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Hello, As I can see so far there are basically three things that helps with stuck emotions: 1) working with belives and understanding what's going on -> Results in a feeling of freedom from old belive (cognitive therapy with psychologist) 2) Radically leaving ones comfort zone and facing scary situations in life -> resulting in freedom because more trust and courage 3) Emotional releases -> resulting in an overwhelming energetic feeling which frees one from his stuck emotions Does anybody know when which strategy is the best and for what scenario? I See a lot of new age "spiritual men" getting stuck in introspection searching for triggers, getting more and more into a feminine frame, instead of actually getting strong and feeling capable in life. Being on his own mission etc. Maybe some of the other men have some experiences. So far opening up to all this emotional work feels unnatural to me. Thanks !

I mean I identify as a man and I see that as having a healthy ego foe example. Maybe letting bo and developing both is needed ?

How would that roadmap look like ? I am very aware off the basics you mention

In your video 9 Stages of ego development you said yourself that releasing emotions can heal lots of different diseases..

Hello, I have problems with a chronic condition. By trying to heal it I eventually stumbled upon spirituality and emotional healing. At first it was just more mainstream new age spirituality. Over time I got more and more knowledge identified some traps in spirituality and really understood that non duality is portably the hardest thing a person can pursue. I also realised that healing my "shadow" or emotional body is key to getting my health back. So for now I just try to do the emotional work. In that work there is of course already a lot of letting go. For myself I identified different categories. Personal development, emotional healing, spirituality (non duality), spirituality (being connected as an ego to a higher purpose etc), developing values, morals and ethics and lastly developing a life purpose. I now want to have more clarity on what I am actually doing right now? It feels like by working with my emotions more and getting more distance to for example to fear, I already went through some kind of awakening and it still continues. Is the emotional healing and personality development needed to actually go to higher levels ( enlightenment) ? Is what I am doing right now cleaning my ego from all the "bad" stuff and I create a healthy ego? I am in my mid 20s right now and heared opposite views on the context of enlithenmnet from @Leo Gura. In his FAQ2 he said that pursuing enlithnemnet early is the right way because it has immense benefits. In his video "250 Traps" he said he whished to not go so early in spirituality. He says going this path at the end of ones life is more natural. So I am a bit confused right now. It seems like a lot of people that healed that way made tremendous jumps regarding their spiritual progress. It seems like evolving spiritually is key to really letting go of one emotional baggage. On the other side I am thinking if aiming at getting a healthy ego first is the "better" goal for now. I had one LSD experience paired with reading hardcore non duality book right after. That crushed my worldview big time. It still has me a bit destabilised. I can see how much things can come up when you really go more and more meta. Is the some kind of order or roadmap for people in their mid to end 20s to how to navigate all these different topics? Thanks a lot !!

That’s exactly what happened/happens to me. I look at my surroundings and sometimes get the feeling of being „to present“. Like before I was imbedded into somekind of stories I viewed the world threw. But now it just seems to be me and this building for example. I am just here standing here. It is indeed a freaky feeling. I never knew what it was but your explanation hit the nail on the head ! I text you a PM.

Men in our society today are the most likely to feel compared to other societys in history . I would definitely say there is also biological factors at play. Men know intrinsically that showing weakness can cause less survival potential because of setting one self in a lower hirachy. So I believe its both.

yeah I agree. Just in connection to enlithentment it seems like you only need the feminin energy for that ?

Okey interesting. Would you say this lust for being authoritarian is coming from a lack or from a joy ? Because I can it feeling in me coming from a lack often. My question is, is that feeling if lack maybe needed for men to get to these authoritarian positions ?

sorry but to me that does not sounds healthy at all. I really hope you get your sexdrive back. Secondly I have the impression that you have to much of that post modern view that men and woman are only socialist in there differences. Tuff men are needed to have a harmony in a society. Harmonie can only exist because force and violence is concentrated on very specific areas. Like police and military. Also its a biological instinct for men to protect woman and not the other way around. Some roles are good the way they are.

Are you saying there is no differences in the genders ?

on one hand I get what you are saying on the other hand... Men have more masculine energy then woman. It seems like feminine energy gets idealised in that way

Yeah I 100% agree. The jedmcKenna reddit forum is full of toxic people. They may have a better grasp on non duality than the average spiritual seeker. But they completely deny mental suffering/physical suffering, different devolvement stages inside spirituality. The always go super meta and ask: "Who is the one suffering?" Like super unpractical. And I also see a lot of followers actually drown more in nihilism then spirituality. Becuase I read the book after my LSD trip it really took a big hit on me and I had these existential fears coming up. I also think obsessive thinking started to hook itself into that topic. I mostly solved it by one emotional release, declaring clear values for myself and understanding that there are different levels and stages (spiral dynamics video from Leo)

In a sense I get what you mean but on the other hand so far I needed to create a map in my mind which explains all the different kinds of teachings. It helped me understand what is going all. Leo also impacted me by understanding that there are different categories: emotional healing, personality development, spirituality, non duality. Can you tell me how to advance without any teaching ?

I thought one part of enlithendment is giving up all concepts to fully surrender. It seems like to me that this is a very hard challenge for most people but even harder for woman.