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Ok, I agree with what he said here but not completely -- because attractiveness or not attractive is very subjective. You heard of the saying, "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." For example, some ladies may find Leo attractive, and some may not. Also, ultimately, in a relationship, your appearance doesn't count, it's who you are that matters. But, let me tell you something here that have not been mentioned. We all know that money doesn't buy happiness. The same is true for a relationship. A relationship doesn't buy happiness. Do you know what this means? You can't really fully commit to anyone but yourself. You can't really fully commit to a job -- you're actually committing to yourself. In other words, even when you're in a relationship, ultimately, you got to go back and commit to yourself, and your partner has to do the same. That is the basis for a strong relationship. Think deeply on this and try not to misunderstand. I'm really trying to tell you something here. Anyway, another point I want to make is, I would strongly encourage someone like you to go for your life purpose. I said this in your journal already. That is how you'll find yourself. Since you already mentioned that you're going for a master's degree in teaching and love martial arts, why not teach martial arts for a life purpose, for starters? You can refine and make this deeper later on. I have to caution you here. Whatever I say or anyone else says in the forum or anywhere are only tips. You, ultimately, will have to pick and choose what and how to apply it into your life wisely. Don't just hastily apply it. Think carefully about it.

You have not answered my question on your previous thread. Question: Do you know what Leo is talking about here? If you can answer the question, are you able to apply it to your personal life?

I love travelling, especially immigration. I spent 7 yrs in India. That's what helped me find my life purpose. And, after I found it, I connected that to spirituality when I saw Leo's clips -- long story. I couldn't have done all that if I did not travel. I'm glad to hear that you're going to Thailand and Amsterdam in your journal. Btw, about your boyfriend, did you meet him at work? Is he the one that you mentioned in your thread, "Getting Further with a Crush?" If so, that's so cute!

I used to fall off of schedule / routine like that until I found my life purpose. I still exercise and eat right, but I'm not as routine as I used to be. I try to be free and let go. Life purpose is something I do on my free time because I gravitate toward it. I also gravitate toward exercise daily, but it's not rigid. Try looking at some of his clips: This may help. If you want to look at the example of my life purpose, here it is. You may follow the links.

A talented / gifted psychiatrist, Dr. Brian Weiss, decided to use his practice of psychology and gift of hypnosis on a patient named Catherine. To his surprise, as a result, these entities called Masters appeared before Catherine and through her as a channel, Catherine revealed many secrets of life and death. Who are these Masters? (Interesting question.) This goes into parapsychology. The thing that I believe I learned from this book is, when a person has a gift, either talented or blessed with something or figured out one's mastery and using it very well in one's life, one would have to figure out a way to be very humble about it in some way or the other, and use it to benefit all. After all, all is you. Otherwise, it would only be vain glory that fuels the ego, which is unhealthy in different aspects.

You know, it's interesting that it all boils down to this answer all the time. Everything has already been said and done. We are everything already. We are at peace no matter what. The result/conclusion/answer is already this. What it appears to be is, we "rode something backwards" in "time phenomenon" and we are in this "earth phenomenon" as "separate entities/ego" having only an experience -- wishing that everything returned back to "normal" into "everythingness/peace." Well, so far, from what I know, we do have a choice. We are living in a world of abundance. We already talked about "karma." How are you going to impact the "everythingness" that you are living in right now? How are you going to impact others? This may take you into the direction/experience that you want to go.

Your intuition is correct. Friends like that could get you into big trouble for no reason. It's not worth the trouble. He's not letting you see the entire picture, just his side of the story. Hmm..later, I'll also be wondering, how did I attract such a friend into my life in the first place?

Good topic. Think of life as a virtual TV and you're in it. That's why you don't need all the other gadgets to be the main objective in your life. You may use these gadgets as tools to get a piece of work done, and then go out to enjoy the smell of flowers and nature.

I've seen quite a few posts here saying this. Yes, I agree that rep points do help a lot in certain ways. However, if you are looking for very nuanced info, this may not help at all.

It's a moment of peace that you can "enjoy" and take advantage of it. If you know your calling, work on that. It can lead to more awakenings.

@iluminado Thanks for sharing. Read the guidelines. We don't do nonsense debates.

Enough of debates.

@Shir Do you watch Leo's videos on relationships? Tbh, I think this is the best one: I know it takes work to understand this. I've been married for almost 20 yrs, so it does make sense to me -- what Leo is saying in this clip. In other words, no matter how you make of it, any relationship will turn out like this, more or less, if it's a "happy" / functional one. You got to be "married to yourself" first.

@Hardkill You work really hard, and that's awesome. I'm wondering if you understand what Leo is talking about here:

If a yogi is enlightened, he will know the difference between the paranormal and enlightenment. He would contribute to the fact that all is one, and that everything is him. He would live his life this way by going in this direction.

I dunno. It didn't sound like she was talking about an "asexual" guy. It sounded like she wanted someone who matches her values. Values are deep. To get an exact match takes careful work, and also, don't let anyone put you down or take advantage of you just because you have different core values from them. Some other thoughts came to my mind: they're called "asexuals?" That's interesting. Gotta look that up - the definition. Still, if you're planning a marriage, make sure you know what it takes to be in a successful / first time / lifelong marriage. It would help to know real couples who are in a committed marriage. And then, you brought up understanding spirituality. Make sure this guy is radically open-minded so he could grow spiritually with you, or at least open-minded enough to listen.

Those guys are very rare in the world. I recommend that you work on yourself, discover your life purpose, find out about spirituality, connect the two together, and maybe perhaps along this journey, you will meet a match. Remember that no one has the answer to your questions. Anyone can only give tips. It's up to you to do careful research and take careful, efficient action on it. If you could find a match like that, it would be well worth the journey. After getting married, most things are not about sex. It's about growing together lifelong, making compromises, and not calling it quits on each other. There will be good times, of course, but are you up for the challenges when it comes?

If you say that a career is challenging because of dealing with all kinds of people, I could relate to that. That challenge will always be there. I would highly recommend that you let go of that at the end of the day and cherish that moment as peace. Are you doing a life purpose? That opens doors if you plan it carefully as you go along. After finding my life purpose, I changed my career and found a career that matches my life purpose. The journey of a life purpose doesn’t end, it continues forever. You are better able to control how it goes than a job or career because eventually you'll be working for yourself. When you get home from work, after that moment of peace, you may start this journey. You don't have to rush into it. Take notes. Take your time. Lots of good info on the forum if you search for it.

This thread has more than enough useful info that lead in different directions.

Read it a different way. Why are you dating gals that want a stable relationship to being interested in getting married? Obviously, they are not interested in casual sex. That's all I'm saying. I don't know the solution to your problem if you only want casual sex. I agree with @Omni 's last two paragraphs to what he posted. If you don't understand what he's saying, are you going to do self-inquiry on it? If not, this is not helping.

I'm surprised you're asking me. I mean, you did mention that your mom & dad are happily married. I thought you would learn from them. Usually, (from my observation), the children grow up learning from their parents. And, you're already 30. You do need to be stable to get married -- stable job (at least) and mentally stable. But then, from reading your posts, you don't sound like you're headed in that direction.

I was talking about different ppl have different values/boundaries here.