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If she looks ugly but has a great character, would you date her?

So true. ✅ Good. ✅ I have experienced this. I was attracted to a female and bcz of this attraction, I had a bias that " I liked her bcz of her great character. " We use "character" as an excuse to hide the fact that we are attracted to "good looks". We do appreciate good character, but it's never the cause of "attraction". No matter how great their character is, if they are ugly, we'll not like them.

Normal everyday people have no idea how many incredible and shocking things are happening in the world. We only know what we see and what we are told. Just imagine how much is hidden. How many large-scale conspiracies are there that no one will ever uncover? Your jaw will drop if you get to know them. How much Putin, Trump, Kim Jong, etc. are hiding from the world? This makes me so mad. (All political leaders, not just these 3). I'm an Indian.

I'm so sorry for what you have been through. How are you doing now? In family? In career? I can relate to you. I have a similar story. All I can say is that whatever you have to do, decide carefully using your wisdom. Have some faith.... Have you considered therapy? For ptsd etc. I didn't get it. can u explain?

https://youtu.be/AlB6OklejyA?feature=shared https://youtu.be/JhV9f1l3H1A?feature=shared These videos have amazing solutions for all neurotic behaviours, ocd, etc. ... I like this neurodiversity perspective : ... Me too. It's my clear goal to get rid of this. ADHD, hyperactivity, fidgeting, rumination etc. are my problems. ADHD is very common, seems like almost everybody has some of it.

@Buck Edwards why are you active 24x7. You once said to me it's a "toxic" distraction. When I realised it's becoming addictive, I decided to limit it. Cz I can't tolerate any stupid or immature behaviour in me. Doesn't suit me. I'm not addicted to any social media. I don't see Instagram or YouTube unless needed. (exceptions are there). I'm not even aware that Instagram is on my phone.

@Buck Edwards thanks for writing. I was just thinking about writing something to you. That you change your profile pic again and again. And "why don't you ask Leo to change your name to Sara, Buck E is a male name." I also have tendency to do the same. It's not a problem. Some may call it autism. But it's not necessarily true. It's neuroscience. No need to complicate it. This is Perfectionism. When I get bored of something (some wallpaper or dp) I change it. I want "just perfect". But when I get a perfect thing, I leave it. For example, I am not gonna change my dp again cz it's perfect. This is neurosis, which is quite common. Just that everyone has different set of neurotic behaviours. I understand you. Cz I can relate to you.

Leo Gura laughing in the corner. 😆 First watch his videos and contemplate. !! It doesn't require psychedelics or hard philosophy. (No offense).

Commitment 1. I will limit my time on the forum. Making hard rules isn't necessary. Just shift your focus. Focus on what matters. Distractions will be automatically removed. Many great things are there on the forum. But sometimes you have to sacrifice something important for something even more important. The greater you want to become, the more you will have to sacrifice.

Note 1. When motivation hits, I can’t help but question why I allowed myself to lose it for so long. However, motivation is temporary, and life is a mix of highs and lows that we must embrace. Instead of relying on motivation, build unshakable commitments that drive you to act, no matter how tough things get.

Cute answer. Teach it English and Russian. I'm not able to click on the poll.

True. You're right. I understand. Absolute truth vs Paranormal games. Big difference. Games are distractions... ❤️ Talking about something that's certainly possible : In the coming years, you'll be able to transfer your brain software (memories concepts personality etc.) into a computer. And you can also create a humanoid robot that looks like the person who is dead. There are lots of things we can do. Human cloning etc. I don't know much. What did you experience?

1/10. I did similar shitty things when I was a kid and I don't judge them.

Conspiracy theory. How do u know?

Dec 31, 2024. ✓ I masturbated and had orgasm, without any porn or explicit images. I had some desire to watch (to make it more pleasurable), but I didn't bcz of my commitment. Btw, my imaginary sex was already very pleasurable and enough.

I don't respect the human made laws too much (cz they are not supreme, they can be faulty too). If I get caught I'll have no guilt. I'll have suffering (physical suffering of the prison). I think I'll have no problem in killing anyone. But I'll have a wound in my heart (somewhere I would not feel good) that I killed a human being , cz only the psychological part of the person was my enemy, not the whole physical body. I may even cry seeing the innocent dead body. I show both tendencies (hero and villain). I want to be the worst villain in anger/revenge. And I also want to show my face to my loved ones. I can kill 1,00,000 terrorists without any guilt at all. (Maybe I'm wrong...) But I'm worried about the time when I'll be very close to death. I'll have a heavy heart then.

What if I do one dark stuff in revenge and also do many great things and live a good life? What punishment will I get? Just a little sadness or regret might happen just before my death. And maybe I'll have difficulty showing my face to someone I love or explaining things to them. But those who are not conscious at all and are serial killers, have no regret or sadness after killing people. They die peacefully when hanged. No I haven't. It doesn't happen always. Often times happy and innocent children draw nightmares without any reason. (Now nobody will say "it's the karma of past lives" without having a direct experience of a past life) !! Why so , if God doesn't know the difference between good and bad, between pure and impure?

It was a great video. Everything she said made sense to me. I understand how hard it is for them. (Not fully but still....) It's a law of nature that you can't get everything nice. Pros and cons both come together. Pain and pleasure both come together. She said this This is what I hate about pickup culture and those who are involved in it. (Those who just want beauty.) While watching the video, I felt very upset seeing the inequalities and how most people in our society behave. The way they look at and treat a "beautiful" woman, the lack of freedom she has, and how most people focus on her sexuality rather than seeing her as a person.

Yes, normal citizens won't do it. It's common in film industry and among influencers. And both males and females undergo surgeries to look good on TV.

You didn't get it. Visualize carefully. If she is still obsessed with beauty while she's alone, it's bcz of her past habits or conditioning. Or maybe boredom. But for how long she would decorate herself if no one is watching? Good point. ❤️

@Emotionalmosquito Nice. You can record your journey here. I'll do many more challenges after this.

If there were no humans on the planet but one woman, she wouldn't care about her beauty. If no one were watching, she wouldn't wear any makeup. She would just look normal... Neither ugly, nor beautiful.) It's a cleverly designed society. Women were made to wear short, revealing clothes and show cleavage. They were made to wear jewelery and makeup and dance in front of a male crowd. And now these are so deep rooted in our cultural DNA that women are unaware of it. They deny that they do these things for attracting men. But either directly or indirectly, this cultural conditioning has influenced what they do. Women want to attract men, that's why they want to look beautiful. It's all about survival. Men also do the same. But not as much as women do. Men have different values than women. While women value beauty more, men may value action/martial arts/courage/power more. (Sometimes exceptions are also there.) Everyone wants to attract the opposite sex and does whatever appeals to them. I don't see any of this as bad, I'm just writing what seems true to me. Of course, self esteem factor is also there. Wearing good attire and being beautiful boosts our self esteem and motivation in life, and wearing ugly clothes will degrade our self esteem for sure. That's a different matter. (Looking professional and looking hot/sexy are different things.). Looking sexy is important for survival of mankind.

My intuition told me after reading this that he must be an Indian male. And I was right. I have also failed in some exams bro. I know it's hard. But start afresh with a new motivation. At some point you will have to bounce back. KHHV is an acronym standing for kissless, handholdless, hugless virgin.

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@Sugarcoat why do you feel so? Why don't you feel like normal humans? Have you taken psychedelics or do u have any mental issue? Tell me the reason.