what country are they legal? are they expensive? what magic mushrooms or other psychedelics should I do? Where to find them (legally)? How many times should I try them and how long till i try them every new time? Will they help my problems? can i travel alone and do them? how much dose? What should i think or do while I am under their influence? Any other thing I should be worried about? Thank you in advance

I am 167 cm (5'6), that's what I consider short.

@bazeraI run and eat healthy. I have lost weight 2 times and regained it and more cause if I lose it too quickly my hunger goes up and it's impossible not to eat. I was losing 1 kg per week but that's so much for my body. I lost 12 kg and then regained them. Now I want to lose 1 kg per month , i don't want to make mistakes any more. My problem is not losing weight. I can do that. My problem is not regain it.

after all he can't do much in this world cause of his mental disabilities. Is he cursed not to do anything of value in this world?

@Olafbut short girls want tall men too Maybe the problem isn't my height but that I can't lose my weight. During covid quarantine I became fat and since then I can't lose weight. Before that I attracted some short girls. I had completely forgot about that. Yeah, it may can happen! All I need is to lose weight. I was 60 kg athlete attracting girls , now I am embarassed to say but I am 84 kg, that's 24 kg fat. I will lose weight, maybe it will take 5 years but I WILL.

If you are bored to read this then answer if you want if you care about other people's opinions. If you are not bored then proceed. At what point should people not care about what others think, and about what things? I am not talking about doing things that put you or others in danger for doing them. I am talking about embarassing situations/humiliation. You dance really weird and funny, people put you on a youtube video, it goes viral and millions people watch it, even people you know. Everyone laughs and insult you in the comments. In real life they see you and laugh when they see you (not loud to hear it but they remember how you danced and they find it really funny). Should you have danced or you should have avoided. Everyone says their opinions about afterlife, most say they believe nothing exists after, others say there is a paradise and hell, then there is you that believe in eternal incarnation. You say that opinion, people look at you in a strange and weird way. Everyone want to get away from you. You feel the humiliation, you get away and think of the incident for 6 months. Should you have said your opinion? Will you feel humilated or you won't care at all? You go to a wedding party and you want to wear something casual. You do. Everyone is dressed very well expect you. People stare at you, some smile or look in a serious or strange way. What do you do? Do you do what you want or you don't care? Even if you shouldn't have done this, let's say you did it for some reason. Should you feel humiliated or not? You make a youtube video, you are low IQ and it looks really unprofessional and you look really low IQ. Was your life destroyed cause of this? should you care? should you feel embarassed? shoud you have done this? do you care about other's people opinions? You get treated very badly cause of a hot high status bully, you fight back, everyone is against you cause you are low status and he is high status. Everyone ridicule you. Should you have found another way to deal with it or you don't care about the opinions of the crowd? You may have to see these people every day. You want to do a really feminine job as a man. You know society will think something is deeply wrong with you cause you know how normies are. Do you care about their opinions or you do the job? There are millions of examples. You could be walking weirdly, have a really feminine voice, whatever. Not all people are understanding. Maybe you are really ugly like 1 in a million ugly that normies don't want anything to do with you (sad but it can happen), how should you feel about that. You have a weird hobby, do you do it or do you stop doing what you love? It could be being 50 year old and want to do rollers plus you want them really pink. What do you do? Do you care about wht others think of you? When do you care for others opinions. When should you care? How you fight humiliation and ostracization? What are the solutions? how humiliation/embarassing situations work?

@Yimpai can't find psychedelics, I accepted that in this lifetime I won't do them I don't want to go to a foreign country to do them with other people, I am insecure in social situations with strangers. It's ok , it wasn't meant to happen in this lifetime .

Whether is animes or video games or any other type of art, if a person is incapable of creating art, and art is what he likes, then I don't see what else he can do other than consuming art since he can't create art. It's a bad situation but what is he supposed to do? Shouldn't his life purpose be to make money for survival and then consume art in his free time?

I am ashamed of writing this but I hope this community won't judge me. I don't like my role as a man. I don't want to die at wars, protect, provide. I don't want to fight other men for stupid reasons. I want to have fun. I want to be cared and yes even protected. I want to have fun like women do. Even sexually I am very submissive. I don't know what's wrong with me but I feel if I pretend that I don't want all these things I actually am not real to myself and if I try to act as a man I dysfunction. I am straight and have some masculine traits but not many. I am more of a woman than a man. I swear if I could switch my gender I would do it but with current technology we can't do that completely so there is no way I will become a trans (I am not saying trans women aren't women but that's my personal opinion). How do I live in this harsh world that doesn't understand men like me. Most people try to shame me for not being a manly man and the rest don't care. I mean it's good they don't care , it's their choice, but what do I do? Does any other man feel like me or I am an exception? I have never heard of any other man say stuff like this even online, so I don't know how this will be percieved, I am kinda anxious posting this. I am even ashamed to talk like this to my psychologist, but I will probably take the step and do it.

I tried so hard to make art using my imagination. But the only thing I can is to copy things from life or internet pictures (and I am not good enough in that either). I really wanted to become an artist but nature didn't give me the right genes. I am talented in informatics (I don't know informatics, we did informatics in high school and I just was really talented at it), the only thing that I am talented in. But I don't like informatics just cause I am good at it. I like art. I really wish I was someone else. Not a low IQ autistic uncreative guy. I am powerless, when others get creative ideas my own mind is just blank. I had no meaning in life, art became my meaning. But I am not good at it. So I have no meaning in life now that I am going to do drawing just for a hobby. All I can think is Leo's video The radical implications of Oneness in which he said ''in another life you will be mentally retarded''. This is the life he was talking about, and I can't do anything to change this situation... why am I even living? Can I do anything at all to change this situation?

My father became a gambler these past , I don't know, maybe 8 months. We just learned yesterday as a family that he has lost a huge fortune of money that was in common bank account with my mum. My sister is going to give birth in few days and she is thinking of leaving the house faster than she would. The whole family and the husband of my sister told him to stop playing these games, I said to him to go to a center that helps gamblers. All my father said was that he will stop he just wants to play one last time, which is ridiculous. You don't play one time, if you play one time you play again and again. He doesn't want to go to a center or to a psychologist or psychiatrist, he thinks he doesn't have a problem. My mother made her own bank account cause we know that gamblers may steal money , in some sense he already did that with the common bank account. You have to be really low IQ not to know that you can't win in gambling and yet he thinks he can make money. I can't see my father anymore it's too painful, he is addicted, I can't see an addicted person that doesn't want to help himself and he may end up homeless some day. He lost a ridiculous amount of money. I have a million problems in my life like being autistic, this is the last thing I imagined I would have. What can I do?

@Joseph Maynordrawing. But it's ok , I accepted many things in life are out of my ability cause of my unusal brain. It was a long journey before I accept this hurtful insight. I now pursue informatics and do drawing as a hobby.

Do you have any experience of this? if yes how to stop it?

how you spent your time on it?

@Ulaxwhat kind of goals help with anhedonia? Any example would help

@Ulaxit's hard to ignore a troll but you are right.

now we have one brain cell and incel penis. Nice, please continue, we need to have more self awareness and you help a lot. Not much you say? i see. Thank you for the productive conversation, it was really amazing to talking to you. Next time don't spent time to talk to people like us since we are all these stuff, spent your time more wisely and go support Clancy like mostly women do outside the court.

we are incels, cucks, ''excited to kill a woman'' as you said, and now we are fucking retards. What else are we? enlighten us.

@Elliott 3 babies are no longer alive, you really care about the motive? have you completely lost the plot? anyway, if you support her and I don't, there really isn't any reason for us to have a conversation, cause we see things differently in fundumental matters. It's like one person believes 1+1=2 and another 1+1=5, you can't reason with such people. Of course from your point of view I am the one that believes 1+1=5 and from my point of view you are the one.

@Elliottsounds like an excuse. Have a nice day, bye.

Maybe all the people that commit crimes are insane and have psychological and mental problems, but if society itself wasn't insane , it wouldn't use this as an excuse. It's an excuse only when women do it. People that support her women and men (but it's mostly women as far as I know) are dangerous and it's good when they do it publicly cause then you know who you have to avoid. This world is so gynocentric that we will see many more incidents before something changes for the better if it ever does. But of course in gynocentric society all you have to do is call somebody an incel, this ad hominem is funny cause it implies that there is something wrong with being an incel. It's like calling a woman cat lady but of course there is no shame in being a cat lady. I won't be surprised if she wil be found innocent or she will get 6 years or something. I have heard worse outcomes than this. Some people woke up after this incident but let's be honest, gynocentrism will be alive forever. @Elliott I hope she succeed this time.

We have a lot of fun in life (hopefuly). But having fun is very different from living a high purpose, or having a great meaning. Does anything have a purpose and a meaning at all? What's the point of being an Olympic athlete, an actor, a programmer, an artist, of making children, of being social activist and the list goes on and on. It seems like there is no higher purpose. Yes there is meaning and someone can have fun and improve life , but I don't see higher meaning or higher purpose. What do you think?

I want to see how many people in this forum believe in determinism or free will. If someone believes in both it's not a problem but personally I don't see how this can be the case. Even if randomness exist and everything is not predetermined, still that doesn't mean there is free will, it's just luck I suspect. So people of this forum, do you have free will? This is a question of curiosity, not a metaphysical serious topic, that's why I put it on this thread. Personaly I vote for determinism

my father had this and unfortunately in order to stop the addiction he replaced it with other addictions. I don't know how I can help but I would suggest to go to a community (a center maybe?) about addictions, in which people talk about this stuff. That's what my psychologist suggested to my father at least.