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@Sugarcoat Do u have anger issues? I think you don't have anger at all. Your memory is sharp, but your thoughts have low volume. 💭 Now after knowing ur stories, each time I write something to you, I remember not to burden too much with text. Look, I have done 500 posts so quickly !! How many thoughts I have, u can imagine.

Sexy insight. When I watch lectures at 1x, I can focus better and retain more than watching them at 2x. Because it feels relaxing and there's no anxiety or rush. When the teacher is teaching everything smoothly, softly and effectively; and I am attentively listening and making notes, I get too much pleasure and I don't need anything else for dopamine. Actions speak louder than words.

Visualization. Periods of celebration and high spirits. High confidence. Great lifestyle. Brother- and sister-like friends. Social work. Prevention of Human Trafficking. Movies production. Automobiles company. Airlines company. (if I survived, no one can stop me from doing these things.) And a lot of other things too, which I haven't mentioned here. Discovered this great inspirational video by FLUKE LUCK..

How to focus. I noticed my mind was drifting while I was studying. I was not attentive to the lectures I was watching and the things I was writing. So here's my solution. Whenever you are conscious, pause for a moment and ground yourself. Tell your mind that you've to focus on the current work. And that you have to be immersed in the lectures as if they are some stories and you are making notes about them. A very imp thing to do : stop multitasking. do only one thing at a time. If you are studying : study only.. nothing else (even if you get some notifications). If you are checking emails : check emails only. And nothing else.. If you are doing xyz : do xyz only. Consciously and physically hold and control yourself. Push yourself consciously. Quora Answer 1 Quora Answer 2

I caught myself fidgeting (due to anxiety), and instantly stopped doing it just after starting it. So yes, now I know I'll win every battle. Let's go....

Remember this. 📌📌 How you'll focus on your studies (with ADHD) ? Imagine a gunpoint on your head and whatever's in front of you, just go through it relentlessly. (Just an idea) Maintain calmness during the whole process (to decrease anxiety or hyperactivity, bcz hyperactivity interferes with focus). But also maintain a decent speed. Show some energy also..

Going through some of the good journals on the forum, I have realised everyone has their own shit. Their own weaknesses, insecurities and shameful things. Weirdness. Awkwardness. Etc. I am not alone. For example, it's a little shameful for me that I am trapped in a toxic family, I lack exposure and freedom. And many good things. But I read a similar story in someone else's journal. This sub forum is a gold mine for me. Will definitely go through all the good journals here. There are a lot of things to learn here. In every domain. Business. Female psychology. Parenting. Etc. Lots of experiences.

My name is Ranveer. I will compensate for this mistake. For every negative thing, I will do 100 positive things. It's my personal rule. For my own satisfaction. 📌📌

My mood is off or depressed almost all the time.

I will write some of my stories here. Family violence. My school. My academics. How I went from top to bottom in studies. My college nightmare. (I'm a college dropout.). Suicidal thoughts. Etc. It's important to write them here. Some of them are hard to write. A part of me doesn't want to go there and unpack ugly stuff. Whatever happens, happens for good. And my life story is interesting in a certain sense... I wanna collect at one place (in this journal) all the problems, insecurities, experiences and my vulnerable stories that have shaped my life.

CLARITY. [ Mental Health Issues. ] There are some mental health issues or neurotic behaviours that bother me constantly. Like anxiety, fidgeting 24x7, perfectionism, etc. So yes, what you are gonna do about it? Try to be conscious. Whenever you realise that you are doing something neurotic, be very conscious and let it go. For example, whenever you find yourself doing unnecessary perfectionism, let it be imperfect. Leave it as it is. Just. Let. It. Go. Whenever you catch yourself fidgeting, be aware, calm down, it will automatically stop. You know very well how easy it is. Start doing meditation everyday, whenever you are ready for it. (Take a challenge and create a journal for it.) Watch some great youtubers on it. Go for therapy in future. Very imp. point : Self love, surrender. Being grounded in yourself. Feeling your own self very deeply. Being emotional and peaceful. Reading vulnerable stories. Crying. In such periods, mental issues don't arise much. (I haven't cried "properly" for many days and a lot of stress has built up in my mind now.) Hyperactivity vs Composure. I want : Sometimes : Composure. ✓ Other times : Thrill. Motivation. Energy. High spirits. ✓ You just have to fulfill your ambitions. What else? Of course you need a decent speed, passion and proactiveness for that. But too much racing, and hyperactivity, and aggression are unnecessary and harmful !!!! Don't completely eliminate these things, but make sure to keep them within limits. Show hyperactivity or aggression sometimes. But not always. And also keep the intensity within limits, so that you don't go crazy. Bottom lines. Maintain balance. Be composed. Be energetic (high spirits) sometimes. But remove the ADHD (excess of hyperactivity) and anxiety part. Just like Acharya Prashant. He maintains composure, but also shows aggression. (But in limits). A song. Song 2 In ADHD. You have to be calm while studying. Integrate calmness in your life.

All Indians are welcome. We'll discuss India related stuff (news, pop culture, trending stuff, youtubers, etc.) and share Indian language videos. You should write the name of your state too. I'm from Bihar. Pakistanis and Bangladeshis are also welcome. 🇮🇳🇵🇰 🇧🇩

Some thoughts on ADHD. I am not hyperactive all the time. I also have periods of calmness. Hyperactivity in ADHD doesn’t mean you’re always moving. It can come in waves or be situational. Periods of stillness may happen when : ✓ You're tired or overwhelmed. ✓ You’re hyperfocused on something interesting. ✓ You’re masking your energy in certain environments. ✓ You’re in a reflective or calm mood. ADHD is dynamic, so your energy levels naturally shift. ••••• The key difference is intensity and impact. In ADHD, hyperactivity isn't just occasional—it’s frequent, excessive, and disrupts daily life. For example: ✓ It’s harder to control. ✓ It happens in situations where most people can stay calm. ✓ It interferes with focus, relationships, or tasks. For people without ADHD, those shifts between activity and calm are more balanced and situationally appropriate. ••••• No one in my family will ever understand my mental issues. Problem is not that they don't understand me. Problem is that they are unsupportive, they criticize me and create troubles for me. I have urges to move (walk) all the time. I have to suppress it when family members are around. I do this when I'm alone. ••••• Reminder 📌 Meditation will solve this issue.

So again you wrote short answer and I understand why. Btw I also write very short answers sometimes. You lack thoughts.

Notes from my old journals. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

I think it's your biology or neuroscience. Nothing spiritual or paranormal. Maybe there are some drugs or technology that can help. Maybe there exists some solution that you don't know yet. ...... Now I understand why you write very short or single word answers. While I was talking to you in PM, were you struggling to write things, I guess? But I was impressed by your writings and it felt very normal to me. Nothing abnormal I could detect. How on earth you managed to read my long messages in PM? God knows. Is it the same as Eckhart Tolle's thoughtless condition? Have you surrendered fully to the universe? 😆 Some of your symptoms also seem similar to autism. Your thoughts have low volume. So you struggle to catch them, right? (I have the opposite : too many thoughts). My thinking is my problem. It's frustrating and depressing.

Yeah 😄 I am about to complete it. I haven't completed yet.

Orgasm. Solving my addiction problem for good. (I'm glad I did this). The way I masturbate is so pleasurable that I don't even want to call it "masturbation". I wanna call it imaginary sex or just orgasm. Anyways. Until a month ago, I used to masturbate almost everyday. I used to watch porn for some 5-20 minutes just to arouse myself before masturbation. I wasn't addicted to porn, but to masturbation. About a month ago, I took a one-month challenge to show @Leeo_SA that I was not addicted to porn. Now I am about to complete the challenge. And I am very grateful that I took the challenge. Cz I notice some +ve changes now. I don't need porn obviously. My masturbation-orgasm frequency has decreased and each session has become even more pleasurable now. (I don't feel like doing it everyday). I now do it once in 2-4 days. I hope it can decrease even more. Porn isn't a problem in itself but it increases the frequency of urges. It makes us more addicted to sex, and hence decreasing the pleasure per session. I'm feeling slightly better and more vital. Although my mood is off a lot of times in a day... due to some other mental or physical health issues. So I think my orgasm addiction is not that much of an issue now. I also hope it will decrease further in future. It's just my personal experience. Everyone has a unique biology.

Note. I made some very big mistakes and now I'm saying to myself "what the fuck I have done !!!!!!!! "....... I don't care what others think about me. The real problem is "what I have done". Trying to control a situation which you can't control is pointless. So learn from it and move on. 📌 This haunts me from time to time. 📌 The worst part : it was a very shitty mistake. It's embarassing. 📌 I do fuck ups in anger and reactivity (impulsiveness). It hurts me that I broke a promise or commitment in anger or impulsivity. That I lost trust of someone.

My thinking style. [ I have to change this ] I take a lot of time to resolve things in my mind. I can think everything fast, but I don't. So I have to change this. I have to quickly resolve everything in my mind. Because life is short. I don't have time. I think in a very neurotic way which is hard to describe. I think in a very detailed way. Let's say there's some xyz matter or topic, which is unresolved. First thing is : I can't leave that xyz topic unresolved. I just can't. Second thing is : I have to work through all the aspects and all the points of it, till I gain full clarity or resolution. I can't miss a single point. I take too much time because of subtle doubts (that some points might be unresolved or missing.) A lot of tabs (topics, insights, ideas) are created in my mind, and I start doing my most important work only when all tabs are closed. Now I have to make this thinking process super fast. Each time I have to mentally work on a topic, I will say to myself, "do it fast bcz u don't have time, many imp. tasks are pending." Then it will conclude real quick.

Mental health issues. Autism. ADHD. Perfectionism. Rumination. Anxiety. Fidgeting. Anger issues. Chatgpt. 2nd, 3rd, 5th points are very relatable. I waste a lot of time rereading simple passages of mine. It's frustrating to see.

The kind of life I want. I currently have a monotonous and lonely life. I have fomo when I see exciting things going on in the external world. When I see other people travelling, socializing, dating, making friends, networking, doing businesses and projects, creating interesting/unusual stories in their lives. When I see bright and shiny shopping malls, stores, brands, etc. The sexy business that goes on in their backend excites me more than their lustre or shine. And a lot of other things also excite me and give me fomo. I wanna create too many interesting stories in my life. I want exposure. I wanna be very connected with the world. I want 1000 friends from all over the world. I want massive knowledge. It's very important to do before my death.

I am a very empathetic person. When I see some very sad vulnerable stories I feel some emotions deeply. I feel others' emotions so much as if it had happened to me. I feel very sorry. I get very overwhelmed. I get overwhelmed seeing death or sunset or things like that. (Impermanence). Not always do I remember them. I chill when I forget them. Ignorance is bliss. Both happiness and sadness are parts of life. God, why are you playing such a mysterious movie? Moody songs. (Hindi) Song 1. Song 2.

I was just a little upset that's why I wrote that. Nothing was wrong with your comment at all. @Schizophonia