Key Elements

@Elisabeth I'm learning something when I read your post. Great post, btw. And, that is resistance. That is probably the thing right now that has to be slowly introduced into my awareness. See, I know what's my next step, and I slowly have to take action on it, and find out to see how it goes for me. I should not think too far into the future. My next step, baby step, is just to make a video of myself on my new phone camera. That's it. It doesn't matter if I make mistakes. I could always learn from them. But, I find myself doing other things during the day and not getting to this -- resistance. Ok, our days are busy. We do other stuff. So, I just played around with it. And, slowly but gradually I'll learn how to use it and post it on my website. You could use the same idea to take your next baby step gradually. So, in other words, if I was getting my PhD, and feel reluctant and resistance to do so because I find it not my cup of tea anymore, then, I suppose my next baby step would be making a few phone calls to ppl I know or looking online for opportunities for a job I'm qualified for or interested in. Do I really want to be Dr. Elisabeth? I would ask myself. Am I trying to prove myself to anyone? Probably not. I used to want a PhD when I was growing up. For me, the life purpose is what I really want. I try to make room for that.

@egoless We had a discussion here. Try to just start solving problems and you'll get paid for it. Don't even think of the money and being paid. Just try to do something useful, like finding a job if you need to survive on your own. But, start something useful for solving problems. You got to take some actions and learn from the mistakes and keep going.

By profession I'm a bilingual teacher. I didn't learn teaching through books. I picked it up through practice. The thing that helped me before I taught in a classroom was a public speaking class in my university. When I joined networking, I saw a lot of startups (businesses looking for funding) pitching (business term for public speaking).

You're welcome.

No I'm not. You could still post. I just wanted you to get authentic, honest, good answers. And, of course, take actions on those answers. For your urges, you could try asking ppl on the forum about NoFap. Here is the NoFap thread.

Of course, but like she said in the video clip, it won't come right away. It takes trial and error to reach what you really want to do with your life (mastery + life purpose). You still have to work to survive along the way.

@Amit I just listened to this interesting speech. At the end, she just said to solve any problem that you're interested in. Or, just start to solve any problems. Yes, it made sense to me.

@Hardkill Ok... I am not going to sugar-coat this anymore, ok? Let me be honest here. If we can't be honest, we can't arrive at any good conclusions for you. According to your past posts and threads, to sum it up, this is what you said to us of who you are: -You are suffering from Asperger's. -You are looking for a hot girl. According to your posts, the hot girl doesn't have Asperger's. And, you want a short term relationship with her or casual sex. -You are 30 yrs old and still depend on your parents. Listen, I'm only saying this to wish you the best, but you really have work on yourself. Because it looks like you're setting yourself too high of a standard. You really got to be looking in these areas: job, career, life purpose, and being honest with your mom, if that helps. Have you watched Leo's video on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and understand it fully? I mean fully? You also got to learn how to accept rejection and learn from it without getting emotional.

This is how I discovered mine. I try to pick something that I'm interested in and also, it should help me survive. Anything worthwhile always takes skills and mastery.

As long as there is great communication that includes honesty, acceptance, and being non-quitters, there is no stopping the couple from being together in a lasting relationship. It will not matter what type of couple you are. What Leo is saying here is a basis for an interdependent relationship:

Yes, that's correct. If Maslow is referring to sex as a need, that is only a need to reproduce the human species.

@SFRL I did not say that. Read it again. I said that understanding the opposite gender is in the higher tier. I'm not just talking about sex. Read carefully and stop talking about mods. You are assuming what I said and going way off topic.

#1. I can't tell you what you can and cannot do. No one can. You got to figure it out for yourself. What I said in my post is only a tip of what I noticed according to what you said. #2. I doubt cold approach is going to be outlawed in the US. That's too extreme. But, be careful when you cold approach because a lot of women don't like it.

Did you watch Leo's video on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs? This is what happens when your more basic needs are completely ignored. In your case they are: job, career, and life purpose. And then, you want to get good at understanding the opposite gender. The result is unnessary over worrying and over thinking.

I know you had great influence on us in different areas. We appreciate that. That itself is philanthropy. However, what is a person to do after he/she becomes a full fledged entrepreneur through the life purpose and parked the money in real estate? Philanthropist. It's good to know this because ppl do become "slugs" if they don't. I got that term "slug" from your motivational video. I know you heard of the term "spoiled rich kids." That's what happens to someone if they don't know the next stage in life. Non-duality is only at the tippy-top of Maslow's. That map is correct. Not everyone is ready for the tippy-top. Non-duality / enlightenment / riding the ox backwards only comes in a flash. Then, it's back to work on earth. Life is a school, Leo. You said that in your blog somewhere. You can experience life being a school as a spiritual experience. You got to graduate from this school properly otherwise you may have to repeat it. Duality is non-duality. Things in duality count heavily. Much work is needed here on earth to reduce suffering. Imagine being a philanthropist of some kind and you live in an area where the laws are unjust. You could gather a team of lawyer/philanthropists and sue the gov. Did you know England got rid of slavery that way? By just a change of law? Interesting story. They didn't have to sacrifice lives for a civil war. Why do you want to be a cave style yogi, Leo?

Sometimes when you teach something, you do believe in it, but you don't embody it. It's a lifelong journey and a learning experience to try to embody something. It changes you for the better and grows you. I'm going through my life purpose, and I could definitely tell you from my experience that the work is like this. It seems that way for Leo too as he tries to embody what he is saying to everyone on actualized.org.

I think a person who is into truth and the absolute will not even bother about who is "young" with "great hair" and "big eyes." The person won't even give it a thought. It's all based on society and the subjective opinions of others. There are much better things to focus on in life. For example, monks and gurus are pretty much into truth. They either shave all their hair off or grow their hair long. They wear robes. I don't see them wanting a certain style to be stylish for anyone. They know that ego (self) is just fiction.

@Shin @Sevi You're welcome.

@Shin This lady wrote a book on relationships. And she also talks about it...

If it happens, you can choose to leave it. And do other work. I find too many relationships a distraction. I remember Leo saying in one of his relationship clip, if you are in the wrong/abusive relationship, you could just get in your car and take off. That's the end of it. Same goes for if you find yourself in an open relationship and you don't like it. You could become free/single, just like that. The only thing is, it takes a lot of work on your part to get to that level. Learn to leave unwanted / dishonest relationships with celebration. Open relationships and polygamist relationships are also according to society's standards -- the "other" society's standards. It could be peer pressure too -- to look cool and popular cause I'm getting laid, or whatever the reason. It's all made up definitions on what is "good" and what is "bad."

Ok, then. All I'm saying is that humans choose. We have choice. Simple.

Interesting Shin... By whose definition? The word 'definition' is man-made, just like a laptop. Even when two ppl are married and have a marriage certificate to prove it, are they really married? No. Not according to nature. Why then do some ppl choose to stay together without 'cheating' or having an open relationship? Is that wrong? No. It's choice. We get to choose. Not everyone is the same. We have choice. Humans can go beyond the animal instinct.

Leo said a lot of things and not just this. The break off point doesn’t have to be at age 40. And also, life isn't just about sex. You seem to be too focused on it according to your posts/threads. I would really encourage you to look into what he said here: Just a note: sex can come with a lot of consequences and responsibilities. If I was in your situation, I would be more focused on job/career/life purpose. You already have some skills that you could use: getting a master's in teaching & martial arts. Why not teach martial arts?