AION

This lesson in this whole ordeal is that you have to love yourself and try to not outsource it to your partner… But the whole thing about love is how can you give it to yourself when you don’t have it. It is like saying to a thirsty guy to stop being thirsty because it is working against his favor and he is scaring away the ladies. Love is an interesting thing though. It is not like water which is physical but it is metaphysical. Love is wisdom and it can’t be forced. It is spontaneous and it works in mysterious ways. Love can not be chased. If you let go of negativity it comes to you. It is metacognition.

@Emerald that is true. Lately I have been acting “normal” (less seeking and less over compensation) instead of seeking (trying to get validation and build self esteem) and girls treat me much better. It is in inside out approach instead of outside in. It is just very hard to let go of this compulsion. It is really sad actually: I would just run around town or nightclubs to find validation. But that is just a lot of men. Not just me. What would help me the most is find guys who already arrived where I want to arrive so I can soak up their mindset and being. Otherwise I become e pray for manosphere guys who are praying on me. Obviously not all women but women told me this in my face: I need a guy who could provide for me and my child. And my ex literally told me “if I had a baby could you provide for me and my child”? And she already knew the answer. Obviously finances play a role but obviously it is not everything. Perhaps I should be more clear next time.

I’m very left brain by nature. I guess I need to learn to activate my right brain which is holistic understanding and less black/white. I’m fine if you don’t want to marry a McDonald’s guy. But I think it should be allowed on this forum for the truth to be spoken so guys can up their game and not be mislead.

Good post. One of my pitfalls is black and white thinking so this post enlightened me.

My ex didn’t have big tits and ass but I still liked her for who she was.

So you are allowed to judge us and degrade us as you wish but when guys on the forum do it they are toxic and degenerate 🥲

A guy can actually marry a McDonald chick for who she is. A women can’t do that. We aren’t build the same. That is not judging. I kind of understand.

Wait. Women aren’t saints?

I’m just a human so I’m not pretending to possess saintly love 😅

How am I judging though ? I’m simply describing my first hand observations and what I hear from others.

Well that is your body telling you something. Wink wink.

There is a difference between religion and people. Most people don’t understand their own scripture. So how can they understand god, sex and relationships? Sex is not something to be shamed upon. But there is a certain ethic to it. If you misuse it you will pay for it. Good sex is transcendental and transformative. Bad sex is boring and will bog you down in hedonism and apathy.

I don’t get this thread. Relationships and especially sex can be used as a vehicle for spirituality and enlightenment. Basically all major religions are based around sex. And very effective methods are created like sexual transmutation. If I have to name 1 thing that transformed me the most is my gf and break up with her this years. Relationships and sex can only be a prison if you are addicted to it and enslaved to it; i.e when you make sex and girls your false god. I’m not above it though. Transcending your instincts are very hard. Perhaps it should be done on a later stage.

Only god can provide you with unconditional love. Finite things can only provide finite love. Men and women also love differently I found out because men and women peak at a different age and this influences their behavior. There is a business side to love. The business of survival and procreation. For people who are not in this game their genes won’t survive anyway. I would never discuss this with a woman. My aim is to understand. Not judge.

Not wanting truth is truth too

Kill your outdated ideas. Not your physical body.

AI can be your enemy or ally. It is up to you.

What do you mean?

It is apparent that this card house (paradigm of being engineer) is going to crash sooner or later. The thing is you can resist and delay it or just let it tumble down and build something on solid foundations. If you resist you will waste time and energy and when things crumble you will be so devastated that you won’t have the mentality to build something new because you will be overwhelmed by your paradigm being shattered. Being able to shift from paradigms is crucial. But some people will just be beaten out of old paradigms and into new paradigms. God is all merciful and merciless depending on the person. Hard headedness which Arab cultured people have is usually problematic and can cause a lot of suffering. I know an Arab engineering friend who is in the same boat. He is open for advice but is not following any advice.

The whole thing with life is that you need to find “games” that you are good at. And play with the toys (talents) you are dealt with. God has a plan for you if you stop your resistance. It’s will is good, acceptable and perfect.

This is what I found out: It is well known that men think with their dick if they are thirsty. This is our Achilles heel and women can exploit our weakness. The female equivalent to this is social validation. If you can itch that knob you can get a way with a lot. Girls are a sucker for power. They say men want power but this is wrong. We just want pussy. It is women who want power and that is why men want power; to secure that pussy. And social power is more powerful than physical power. Although if you are physically strong that might be a plus too. If you are social power your physical strength don’t even matter.

She broke up with me because I’m broke and I got too much attached to her. To the point that I wanted her more than she wanted me to. In the beginning it was the other way around. I really want her back and I invite her to places and she doesn’t want to go but thanks me for the offer. And I call her and she acts cold. It is really hard to under women. one basically has to act like we don’t want them while we want them. I’m afraid she will go back to her ex if I don’t make moves. The thing is she is very feminine and doesn’t make first moves. So basically if I want her back I have to do the moves.

When somebody responds to me I don’t get notifications in my center.

You shouldn’t want her more than she wants you. If you do you will repulse her. It is about attraction (she wanting you) versus repulsion (you wanting her). Attraction and seduction is the art of wanting you more than you wanting her. So you got to calibrate your desire and not put all your cards on the table. Preferably you shouldn’t even plan this shit it. It is about feeling it out. Not thinking it out.

Night game is so super social. I did a lot of observation and I found out that good looks play a big role in night game. Last week I was with a friend and we had the same vibe just self entertaining at the corner of a night club. Two girls came to her and one started talking to him and the other girl just stood there and didn’t talk to me. My friend is a little younger and looks better. The thing is that your race and your appearance is major during night game. During day game girls are less ruthless. Not all girls go out. You can meet good girls during the day. If you are a nice guy you will actually get a chance if you talk to girls during the day. At night you really need to let go of this nice guy syndrome otherwise you will be shat out ruthlessly. I was more kind of a day game guy but just running around town looking for targets is kind of weird and time draining. And lately my state is messed up because of depression and fuck ups. I’m starting to appreciate night game more. What is your experience?