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Do people look strange at you if you date 20 year old as 50 year old? Because I'm in my 30'ies and I was dating this 18 year old and I saw older women look at me all the time. Most older women have big egos which make them a pain in the ass. At that point I realized the best way to get it is to destroy her ego (if she has a big ego which cute girls have most of the time) and it has only been uphill from that point.

I don’t think she gets it.

I think she left the forum because she got in an argument with Leo about something silly.

She has her problems 🤦‍♂️ ... I think she would do much better if she opened her self up to the masculine perspective

that is what I thought too, unfortunately some people try to ruin my thread

@Natasha Tori Maru I’m dating actually right now. I think you are projecting. You have a grudge towards masculine men for some reason. And you know why. And for some reason you are projecting it onto me to resolve something inside of yourself.

The masculine grudge towards feminine nature. I think if somebody has a grudge, it is palable, it doesn't matter if you are male or female.

So what is the proof of the pudding? I'm doing ok and I'm dating right now. @Valach to answer your question, red pill helped me because I only took the good stuff out of it. But I kind of outgrown it. Red pill isn't meant to linger in it. Especially it is sad if older men get stuck in it. Saying all of red pill is bad is throwing out the baby with the bath water. And it is also discounting the current masculinity grudge.

There is a grain of truth in it though. I think a new kind of pill should come out that takes the best of the material and leave out the toxic stuff.

I don't watch it. I come across it sometimes. That is not how attraction works. I like to play with SD green but also lower. Every type of development has it pro's and cons. I wouldn't say a SD green girl is always better than for example SD blue. I look at potential too and coachability. From my exp, a lot of SD green women have been around the block and have a lot emotional baggage. You can easily recognize them by the undertone "all men" and men need to do x and y. So what are you saying? You are saying open relationship is the only type of high cosncious relationship. You guys really need to drop these gimmicky words that don't mean anything. High consciousness is not a single metric to begin with.

One of my fears is getting old and having to deal with these types. Lock 'm in young guys. It is not getting easier. Or you have to be like 50 year old going for 25 year old but in that case you need to have your health, weath and spirituality in order.

it is just your thoughts, since body/mind is connected, they are not two separate things, so you can't be stuck in it. Mind and body are literally the same thing.

Relative self is the one you can observe versus the observer.

Development is not linear like that. So you can’t say if you are tier 2 than x and y, and you can’t have this or that trait because then you are not tier 2. How you should look at spiral dynamics is like a spine. And every vertebrae is a stage of development. Some vertebrae might be developed and other might not be. So my highest vertebrae might be SD yellow but I might be lacking some red, blue or orange etc. Ken Wilber does say that every person has center of gravity. That is basically your median. currently I’m integrating sd orange for a stable spiral spine so to say. This explains why you can be at a high stage and still have some problems like addiction, anger issues or other personality problems. For example when you lack discipline and you have addictions you might be in red and you need to anchor your red shadow to integrate it into blue.

That is purple