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I am genuinely interested in understanding the psychology and worldview of those who self-harm. I can't even imagine of it, I don't have any tendency or courage to do it even in the most difficult times. So I am surprised how on earth one could do this? How? Have you ever done this or witnessed this? Is there any similarity between them and sadists, who get pleasure in inflicting pain on others? It's very gross.

Note 2. Attraction concepts. Based on my personal experiences only. Might not be true for everyone. Why it happens? Not just looks. Good looks are nice. But it isn't enough for attraction. It just looks good. If there is beauty with low wisdom or bad character or low integrity, then looks don't make any difference. And in that case, I don't even want to see them. A face tells us a lot about a person. I don't understand all the thousands of details a face tells (I wish I had physiognomy knowledge), but still I understand a lot about that person, by just seeing their face. Like "how they'd behave?", "how empathetic they are", "what type of person they are" etc. If the face says something that appeals to me, attraction happens. (Even if they are not very good looking). Some admirable quality, character or talent. Polite or empathetic nature. Mutual suffering. If they are in pain. Overthinking is the devil. Attraction increases when you focus on them (think about them) and decreases when you are not aware about their existence in the world. So whatever you focus on, grows. Feminine energy obviously. ➕➕ How do you feel about it? If it's one-sided : It's unwanted. There's a conflict between mind and body. On one hand, it feels good. On the other hand, I wish I had no such biology that causes attraction. It would give me so much freedom (I crave freedom.). Also, if I had no such biology, then I would not be able to experience intimacy and other good things. Then I would be jealous of other people. So it's difficult to say whether it's a boon or a bane. It bothers me bcz it restricts my freedom. It takes away my most precious mental space and time. If suddenly you lose control from your mind, it will shock you. If it's from both sides : Then that would be cool I think. I don't have experience. Another good point : if attraction happens, I don't want to fantasize anything about them in a sexual way. I just want their heart. ➕➕ What to do? Don't try to remove focus from something. Instead shift your focus. Ground yourself in yourself. Know that you're perfect and complete already and no one is needed to complete you. See other people and things that are interesting. See movies. Make friends if possible (right now it's not possible for me, cz I'm confined). See anything that's interesting. Attraction happens because of fomo, loneliness and overthinking. Example : as I started using this forum, I got completely detached from Instagram. Experience : I remember once I had got so attached to someone. Not bcz it was necessary, but bcz I did a lot of overthinking and amplified it. Then how many months it took me to move on? 12+ months. (First phase was denial mode, as usual. How fool I was? I thought I would reunite with them someday.) But today, see what's the situation : I don't care at all !! Who on earth she was? So sometimes painful lessons are great. They are blessings in disguise.

Me too. I hate Samay Raina's face. But you'll find like-minded people here cz this forum is a bit more conscious than normal citizens.

You guys won't understand anything I'm strongly in favor of having kids (adopting them). Kids are great. And you don't even know how to debate? You can see only one point (population)? What about 1st and 5th point? Why don't you emphasize them? They are more important. I know what I know and I won't explain common sense to others. It's your job to clear your concepts. You guys write whatever crosses your mind. If you don't understand, it doesn't make any difference to my conceptual clarity, it can't shake it. I have contemplated everything for hours and days. No wonder why the world is so f up. Do live in a bubble please !!! @Leo Gura @Emerald @Hojo @Schizophonia @NewKidOnTheBlock Edit : I have posting limits. Cz I'm new here. So I can't post now.. "as humans with egos, most would want their children to be their own genetic offspring. " - yes, this is a sign of low wisdom and low humanity. Edit 2 : If population is decreasing. It's a good news. Won't explain how. So Birth rate should be less than Repl. rate.

Yes that's true. But I'm talking about the crowds. I'm talking about the industries and pollution. More population= more consumption= more industries = more pollution= more crowd= more traffic= ......... Americans shouldn't answer. I shouldn't have started the thread maybe.

@Emerald you americans won't understand. Let it go. I'm sorry for this. Did u take therapy?

Thanks for responding. You're right , but it applies to USA and developed countries only. Other countries have a pathetic condition. You have no idea about the mentality and lack of education of millions of people in such countries. I'm from India. India's estimated population is approximately 1.451 billion people, with a male population of about 748 million and a female population of around 703 million. 45 million girls are missing (female foeticide) from the population. Naturally male and female population is equal. When 3 Hindu girls are converted to Muslim, whole nation starts creating drama. And they don't see the 45 million that were murdered before birth. Sorry for digressing. It's necessary even in USA. the lesser the population is, the better. Bcz a human's life is full of suffering. An SA survivor wishes they had never been born in the first place.

I haven't gone through your posts much. Cz I'm new here. But reading some of your posts made me feel that way. That you have indian origins. I also know intuitively other things but I won't violate someone's privacy. I shouldn't have asked that question. Maybe.

Is Hindi your first language?

I also wanna recommend him to others. He has an English as well as Spanish, German, French channel too. He is not into hardcore philosophy and psychedelics like Leo does. But he teaches Vedant, Upanishads, Gita, etc. And is very wise. I have not seen his spirituality videos. But I have seen his personal dev and relationships related videos. They are amazing. He talks about feminism, climate change, population control, animal rights, etc.

Should we do 10,000 approaches before settling for a long term gf? If you sleep with a girl, what if she gets attached to you and doesn’t want to leave? Do we have the right to hurt someone's feelings in pickup ? If we don't want a serious relationship with them. ____________ Im from India, there are so many evil women who file fake rape cases like "sex on false promise of marriage". (Bcz of anger or greed) Even without evidence. And the legal system is pathetic. A guy's life gets fucked up. It's like murder. So how can we be safe in pickup? ____________ We can also find a long term gf and save a lot of time. We have other great things to do (like Science, Business ). What's wrong in it? ____________ Why do we need to master dating and female psychology through pickup? Where's the use of such experiences? What do we learn in pickup that we can't learn in a serious relationship?

You just have to argue. And not focus on the main issue. I'm afraid of any injustice that could happen to me. Reported your post for cursing me. Don't talk to me. I don't want advice from you.

Assume this definition and forget yours. For this topic. ChatGPT Game vs pickup In the context of dating or relationships, "game" and "pickup" have different connotations, even though they both deal with attracting romantic or sexual partners. Here's a breakdown: Game • Definition: Refers to the overall skills, confidence, and social ability someone has to connect with and attract others. • Focus: Building rapport, understanding social dynamics, and developing an authentic or charismatic personality. • Long-term: It often emphasizes improving oneself holistically (appearance, communication, mindset) to naturally attract others. • Example: Being able to hold a great conversation, read someone's body language, and make a genuine connection. Pickup • Definition: A more specific and often tactical approach to meeting and attracting someone, typically for short-term encounters. • Focus: Using specific techniques or lines to create attraction quickly. • Short-term: Often associated with one-night stands or casual flings, sometimes criticized for being manipulative. • Example: Using pre-rehearsed lines or routines to spark interest and escalate interaction. Key Difference: "Game" is broader and can be applied to different contexts, including long-term relationships, while "pickup" is narrower and often aimed at quick success.

I don't consume such content at all. Doing a fake case doesn't require her to be insane. She can look totally okay, and also do a fake case. How can you know always? Especially when you approach 10k girls and sleep with 100 ones. And you don't know about my country. You worldview is different. In India, judicial process is slow and you won't get bail in rape cases for years. (Good things also happen in judiciary, but we have to take the worst case scenario). Why? Let's say, I get into a serious relationship with someone I liked and learn about "relationship dynamics" over many years and make it a successful relationship ultimately. Then why 10k approaches? Why do I need to learn about all diverse types of women from the whole world? (Only reason I see is that.... female psychology is fascinating....... But sometimes it feels less important .....cz life is short.) That means we have the right to hurt someone's feelings in pickup? Why Leo promotes pickup (and doing 10k approaches)? Isn't pickup a selfish behaviour? If that girl doesn't understand it was casual, short term relnship. (Such cases WILL be there) Yes, pickup seems fascinating and cool to me too. But I don't want to do anything wrong to anyone. Don't misunderstand. I WAS talking about game. (It's different from pickup). When I said "long term serious relationship", I meant "relationship through GAME". It's game vs pickup. I'm not such a guy. I'm not afraid of anything. I'm single. But if I get into a relationship and discover sth is toxic, I won't tolerate for a second. ➕ Note : Nobody on the forum will debate my points unconsciously, I am already tired due to my previous threads. !!!!! Don't derail the thread. Focus on the main idea. Don't write if u have nothing useful to share. Debate it consciously. After contemplating.

I often put myself in others' shoes and I can understand this. Such feelings are valid and inevitable bcz of the kind of people we have. It's a sad reality. You don't have the option to upload images here? If not, why don't you use image embedding sites like postimages.org?

You can be a very emotional person and also mentally tough/aggressive at the same time. (I've experienced this.) Crying few times a week/month/year is important for releasing emotional burdens and maintaining sanity. The frequency depends on how much stress you create in your mind. It's okay to cry either privately or publicly, when overwhelmed. It isn't ugly at all. Some may do it privately bcz of shame. That's okay. Not only males, but females can also be ashamed of crying in front of others. It does look ugly when you become a victim or a weakling. When you get stuck in feminine softness, and sabotage yourself by not being hard. Every human should accept and express both masculine and feminine energies. "Men don't cry " is a social conditioning. Cause ancient societies valued men for their strength, protection, and ability to provide. Crying on the battlefield or showing emotions was associated with weakness. "Women cry more easily than men" This generally happens bcz of biological factors like hormonal differences and social norms that make it more acceptable for women to express emotions openly. That said, everyone’s emotional expression is unique and shaped by personal experiences and culture. So, while trends exist, there’s plenty of variation! Crying feels very good and releases a lot of load from our brain. It's perfectly okay if a man cries a lot due to emotional overwhelm, but behaves like a strong warrior too. And in today's world, battles are not always physical (in which men are far better than women). But mental too. Women also have to fight many battles. So you can't tell only men to not cry. It applies to women too. So that they don't forget the masculine energies in them.

Leo wrote the right things. Others who were arguing had misinterpreted what he meant. People get confused in words, and don't go beyond them. Whatever comes to their mind, they write it down without contemplating. He is not promoting toxic masculinity. Neither telling anyone to repress their emotions. It's very easy to misunderstand when the topic is very subtle. Pointless debates.

Is necromancy true? Is it possible to bring a dead person back to life? Is it possible in the realm of supernatural powers? I'm asking this question to advanced spiritual seekers or mystics. @Leo Gura I desperately want a dead person back to life.

Jan 1 ✓ Jan 2 ✓ Jan 3 ✓ After this one month challenge, I'll challenge myself to masturbate less frequently so that the quality (pleasure) of it increases when I do it.

I don't think so. Everything he wrote in this thread was from common sense. And I'm not biased. It was relatable. That's why I am saying this. I have understood very well what has happened in the whole thread and I'm out of this thread.

I'm gonna read them if it's worth reading and you have made it readable by formatting like bold underline etc. Great answer. I got it.

Agreed. I'm totally exhausted explaining things here. No one is hyper focusing on bio realities. No one is neglecting other things you mentioned. Go through my previous posts carefully. It's pure logic.

No she's not a psycho. She just looks ugly. She has everything, great character, etc. except good looks. Would you date her? Maybe you can.. Forget bombshells for a moment. Edit : Why don't we date the SAME SEX, no matter how great their character is? Why only OPPOSITE SEX? (Assume heterosexual case). ✅ Mods should not cuss. It looks very ugly. 😠

Agreed. I was attracted to an anonymous person online for their character. But I was attracted to my own image I created in my mind. Being attracted towards someone (biological) is different than appreciating someone. Biological attraction cannot happen seeing someone's character.

I'm self aware now, that's why I have written that. In love, you get mad, you deliberately ignore the reality.