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It is a hard pill to swallow for ugly guys that looks do matter although it is not everything. I would say Owen Cook milks this situation as much by telling guys looks don´t matter while they do. Everybody is trying to milk guys one way or another. And from my experience you don´t even have to look that good. If you have average face, height and muscles you are ok. One doesn´t need plastic surgery or whatever. But it is totally understandable for guys who do it. A sad matriarchal world we live in. I don´t do online apps but if I would I would probably get depressed by the results. On those dating apps I can get a 4/5 while in real life I can get 8/9. Yesterday I had a 9 come over but I had to go to hell to win her over. On those apps if you look good you just say come over and they come over. That is what I understood from a typical good looking friend. I have friends who are ugly and good looking on the dating apps. Ugly ones get a date every couple of months with girls they don´t like. While the good looking ones get drowned in optionality. And women just put out on the first date to just get a chance with them.

Probably the best advice is to just be social and not aim for sex, because if you can't be social, you are probably weird because you are aiming too much to get something from her. They are focused on the wrong things. This is the consistent pattern with incels. I have couple of incel friends so I know their inner world. Can't tell a thristy man to stop being thristy. You just have to let him be and suffer. The other day I invted a friend, I invited him to go the beach but he didn't want to go because he hadn't shaved his back. I said nobody cares. But he cared because he wants to get a gf. This guy is bald and can't hold a conversation but he thinks shaving his back will get him a gf. He never had a gf. This shallow mindset is much more off putting than any body hair. But no way he gets it. Some people are just not meant to breed: 3/5 (60%) of all men did not reproduce, meaning only about 2/5 (40%) passed on their genes. By contrast, roughly 4/5 (80%) of all women successfully reproduced, resulting in modern humans being descended from twice as many unique female ancestors as male ancestors. Historcally most males didn't breed. And nature has good reasons for this.

When you need water , the right thing to do is not ignore your thirst because it will make things only worse. Getting a good job and such won’t get you a girl either. You just need somebody to show you where the water is. Because you have a lot of false beliefs about it.

@LordFall people who make those pics don't understand emotional intelligence and social intelligence tbh. Social intel builds upon emotiona intel. That is true. But purely stylistically social intelligence involves other people while emotional intelligence doesn't. And we were talking about picking the right partner which involves social intelligence. I think Brad missed that skill.

Emotional intelligence is an internal skill to regulate your body-mind and emotions in particular. Picking the right partner is more a social/cognitive skill. I.e dating people, take lessons out of it, changing mindset, chosing different kind of women to date. That is how I see it. I'm not looking for a long term relationship but I would I would fed for very specific things.

I already told you but you are not reading. He chose the wrong women.

Those are a lot of assumptions. You don't know the guy. Most marriages fail regardless if you are Brad or not. lmao.

@LordFall it was a figure of speech. Back in the day he was the gold standard though because all the girls wanted him. But obviously he had a bad taste in women. I mean Jolie? That woman looks like a Pitt bull with that jaw line. Wtf did he expect.

Finally somebody on my level

Because you are hitting on fundamentals like ontology and epistemology. Usually you talk about some weird niche thing. While most people just want to get the fundamentals down of philosophy, and thinking in general.

You two should get a room bro

miguel1, are you going to lecture him too?? I’m curious

So how would you rephrase what I said? I tried to explain it in the nicest way possible. By the way I get along with women ok now I understand how they work. Some guys treat women as they treat their male friends. That doesn’t work.

Relationships based on sex always fail. There are deep reasons for this but I won’t go into it. And it signals some other stuff too. It is a clear giveaway.

Wtf 😳

*Delulu intensifies* 🤣🤣🤣

I didn't say looks alone is enough. One is not going to get a girl while looking like a microwaved Brad Pitt, and be broke and have no game at the same time. So just being yourself is not enough.

If you are Brad Pitt you don't have to do anything to lock a woman in. But if you are not, you have to play with the toys god given you. So you either have to bring status or capital or the poor man's choice: romance aka story building. Greene talks about this extensively in his book Influence. You might want to look into it.

Just imagine you are a child and you have huge mood swings and much more fleeting states. And as a woman you are more prone to seek external safety and being embedded in the social matrix is much more important.

After reading this book (I haven’t finished it) but you will see that all problems are self made. Especially other people’s problems, dramas, and tragicomedies are self made and it can be clearly seen. Then I realized if other people’s problems are self made then my problems are self made too. And it is much more difficult to see my own bullshit. I couldn’t see through my own problems when I looked at my problems at “human time”. Humans don’t think on long term. Humans usually think in terms of days and weeks while some very successful people think in months and years while if you really want to see through shit you have to think in infinity. Every moment is infinity. The book until now is the book of not knowing 2.0 and it is very refreshing. Reading that book prior is necessary though. I tried to listen to the book but one really needs to put all of the attention of the book to get anything out of it.

You are getting everything ass backwards because you are not reading the books and not doing the work. So it is very tiresome to continually correct you because you are misunderstanding the points being made by the author. If you paid me 450 usd per hour I would gladly do it.

Pfff hahaahaha just stop

Inconsistent about what?

Only if you are a rookie