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I want to see how many people in this forum believe in determinism or free will. If someone believes in both it's not a problem but personally I don't see how this can be the case. Even if randomness exist and everything is not predetermined, still that doesn't mean there is free will, it's just luck I suspect. So people of this forum, do you have free will? This is a question of curiosity, not a metaphysical serious topic, that's why I put it on this thread. Personaly I vote for determinism

my father had this and unfortunately in order to stop the addiction he replaced it with other addictions. I don't know how I can help but I would suggest to go to a community (a center maybe?) about addictions, in which people talk about this stuff. That's what my psychologist suggested to my father at least.

maybe I should have put it on the intellectual thread. Facepalm

If we found a way that communism works fine, do you believe is good or bad? The way I see it it's good, because it's actually everyone has the same money with other people. Why would someone be against this? I don't know anything about communism or capitalism, I am completely cluless, so I try to understand better. Maybe I am wrong , maybe I am right, I don't know (I want to learn).

I think I am one of those men, can't learn game for various brain reasons, no humour etc. . I think I will focus on art, languages and becoming 10% body fat (which may never happen) . Do you really think a ''loser'' can find a gf? I don't think so. It wasn't meant to happen to me, determinism is cruel . If things could improve it would be different, but they can't. I wish I could cry to feel better, but it doesn't come out, LOL. Please note, the advice ''learn game'' doesn't work for me cause my brain is wired differently and I have low IQ. People also tell me I have no low IQ just low self confidence. No, I have low IQ, I know it, I can see it, it's so sad that some people have low IQ. That's why I want to know if reincarnation is real, so I go to the next life, but I am so coward I am going to stay and live this life till the end. I am not a pessimist, I am a realist, if I was high IQ I would not have a problem telling it or keeping it to myself. I really needed to vent. Do you think dying a virgin is a big problem? Are any of you in the same position? how do you cope? Thank you for all the support and answers you give me all this time, this forum is amazing and helpful, thank you so much. Just saying.

@HojoI am too coward to suicide anyway, I decided to live my life till the end of this perspective.

Idealizing women makes me unnatractive to them. Also it makes me so anxious I forget how to talk and can't look them in the eyes or face in general. How to stop this? Also is it true that the more experience you have with women the less you think they are goddesses and you become more relaxed when you are with them and thus you are more attractive? If yes, how do I get experience if I find them so attractive I can't talk to them? When I see an unattractive woman I have no problem talking to her with ease. I even become bored talking to her pretty quickly. But when I find a woman attractive even if everyone finds her unnatractive I am filtering everything i say at least 5 times and I end up saying nothing and I don't know what they think, they probably think I am weirdo or that I am a snob that doesn't even talk to some people. This life is so hard for me honestly pfff.

@Leo GuraIf someone suicides, will this affect his next life in negative ways? also how long does it take to be born in the next life after death?

that valuable things take time. This is the most important thing that I learned that gave meaning to my life. Then that everything is One so I am everyone and you are everyone.

My father became a gambler these past , I don't know, maybe 8 months. We just learned yesterday as a family that he has lost a huge fortune of money that was in common bank account with my mum. My sister is going to give birth in few days and she is thinking of leaving the house faster than she would. The whole family and the husband of my sister told him to stop playing these games, I said to him to go to a center that helps gamblers. All my father said was that he will stop he just wants to play one last time, which is ridiculous. You don't play one time, if you play one time you play again and again. He doesn't want to go to a center or to a psychologist or psychiatrist, he thinks he doesn't have a problem. My mother made her own bank account cause we know that gamblers may steal money , in some sense he already did that with the common bank account. You have to be really low IQ not to know that you can't win in gambling and yet he thinks he can make money. I can't see my father anymore it's too painful, he is addicted, I can't see an addicted person that doesn't want to help himself and he may end up homeless some day. He lost a ridiculous amount of money. I have a million problems in my life like being autistic, this is the last thing I imagined I would have. What can I do?

I think at 40 you are already at the end of attractiveness, with peak 25-35, 25 being the best, 35 being good and then declining, 40 being at the end.

I have no looks or intelligence. When I was a runner that did also a little muscle workout 10 years ago, many women used to be attracted to me (i know cause they complimented me or talked to me. They didn't talk to me when I hadn't this body fat). They were also taller, rarely much taller. Some even made specific eye expressions that meant they were approachable they were 20-40 years old. I was just an 20 year old autistic kid so I was too scared to approach. Even now I would be scared. Also I had a ''friend'' back then, he was a sociopath although I thought he was a good guy. He was short (166 cm) like me (167 cm). He had and suspect still has so much action with women, even taller than him , you know why, because he was so funny. Being funny means you are intelligent and also make women feel happy. Honestly I start to think that you have to have some looks and intelligence (great humour) or have great looks and zero humour. And even then humour will get you more than great looks. But you still have to have some looks. For real attraction you need no serious money, not great kindness, not great social circle, no great influence and power, you just need some of that, which is easy when you have either looks or some/great looks and intelligence (humour). All these things (money etc) are for long term relationship. But real attraction (which is often short term) you need only these 2 things. I lack the one, and I struggle to get the other. What's your experience? No one can pursuade me looks don't matter, as a short autistic (low IQ) man, looks were the only solution. No one can pursuade me that being extremely funny doesn't work, my short sociopathic ''friend'' that didn't look as good as me (although not bad looking) were extremely attractive to many women his whole life, many more than me although they didn't approach him as much as me. What do you think, is this the only thing that matter? Or other things matter too, for real attraction, not for long term relationship?

Assasin's Creed Odyssey <3 <3 <3

@Leo Gurawith so much misinformation on the internet I don't know what's true and what's not. Is your 3 parts attraction series all I need to know?

I tried so hard to make art using my imagination. But the only thing I can is to copy things from life or internet pictures (and I am not good enough in that either). I really wanted to become an artist but nature didn't give me the right genes. I am talented in informatics (I don't know informatics, we did informatics in high school and I just was really talented at it), the only thing that I am talented in. But I don't like informatics just cause I am good at it. I like art. I really wish I was someone else. Not a low IQ autistic uncreative guy. I am powerless, when others get creative ideas my own mind is just blank. I had no meaning in life, art became my meaning. But I am not good at it. So I have no meaning in life now that I am going to do drawing just for a hobby. All I can think is Leo's video The radical implications of Oneness in which he said ''in another life you will be mentally retarded''. This is the life he was talking about, and I can't do anything to change this situation... why am I even living? Can I do anything at all to change this situation?

I decided to do psychedelics. My reasons, I have autism , inferiority complex, existential curiosity, internet addiction, too many desires and many other things, so I want to overcome these problems (yeah I know autism can't be cured, but I think it can be helped). I want to ask : In what country are they legal? are they expensive? what magic mushrooms or other psychedelics should I do? Where to find them (legally)? How many times should I try them and how long till i try them every new time? Will they help my problems? can i travel alone and do them? how much dose? What should i think or do while I am under their influence? Any other thing I should be worried about? Thank you in advance

relative to me that my brain is low IQ, everyone seems like he/she has superpowers. That being said I really think some people like 1 in 15 are so smart they have superpowers relative to other people. It really depends how you mean it.

As someone that has been physical being bullied for 3 years from 13-16, it's really disturbing that the other 13 year old that destroyed my life didn't go to prison, cause ''these are just kids''. I don't care if you are 8 or 13, if you destroy people you deserve to go to prison, I don't care if it helps them or not. That being said, I am really scared of authorities abusing their power and sending innocent 13+ year old teens to prison. I don't trust the system. Metaphysical speaking, if they are me I am just punishing myself.

@YimpaI can't find psychedelics in my country. Plus they are illegal. I am also to autistic and dependent to travel alone. Honestly if I had psychedelics I would definitely try them. They have offered me some here but I can't risk doing something illegal in my country that doesn't respect human rights that much , so they wouldn't understand. Do you believe psychedelics can change someone so much? and if yes what to do when I try them (how should I act?)? Also how many times should I try them to reach the things I am missing? Lastly I live with my parents, if I were to try them, could I do it in my room without them knowing? Also do you think I can travel and try them abroad?

1. more people = more taxes 2. Demographic problems (again more people more taxes). 3. cheap labor (locals don't do the hard low paying jobs) both sides have racists by the way. The idea that immigrants can't be racists is mostly left wing ideological idea and the idea that locals can't be racists is mostly a right wing ideological idea. I am local and have been physicaly bullied tremendously both by immigrants and locals, bad and good people are everywhere, in every country so it's lauhable when people deny that.

i got diagnosed with asperger too. It's no longer called asperger though. Yeah it's lonely, cause I feel stupid and cognitively powerless. It's sad that other people got ''powers'' that I have not.

I feel the same, I want to take my life but then again what's the point of taking my life, if reincarnation is true then I am going to be back here again maybe as an ant or something and not a human. Plus it would hurt my family. What keeps me alive is having goals (learning a language, learning to draw), journaling and imagining that I am with the girl i love (she doesn't like me at all which makes me want to take my life even more so I just fantasize about her and me being together). It's the goals for me, some day my life will be better when I will learn a language and know how to draw, when I will become thin. I had a rough childhood and teen years and even later, too. But I try to forget my traumas as suggested in Leo's videos about trauma. I don't know how to help you but maybe if you set goals and try to use your imagination to feel better it will help. To be honest the best thing you can do is talk to a psychologist/psychiatrist. I mentioned I want to take my own life to my psychologist and she tried to help me, also she told me to try being grateful for the things I have cause it helps.

I know a guy that I would describe him as sociopathic sadistic criminal. He tried to bully me sometimes even showed me a hammer and I and my father called him on the phone and told him that we would go to the police if he bothers me again. He agreed and told us that he would stop bothering me. Some days ago after 6 months from the hammer incindent I saw him and he did a quick ironic laugh. That was enough to trigger a panic attack although I tried not to show it. I doubt I can go to the police or a district attorney and tell them that this criminal laughs ironicaly when I am near him, especially in my country that doesn't bother that much protecting citizens unless it's clear that very bad things have happened. Not only that but this question isn't a legal question, it's about how do I relax, it's like I have PTSD from him and from my past bullying experiences as a teenager. I try meditation but it doesn't seem like great solution in this instance. I am really scared of this criminal, I think about mma moves all the time just in case he tries something. I live in a small town so I am definitely going to see him again some day and although I am planning to move abroad it will take years (I won't move abroad cause of him). We have talked to a police man and told us if he bothers me then I we should go to a district attorney and show them my diagnosis that I have mental problems like autism cause it helps with the situation if he ever tries to do anything. I have 2 appointments in 8 days with my psychologist and my psychiatrist and I am going to tell them, but till then I don't want to bother them. I told my mother and she told me that unless he does something worse then ignore him. How do I relax? How not to let obssesive thoughts and PTSD take over my mind. I understand this forum isn't about talking about these stuff so I understand if this question gets deleted but I hope it doesn't. What to do to cut these obssesive PTSD thoughts, how do i relax? Thanks in advance.

I just learned something really scary. After you lose a lot of weight (like I do), your body increase hunger and make you less satisfied in order to go back to the weight you started, maybe even more. And it takes a lot of time till the body gets used to your new weight as the normal. So what can someone do in order not to regain the weight he lost, since the hunger is going to be very strong....?

I am ashamed of writing this but I hope this community won't judge me. I don't like my role as a man. I don't want to die at wars, protect, provide. I don't want to fight other men for stupid reasons. I want to have fun. I want to be cared and yes even protected. I want to have fun like women do. Even sexually I am very submissive. I don't know what's wrong with me but I feel if I pretend that I don't want all these things I actually am not real to myself and if I try to act as a man I dysfunction. I am straight and have some masculine traits but not many. I am more of a woman than a man. I swear if I could switch my gender I would do it but with current technology we can't do that completely so there is no way I will become a trans (I am not saying trans women aren't women but that's my personal opinion). How do I live in this harsh world that doesn't understand men like me. Most people try to shame me for not being a manly man and the rest don't care. I mean it's good they don't care , it's their choice, but what do I do? Does any other man feel like me or I am an exception? I have never heard of any other man say stuff like this even online, so I don't know how this will be percieved, I am kinda anxious posting this. I am even ashamed to talk like this to my psychologist, but I will probably take the step and do it.